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Well, it's Friday *wearily waves flag and hoots party blower*(62 Posts)
DS2 started the week with a bug and DS1's finished the week with one. Had to call DH home from work to scrape DS1 off the pavement again, last night - only this time he parked the car at home and made him walk. After an hour standing out in the wind, DS2 and I just sobbed together when we got home.
I did a beginner's Makaton course earlier, this week. Very intensive and good fun. I feel a lot more confident with using some signs with DS2, now, though, and reading the course books seems to have cured DS1 of his Disapproval. He no longer yells at me for signing. (I'm still not allowed to refer to DS2 in the 3rd person when I'm talking to him, talk to him in a "high voice," say "all gone" or myriad other things, though - once less thing to get shouted at for still aint bad)
Baileys all the way for me tonight. Some very dodgy moments with school this week. Proud of myself for holding it together and keeping some dignity. Pizza would be good tonight too!
We have had quite a quiet week.
Dd3 is tired and still struggling with her literacy teacher and the bonkers homework.
She is going to an activity day tomorrow, my friends Dd is going with her as a buddy. This is a first for Dd3, usually i go with her or a close friend so fingers crossed. The lady running the day is fab and knows Dd3 well so she should be fine.
I am still struggling at work and have had to face the reality that we may have to exclude one of my Key group children of we cant modify his behaviour, this is something we have never done before and it goes against the grain but we have to ensure the safety of the other children
Hope everyone else is ok
DD has spent all week at home with a chest infection. Fourth one this year, so not good. I think that the prophylaxis antibiotics are starting to become resistant. Bugger. Just back from GOSH where we saw her max fax surgeon. Not the surgery we were planning but a rebuild of both her joints on her jaw. At least no screws to turn for two weeks this time.
DS1 had his colour overlays picked last night and then forgot to take them to school. I can see this brave new world of Dyslexia will take some adjustment for all of us!
Grateful that we didn't get flooded or caught in strong winds. Hope that you all managed to keep dry. More to come this weekend apparently!
Too early for wine, but I have a bottle chilling ready for once the DC are safely upstairs.
Well DD2 has done 3 days at school. She said that she asked her teacher to go home yesterday, but her teacher said 'no you can't.' When I asked the teacher, she said 'no, DD2 said she missed Mummy.' I think it's that 'theory of mind' business...DD2 knew she wanted to go home, so she thought her teacher would know.
Pass me a bucket of wine and a straw and I will sit quietly in the corner.
Fuck of a week. Getting fed up with EOTAS tutors in the house and nagging me. DS1 is displaying signs of increasing anxiety in multiple ways - none of them good. Report from SALT team leader called in by the school for DS2 following multiple assessments and observations is Speech, Language and Communication Need - not a diagnosis but identification of primary need for statementing purposes . I feel I have overlooked him with all the crap surrounding DS1 - I need a 'guilt' emoticon.
Hope at least some of you have had a good week
Oh and read my threads on whether expected progress is less for SEN kids and also is this discriminatory. At least I can obsess about this injustice to get a break from obsessing about my boys.
Been quiet here this week on the western school front.
DH told me that he has to go on a business trip abroad in January for a week - a PITA all round really particularly if the weather at that time of year was as bad as it was here last year. I don't receive much, if any, wider support from family besides which last time the weather was too bad for anyone to safely visit. I felt very alone that week. It was warmer in N America than here!. Note to self - do ask him to leave me easy access to the spade!.
One of the relations who I actually think an awful lot of (and that is not many of them) is looking at having open heart surgery if fit enough.
Its only 4 weeks now till the end of term. Will be glad to be away for Christmas all told!.
Sorry to be even more depressing but my cousin died on Tuesday - kidney failure following a paracetamol overdose. Like I said, fuck of a week and I don't care if it is too early for my ready chilled wine.
Sounds like a bit of a mixed week for you all. already opened here.
<passes bucket to Keepon>
Took DS2 to the doctor on Tuesday for another chest infection. They are now talking about asthma. So he's on blue inhaler, brown inhaler, steroid tablets and antibiotics. All of which had to passed on to dickhead this weekend along with copious notes.
Dickhead has bought a puppy with his OW.
He used to hate dogs. I just hope DS2's asthma isn't triggered by pet dander like mine is...
Oh, crossed with you, KeepOn. That's just terrible.
this week has been the sick of sickness. I havent lef tthe house apart from 3 school runs since saturday. Had a nasty flu bug and when i started to feel better dd1 came down with it.
I have been impressed with her school who met her at the door (normally they are collected from playground by teacher) knowing time off means struggling to resettle, texts to tell her what is happening incase shes back and there are changes.
