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friday night thread

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always fancied starting one lol but not around much till most are in bed.

coff33pot Fri 05-Oct-12 16:53:17

Hello lol I am here and off again as got to go docs for DD and DS meds catch you all in a bit x

ouryve Fri 05-Oct-12 16:57:09

Hah!

I need to go and cook dinner now DH is home. DS1 has just calmed down after a meltdown triggered by goodness knows what after school. Probably a continuation of the getting out of the wrong side of bed, this morning.

bochead Fri 05-Oct-12 17:10:48

It's a funny ol world.

DS is doing RDA (think he's found his gift tbh), after school art club, hakipdo and is at his school's film club right now! All these activities are carefully chosen mainstream things with the exception of the riding for the disabled (no way I could afford for him to do it except via funded scheme tbh).

Just 18 months ago my lil boy was spooked by his own shadow, behaviorally too challenging for school etc, etc, etc. He was painfully lonely for such a long time. It's not that long ago he was like a limpet, out of school, & I even couldn't go to the toilet alone. I can't believe how far he's come. I'm over the bloody moon for him tbh.

It feels so wierd being able to meet a friend occasionally for a cup of coffee after years of being so isolated in RL. I feel like I need a social skills group too!

My sibling is still causing issues, but it's one of those situations where you have to sit back and let it play out to a certain point before going into battle. At some point in the next couple of months it'll be hammer & tongs with adult (fight for supported living place) & children's services (AR), so I'm making the most of the calm before the storm lol!

SheelaNeGig Fri 05-Oct-12 17:24:48

Hello all.

I've just finished a week of nights. I hate nights but this week was shocking. Simply too many babies!

Anyway.... not a bad week here. DD had a wobble on monday but ok since. I have decided to look st ckaiming DLA for her. Need a new door. Again.

wine fir all.

Boc - sounds good!

signandsmile Fri 05-Oct-12 17:32:59

hey all! boc that souns fab, I have had a good week sorting out the house (still! [blush) and I have another two weeks to go before the ikea shipment arrives...

ds is doing ok at school, and managed to get a haircut in this week, (so I no longer look like a thellwell pony! grin)

DH has friends to stay this weekend, so I am cooking for England, (homemade bakewell, or steamed pud with homemade lemon curd sauce for anyone?)

Will return to thread when I have fed everyone.

UnChartered Fri 05-Oct-12 17:37:16

evening all

am here at the other end of the table whilst DD eats her dinner

i think she's had a really tough week, but has been f/t at school since Tuesday

am trying not to laugh at her as when she really lost her temper at me (i asked her to go to the toilet, bad parent i am) she shouted...

'MUMMY, YOU'RE A REAL RASCAL!!' and stomped off in her finest flounce grin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 05-Oct-12 17:54:26

Hello. It's DS2's birthday tomorrow. He's having an old friend (only friend, really) who moved away over for a sleepover. We'll go to the pictures and (I suspect) tea at KFC. (Not my choice, obviously!)

Poor old DS3 is doing the 11+ tomorrow. Mainly because the inclusive comp DS1 and 2 go to doesn't have a sibling policy and we are out of catchment. sad Weird experience having a child doing an 11+ when you are more used to SENCOs, statements and the like. Not that DC with SN can't be bright, but it's a whole different world for me.

Better go and do some tea, catch you later...

Hey all. Catch up in a minute.

But my Uncle passed away this morning so not a good day. DD was banging on at me and interupting the phone call when I was being told and I gave her a warning to be quiet but she continued stating that she wanted a chocolate (My DH returned from Sweden yesterday laden with stupid edible gifts) so I let out my frustrations on her when I hung up and she took herself to her bedroom and for the next 15 mins all I heard was wailing:

'I don't like Mummy, I don't want to live here any more, I want to stay at school for ever and ever!' hmm

So, - not really been a good day......

Brilliant news Boch, and lol Unchartered!!

Ooh big day tomorrow Ellen. Good luck.

Unchartered, - I can't find evidence of the FOI. Did it go through okay?

SheelaNeGig Fri 05-Oct-12 18:03:42

sad Starlight.

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:06:33

Evening folks,

I am feeling frustrated and ranty, so am going to try and stay calm until I have consumed my own body weight in chocolate and the devils foodcake my Mum has just delivered. I am on my own tonight, as dh started a new job this week and has to go to their monthly departmental social tonight.

