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(60 Posts)
zzzzz Sun 30-Dec-12 00:47:16

I know there must be others of you who find some of the views expressed on the main boards about our children really bruising.

I want to say how impressed I am with you all. You take no shit, and you are funny and human in the face of extreme provocation.

I have been having a bit of a sniff about it but "Tolerance is...." has caught m imagination.

Honk honk my dears.

sickofsocalledexperts Sun 30-Dec-12 20:25:42

No buggy is stupid rule! That area is made for wheelchairs so surely buggy too!

StarOfLightMcKings3 Sun 30-Dec-12 20:28:43

I think it's complex because it is about context. That dad might have been threatening a smacked bum as the only thing he thought he coukd do to appease the judgies. I know sometimes the difference in my ability to parent and manage design a socially acceptable way can be affected by the actions and reactions of the people around and onlookers. Perhaps the boy has behaved well at other non-panto productions. That's what I mean by complex.

eggandcress Sun 30-Dec-12 20:29:39

I feel empowered by some of the parents on that thread - I am going to be more assertive and take ds to more stuff as I think his life is too empty

(one trip to the cinema and its gone to my head!)

sickofsocalledexperts Sun 30-Dec-12 20:34:18

It is funny: I had made a point of always going to cinema showings that would be really empty (eg 11am on a Tuesday) but the other week, through a combination if circs, we ended up at a PACKED 4 pm middle-of-the-holidays performance. And do you know what I discovered?

ALL the kids are noisy, running around and behaving badly. We actually hardly stuck out at all, albeit we were sitting in that nice disabled bit so the constant chair bouncing didn't register.

mymatemax Sun 30-Dec-12 20:37:40

ds2 is usually only disturbing others when he is updet himself so removing him from the situation is usually needed to calm him anyway.
The thing is now he is much bigger unless he is in his w/chair moving him when distressed is just not an option, we just have to sit with him & ride it out.
I do try not to let him disturb others enjoyment, particularly if at an event aimed at adults or needing more concentration.
But at a family or child event I try to let him just be himself.

I do believe there just needs to be more consideration from all to make life more inclusive for all.

eggandcress Sun 30-Dec-12 20:38:04

Yes I thought that too - the other kids just talked in normal voices, not in whispers

zzzzz Sun 30-Dec-12 21:08:46

smile drunk on a cinema trip!

Only on mn sn would we all really get that.

I feel like ignoring my large white pulpy body and extreme eau de house wife and shouting "you go girl" grin

eggandcress Sun 30-Dec-12 21:21:53

Thank you zzzzz

I think I will be a "go girl"

I am emancipated!

Thinking of lists of places he could go

Pixel Sun 30-Dec-12 22:14:14

I've been to quite a few autism friendly cinema screenings and tbh I find them more peaceful than the normal ones. Maybe I've only been to ones with non-verbal kids like ds grin.

I was going to comment on that other thread that I'm Jolly glad we have tried to 'moderate' ds's behaviour. I dread to think what our lives would be like now he's nearly as big as me, if he was still behaving as he did as a toddler. People were getting quite stroppy forceful though and I chickened out blush.
I can see both sides of the argument. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect people to be understanding about a small amount of flapping etc but I would be there doing my best to minimize the disruption not sitting in another row entirely and trying to threaten instruct from afar!

I still don't understand why no-one just asked the parents to move him back.,

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