I have applied for a new job!! i finally feel like the girls are settled well enough for me to take on more than my current 3 hours a week.
DD2 got in trouble with the head for refusing to do as she was told and also she laughed in teachers face
I have found the girls a private swim tutor.
we are off to see premier of tinklebell movie in 3d tomorrow
Thanks ellen - one of the reasons for the bucket - sometimes not even a vase will do.
Sounds like we've all had blah weeks at best
I think my Christmas stash is going to be further depleted, this evening. May have to buy some more, at this rate.
I'll put a whole case out. next to the tissues and crisps. KeepOn there's some white in there, too. Sounds like you need it
I'm off to feed this crowd. Fish feet and oven chips. Friday's culinary adventure.
(((Hugs))) KeepOn.... quiet week here... I have been ducking multiple Xmas participatory
crap activities at school (keeping school at arms length is my new essential strategy) but the kids don't seem bothered... I almost had a total meltdown about dd1's homework-at-nine-thirty (where have my evenings gone?????????) but otherwise all quiet on the western front. dd2 has been mostly on an even keel, although there is still Brownies to get through... Then it's Thai takeaway (despite being broke) and bottles of Becks for me. Work tomorrow. For a Friday I am surprisingly zen.....
It's been a stressy week here too. DH & I are struggling in our relationship, DH's depression has gotten worse again, DS2 is really struggling with his behaviour (loads more verbal tics or stims and starting to run off/not listen at school) and DS3 has been ill with high fever.
I'm going out for a couple hours tonight, even though everything's up in the air. I feel a bit guilty going out while DS3 is ill, but his temp is low-grade now, and he's had Nurofen. I'm just around the corner, so a 5 minute walk home - DH can ring me if there's a problem after bedtime. It's really the only time I can get out on my own - after DS3 is in bed, and DS2 is ready for bed - as DH cannot cope with them both when they're both awake. I need to get out for a short time, as the stress is mounting up and unbelievable right now.
Although we're putting up the Christmas tree this weekend... and DS2 (and DS3) have finally decided they love eggy bread (after repeated refusals on previous occasions)... so at least a few good things.
<grabs wine, gin, chocolate, cake and anything else that might be on offer> <stuffs the lot down in one go>
WARNING RANT ALERT!
Most of you already know how horrible things are at the moment and just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, ds1 came out of school today and collapsed in a sobbing heap into my arms. He had been publicly humiliated and shouted at by the same bloody supply teacher we complained about earlier in the year. A new mini passport was created precisely to stop it happening again - it was there in front of her and yet she still chose to scream 'SHUT UP!' at my ds when he wanted to contribute to the topic and had sat patiently with his hand up being ignored for the whole lesson. All he had said was, "It is relevant" because she was about to change topic and he was really excited to be able to contribute a fact to something they were learning about (which was pretty obscure and unlikely many children would know anything about).
He then sat there trying to hold himself together, but shaking with silent tears falling and she rounded on him saying "ds1, don't be so pathetic, you are year 6 now - don't you think you should have matured by now." He put his hand down and and he told me he could feel his mouth trembling uncontrollably and felt a pain shoot through his body, so he put his hand down and sat there desperately trying to hold it together with a horrible mix of fear, upset and anger, unable to do anything about it.
Then as a final kick in the guts she shouted at him again for sitting in one of the positions he is allowed to sit in (as agreed in his statement).
He said he is so embarrassed and humiliated that he doesn't think he can ever get over it.
I have had to lock myself in the kitchen and sob away from him, so he doesn't think he's upset me by telling me. Ended up calling my Mum who's on holiday, as I desperately needed to talk to someone and not only is dh not much help at the moment, he also left his mobile phone at home today.
Since the complaint about the TA and CT on Monday I have been scared to go to the school, have had filthy looks off staff members and failed to deliver a reply slip because I couldn't face going into the office - so I sat there shaking and feeling felt sick knowing I had no choice but to phone again straight away and complain.
SENCO did the usual 'that's totally unacceptable' thing, but then said she couldn't say anymore until they'd spoken to the teacher, but as she's supply that could take a while and the school wouldn't respond until then. This was in response to me starting the conversation by pointing out that they hadn't had the courtesy to get back to me after Monday's complaint, not even an apology - nothing. She tried to tell me the school's response to Monday's complaint was the meeting we are planning - but as it's been planned and organised by me and the head of inclusion it can hardly be the school's response. Not to mention that meeting is not going to tell me what action is being taken to deal with the totally unprofessional behaviour of certain staff members nor is it an apology to us or our son for their treatment of him.
