ds2 (13) yr 9 at school,
we have had behavioural problems with him at home for the last couple of years , mostly ok at school.
when he was stressed at school about a year ago (he had been out of school for 3 months and then changed to a new one) the more people tried to talk to him the worse he felt . they timetabled him to go to the think room and he was devastated as its not cool and he said he felt like a freak. over time he calmed down , school have said they dont have any major issue with him and as they left him alone more the better he has got. He has recently started to move up in his teaching groups and make friends. He just wants to be one of the lads , the in crowd and seems to be fitting in now.
now, at home his behaviour has been hideous and last week we were given a diagnosis of Aspergers. i am not sure i accept this as correct. school have been sent a letter and put him on school action , havent actually spoken to anyone other than the pastoral office and thats all they have told me so far.
but, this week at school his behaviour has gone really downhill . i think it might be because they have the diagnosis and are treating him differently.
He was distraught last night because in P.E he had been grouped with all the special needs kids and he is a higher ability (he said) and they were distracting him and making stupid noises. he said he felt really stupid being in that group when his friends were in other groups.
i am now really worried that this diagnosis is going to do more harm than good at school . i think i would like them to leave him be before they wreck the bit of self esteem that has just built up.
what the hell do i do ? can i have this diagnosis removed ? i KNOW my son and i am sure that they are going to destroy him if they start singling him out for extra help or putting him with other needy kids. please dont take that the wrong way , i am explaining from ds2 sort of thinking.
i am feeling quite heartbroken and scared just now.
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thriftychic · 15/11/2012 11:47
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