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friday night thread

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always fancied starting one lol but not around much till most are in bed.

PedanticPanda Fri 05-Oct-12 18:47:02

Starlight I'm impressed! Nappies in your pocket? Your jacket pockets must resemble Mary poppins famous big bag!

whatthewhatthebleep Fri 05-Oct-12 18:49:27

I'm feeling very weary and flat
DS is going from angry and shouting to very quiet and barely coming out of his room.
Had an awful episode with him yesterday...he is so low and defeated and just thinks his life is shit and will never be good for him. He keeps telling me very angrily that he's a useless piece of shit.
I'm keeping a close eye on him and feel really worried he might hurt himself.

Feel like I am unable to manage anything atm. I'm exhausted just getting through the day

Had to go and get prescriptions done this afternoon so checked out pizza hut...it was really quiet so DS was ok to go in, we found a table in a corner.
I seldom bother about other people staring or whatever but today I think maybe I'm feeling too sensitive...couldn't handle it and felt like crying.
Glad to be home again and in my pjs....picked up some crumpets...hot, buttered with strawberry jam and a big mug of coffee smile

simple things eh!

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:49:37

Now you see, if I put my card in my bra it would be in danger of never being seen again! blush

As it is I live in jeans, so have at least 4, if not 5 pockets in every pair to utilize. Doesn't exactly give me a smooth, silhouette, but then it wouldn't be smooth if my pockets were empty. Add my rather dowdy raincoat over the top and that adds another 2 roomy pockets to fill as well.

I started carrying more baby stuff when ds2 exploded in spectacular fashion through every item he was wearing and all I had with me was some nappies and wiped and a spare vest. We had to spend a fortune on a new outfit for him in a nearby children's clothes shop.

bialystockandbloom Fri 05-Oct-12 19:14:26

Bank card down bra? Must be interesting when you have to get it out to use in shops grin

The best piece of advice I got when I first had a baby was to carry a spare set of clothes.

whatthe sorry you are having such a hard time. Screw other people, if they really find a child with sn so fascinating it just shows what shallow, ignorant arseholes they are. But your poor ds. It sucks sometimes doesn't it x

alison222 Fri 05-Oct-12 19:44:25

Hello everyone - I am sneaking in a few minutes while DH goes to collect DD from gymnastics. Its pouring down here and I am still damp from taking her earlier.
star sorry to hear about your uncle.
whatthe hang in there - feeling sorry for your DS.
I'm laughing at the image of everyone's pockets. - while I often leave a bag at home - I can honestly never say I abandoned a changing bag - but I had one that was a rucksack.
bochead listinging to all those activities gives me hope for DS in the future - its nice to hear good stories.
DS has lost 2 coats this week. Neither of which can be found. As it is cold and wet I am going to have to take him shopping for a new one tomorrow. He HATES shopping - so not exactly how I planned to spend my birthday.
But we are going to see We Will Rock You tomorrow, DS loves queen so I am hoping it will all go well and the loud music won't be too overwhelming.
Hope everyone has a good weekend.

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 19:49:51

Whatthe, sorry you are having such a tough time of it at the moment. Poor ds. Wish I could offer some useful advice, but in the absence of that I am sending you chocolate and ((hugs)) sad

Alison, ds lost a coat in year 1 that resurfaced at the end of year 3! Turned out it had been purloined by one of his tormentors and hidden behind some storage boxes in the infant school. It made me cry when we got it back, partly because of the horrid little imp that was bullying ds all through infant school and partly because he used to look so lovely in it, but now it was too small and stained all over with rust marks where the roof had leaked (which is how it was found). sad

Happy Birthday for tomorrow, hope you have a good day in spite of coat shopping and enjoy your night out. smile

hazeyjane Fri 05-Oct-12 19:50:44

hello all

knackered and caked out from holding a cake sale in aid of Jeans for Genes day at dd's school. It was absolute mayhem, I was nearly swamped by marauding cake frenzied children, but we raised about £340, and the dds feel really proud to have organised the whole day, so well worth it.