She went on and on about how she w/couldn't say anything else on the subject until she's spoken to the teacher involved and how she is rarely in the school so didn't know how long it would be and they needed both sides etc. To which I pointed out that, as it was a public humiliation, there are actually a class full of witnesses to choose from, so they could easily verify ds's story - not that he would lie - as both of this week's incidents have been related to me verbatim.
I also told her that we cannot continue to send our son to the school and allowing him to be exposed to this sort of thing and it's reaching the point where we will have no choice but to pull him out.
Am starting to calm down now I have typed this out - but am still shaking with anger.
Oh - and dd spent all last night throwing up, a trick she kindly started at the dinner table. Dh was really late home due to the storm and by the time he got back I had neat bleached the whole of the kitchen floor, the table and all the chairs whilst simultaneously soothing her brow and emptying her sick bowl. (Ds1 is quite OCD about germs and took the throwing up badly, so I ended up with him stuck in the bathroom refusing to come out till everything had been bleached. Then of course when it was bleached he was convinced he would burn his feet if he walked on the floor. <sigh>) She's been curled up on the sofa on top of me all day with a raging temperature and needed to be carried, by her limping not very mobile mother to and from the toilet, as well as pushed in the pushchair on the school-runs, so that meant one crutch rather than two and my foot is now agony again.
It also means we might not be going away after all, which might not be a bad thing, as ds1 was crying about that this morning as well, because he doesn't want me to go.
<more wine, more gin, more chocolate etc etc etc>
Crossposted with everyone - sorry. Will go back and read after the dcs let me have the laptop back after Binweevil time.
Keepon I did just catch sight of your post. I am so sorry, that's really sad. ((hugs))
tough week here, and to finish it off perfectly, Bee took a header down the stairs onto a ceramic tile floor this morning. She is OK, but mangled her cute little face.
Guess I should be happy I had already cancelled the family photos we were supposed to have taken today due to a pair of sick DCs.
Honks and (((((hugs))))) all round I think
So many crappy weeks
Mine has been mixed. On Monday ds told me that he now really enjoys school swimming as his TA is now teaching him and she is in the pool with him. This was the third weeks of this new arrangement. He doesn't tell me much at all but finally told me he has basically spent 2 years of school swimming lessons being bullied by some vile swim teacher So am adding that to my list for when I finally see the teacher and Senco.
On Wednesday we had the awful flooding. I spent some of the day directing traffic and was in shot on the local news which ds thought was fantastic 4 of my immediate neighbours were flooded and, whilst I've seen plenty of news footage of flood victims it is really quite heartbreaking to see it for real.
I so hope next week is better for everyone
<waves> I keep missing the Friday night thread.
Looks like I need to go and order a new case of [wine.]
I've found some chocolate for anyone not on the wine yet - and a good strong in my teapot.
Keepon I so sorry about the loss of your cousin - very sad.
And so many others who have had bad weeks Moose you really have had a bucketful this week.
Sally about the antibiotics. It is so frustrating when something that was working stops.
Beemom about Bee's face. Hope she recovers soon.
Not sure I can lighten the mood. I've been preparing for Ds's AR the one at which 6th form provision is decided. There is nothing like looking through old paperwork for reviving misery and anger. It is also in a mess so I have had to do a lot of sorting. I've been spoiled because his present school have been so good. I just have to phone the head of his unit and it gets sorted.
Main problem this week has been Dd. She has developed severe joint pains as a side effect of taking roccutane for acne. Saw the dermatologist on Monday who took her off it but was a bit brusque with various concerns I had. Saw GP today who prescribed massive doses of paracetamol and ibuprofen and told her to mobilise. She hasn't missed any school and school have made adjustments without any fuss, but she is exhausted (asleep on the sofa as we speak) and is missing out on all her activities - drama, ballet even serving in church as she can't get up steps carrying a candle.
Poltergoose hope you are not in danger of flooding yourselves.
I have just returned and read the thread, although have to admit to not having retained much.
From what I have retained it sounds like ((hugs)) <gin> and chocolate are required extensively this week.
Honestly, what on earth is going on? Everybody I speak to at the moment is having to deal with far too much crap.
I'm with Attila - roll on the Christmas holidays - I could really do with two weeks away from all the school crap around about now.
Off again now, dh is just finishing putting together the fajitas I managed to stand and chop everything for earlier.
I am drinking tonight, but only Ikea's non-alcofrolic mulled stuff. It's er ... more than a tad sweet.
If we do manage to get away this weekend I intend to make up for it big-style tomorrow night!
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