Ds has been having a bad week, starting with a vomiting bug (which wiped me out as well) and has spent the last 2 days screaming, and grumpy, banging his head on things, it is exhausting. I hope he isn't coming down with something, but if he isn't I don't know what could be causing it.

Actually, what is interesting is trying to breastfeed, with clothes and hooks and bank cards flying everywhere.

Since DS was born in June I've managed the occasional leaky nappy by stripping down and covering with a blanket or my coat. Probably have to rethink now it's getting colder.

ouryve Fri 05-Oct-12 19:56:22

RaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrGGGHHHHHHHBOLLOCKYARSES!!!!!!!

(It's turning into a really long evening)

TirednessKills Fri 05-Oct-12 19:56:42

Star - sorry for your loss sad

Ds spent the week in Y6 as his year (Y5) have been of on a residential, he spent one day up there to join in fossil hunting, but was furious he couldn't bring any ginormous ammonites home! He's had a great week, been allowed free reign on a laptop and has been making a PowerPoint on bugs, he usually hates ICT so this has been a good boost for him. It was interesting to see how differently he behaves with the older children, bodes well for move to secondary school, the thought of which terrifies me...

I'm still avoiding revising for an exam a week on Monday, today found me on my hands and knees cleaning floors, anything but revision grin

DP has bought the first mince pies of the year, including the Heston ones, anyone for a bit of Xmas?

TheTimeTravellersWife Fri 05-Oct-12 20:05:04

Star - sorry to hear about your Uncle. I was very sad when mine died, he was my Dad's brother (my Dad died some years ago) and they sounded alike; when he died, it was like losing that last connection.
Moosemama - your story about your DS coat brought a tear to my eye. It is just SO painful when your children are being so badly treated by other children, has some experience of it myself..
I am digging out IEPs and getting reading for AR.

ouryve Fri 05-Oct-12 20:06:43

I was never a handbag person until i had the boys, either, Moose. I usually carry a small but practical across the body bag, now, though, since pockets just aren't big enough but I don't want to have my hands full or wear something on my back where it's an easy target for pickpockets (had my NUS card stolen from my backpack YEEEEEARS ago but have been wary ever since)

I also have my own junior pickpocket, now. DS2 likes to pinch my keys and any coins I have and hunt for any toys I've taken off him and might have forgotten about (he carried a whole tub of magnetic letters to school 3 days running, this week - they DIDN'T fit in my bag!)

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 20:14:14

Hazey, my lot have just had a vomiting virus that turned into killer headaches and then a stinking cold. Could it be that?

Well done to your dd, she has every right to be proud of herself for organising all that. smile

My name is NotActuallyMe and I own a mulberry handbag. Can i still stay blush ? It was a long time ago...

whatthewhatthebleep Fri 05-Oct-12 20:20:21

I'm having a good laugh with myself here...I was given a gift last christmas from a friend...it's a pink leopard print onsie!

My reflection is not to be shared...but I'm lovely and cosy grin...good job I'm single me thinks!!!

Lol. I envy you your grab and go ability. I do the charging around the house with the buggy halfway out of the door trying to figure out which item of clothing last held my key, and having to try and identify it from the coins (don't do key rings either) shock

Ooh, now I want one. Especially after discovering you can add liqueurs to porridge from the main board today, can't think of anything snag glider.

bialystockandbloom Fri 05-Oct-12 20:31:28

notactuallyme <whispers> I love bags too, esp Mulberry ones.

ouryve something you'd like to get off your chest? grin

Btw I have read your name as 'our vye all this time, thinking it was some sort of Coronation St kind of lingo like 'Our Violet'. Doh.

Oh dear. DP just in upstairs bathroom, flushed the loo, and ds who I thought was fast asleep shouted out "who flushed the toilet?? Mummy or Daddy?" He must have some of radar. Sigh.

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 20:42:58

Top notch expletive ouryve, might have to borrow that one myself if things keep up the way they've been recently. grin <whispers> I will admit to owning one very small black very unobtrusive cross body bag for those occasions when stuffing pockets just wouldn't give the right impression. wink

Tiredness, glad ds has had a good week. Ds1 has also been making powerpoint presentations this week, although he has been doing them at home, about Pokemon and adding too many, too loud sound effects. hmm grin

shock at mince pies. They are officially banned in this house until 1st December, although I will admit to having bought some hot-cross-buns for ds2 and dd from Tesco today. confused blush confused

Notactually and bialy, you may stay - but only if you have enough stacks and goodies to share stashed in those bags of yours. grin

Whatthe, I have a rather fetching purple onesie that dh bought me last christmas. I look a touch too much like Tinky Winky of Teletubby fame in it, but it's far too warm and comfy to care. grin

Star - liqueur porridge? confused I think I've missed summat somewhere?

TheTimeTravellersWife Fri 05-Oct-12 20:57:10

Oh dear! "I think I'd better get my coat" I'm a bit of a handbag addict, I once had a Dolce and Gabbana (charity shop find) I think that it was probably a fake replica.

Liquor porridge? I have definitely missed something! Not keen on porridge though, its the texture...gloopy, yet lumpy...maybe I'm not making it right.

NoHaudinMaWheest Fri 05-Oct-12 20:57:15

Star sorry to hear about your uncle.
Hazey hope you all recover from the vomiting bug soon. They can be so debilitating.

Tiredness glad that Ds got on alright even with his class away. He may well enjoy secondary better. My Ds really blossomed once he started secondary, in spite of still having major issues.

What the sorry things are so hard for your Ds at the moment.

Sign good luck with the tidying, I'm not at all surprised you are still at it.

I had an MRI scan today to see if the cause of my funny muscle/sensations symptoms can be identified. TBH I'm not really expecting it to show anything and I am increasingly coming to the conclusion that they are due to sheer exhaustion over many years.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 05-Oct-12 21:05:33

How has this thread turned into an anti-handbag rant? I always have a very small handbag to stop myself from carrying around loads of clutter, which I would if I allowed myself a large one. Trouble is, I have to de clutter it often, and put all the important crap 'in a safe place' which then goes missing for about a year. Are you getting a nice image of my housework skills? grin

Too many posts, just a few highlights.

Happy birthday for tomorrow Alison , you share your birthday with DS2. My DS3 saw We Will Rock You in June for their school trip as they did it for their KS2 show. He loved it but I was very jealous...

Sorry to hear about your uncle, Star. sad It wasn't that long ago you lost your dad. (((hugs)))

Whatthe, don't go venturing on AIBU in your onesie, you'll get short shrift. grin

bialystockandbloom Fri 05-Oct-12 21:19:28

moose you are welcome to share the contents of my current actually it is Mulberry handbag:

purse
lip balm
hand cream
keys
phone
various hair clips (dd)
scattered mouldy raisins (dd & ds)
several hundred old shopping lists & receipts
a few hair bands (dd)
the kind of unidentifiable bits of grot that always find their way there
used to be fags and lighter but not any more, sob, god i miss it

Anything there take your fancy? No cake or booze I'm afraid grin

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 21:20:15

Nah TimeTraveller, you can stay. grin

I love a bowl of porridge me, slow cooked with grated apple and a spoonful of cinnamon. It's creamy and smooth if you cook it right y'know.

NoHaudin, I hope the MRI yields some answers for you. Mine threw up more questions than answers and I'm back at square one now, having been dumped back onto annual neuro reviews because apparently I'm not likely to drop dead any minute, although if I do, I'm to go straight back. hmm

bialystockandbloom Fri 05-Oct-12 21:22:49

My mum, who is extraordinarily scatter-brained, drives me insane, she carries around a small handbag inside a larger kind of tote bag (wtf?), and the first thing she does when she comes round is start unpacking everything. Then, because she is so infuriatingly vague, when she comes to leave she has the whole household (even little dd) searching for her car keys/glasses/phone/purse etc.

And if she stays overnight she will absolutely always leave reading glasses/make up bag/wash bag/kindle/random bag which carries one of the above.

Arrggghhhhhhh.

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