It's all been rather odd, as he used to be here until about ten past nine in the mornings and take the boys to school, then come home for lunch and be home for 6.30 in the evening. Now he leaves at 7.30 am, can't get home for lunch and arrives home at nearer 7.00 pm in the evening. He also used to be able to move his lunch-break to attend school and medical appointments with me and there's no more of that with this new job.

Am feeling a little bereft to be honest. We've always spent a lot of time together, even working together in the same office of a couple of companies and running a business at home for a few years years, so together 24/7 for many years really. Still, it's almost double his old salary and he is finally happy and doing what he enjoys, so there will be some compensations I suppose. (I've told him I've been eyeing up designer handbags - you should have seen his face. Daft bat, I don't even like handbags, let alone designer labels!)

Bochead it's lovely to hear how well your ds is doing. smile

Unchartered, I had to smile at 'you're a real rascal' what a fantastic way to flounce. grin

Ellen, Happy Birthday Ds2, hope he has a lovely day and good luck to ds3 for his 11+.

PedanticPanda Fri 05-Oct-12 18:07:05

Evening, I'm mumsnetting from bed because I'm not well. How is everyone?

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:08:04

Cross posted Starlight. So sorry to hear about your uncle. sad

Don't worry about dd. Mine also wants to live at nursery at the moment and I am bad mummy because she's been off sick all week.

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:08:48

Sorry you aren't well Pedantic. Hope you feel better soon. <passes medicinal chocolate>

It's okay, - forgot to say that DH also brought me a number of edible gifts too...

I just wish I could demonstrate how much I loved my dd, but there is always just so much conflict.

I probably need to spend more quality time with her, just playing or something.

Moose - yay - I don't like handbags either. Never knew anyone else.

Dare I ask if you have got through life without owning a purse also? - or is that pushing it?

Hey all. Good week here. Told a cple of people about ds' diagnosis and noone fell over in shock/ avoided us like the plague. Yay.
Boc - good news.
Panda - get well soon.
All else - hello! we got through another week!

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:17:46

Star I know it's controversial for some people on here, but have you looked at that love-bombing thread that was around last week?.

It's common sense stuff really, but I found it helped me to realise that I already do a lot of what they recommend without even thinking about it and that reassured me that all of my children know they are loved.

It's basically just setting some time aside every now and then and allowing what happens to be completely child led. So essentially, do whatever they want and don't offer any suggestions or opinions at all. Obviously not many of us can find the time (or energy, or enthusiasm) to do this very often at all, but I find even just little half hour windows here and there when dd chooses what we do really does help. She might just choose to sit on my knee and watch tv or read a mountain of books one after the other or bring me endless cups of imaginary tea, it doesn't really matter as long as I go along with whatever it is and don't try to take any of the control away from her for that window.

That said, she will know you love her you know - even if you don't think she does.

moosemama Fri 05-Oct-12 18:22:40

I never had a handbag or a purse until I ended up having to carry around a bag full of baby paraphanalia when I had ds1. Even then I refused to have a traditional baby bag and had a tiny denim backpack with just the bare essentials in.

I just hate having to carry bags around. I'm a 'pockets' person. Far less faff than lugging along an 'appendage' with you everywhere you go.

I do have a purse now, as I have everyone's library cards etc in it, but nine times out of ten I fail to take it with me when I go out. I am often caught out at the school when they spring playground fundraising stuff on us and I never have any cash. My dcs get very annoyed with me about it.

I really don't get the whole designer handbag thing. It's a bag fgs, what's all the fuss about. hmm

UnChartered Fri 05-Oct-12 18:23:06

Star i'll do it again for you, i told you i was good grin

bialystockandbloom Fri 05-Oct-12 18:36:08

Evening everyone.

Star I'm so sorry about your Uncle.

Ellen happy birthday to ds2 for tomorrow!

And bochead that is brilliant - yay for ds!

A bit of a strange week for us, dd (2yo) had her tonsils & adenoids out on Tuesday, which went fine (though was horrid seeing her going under the GA, must be so hard for parents whose dc have to go through that regularly). But it's meant that she has had to stay at home all week, so we've been pretty housebound. There is only so much painting/playdo/tea parties/vets/doctors/baking and peppa pig want to stab my eyes out I can take.

What was nice was seeing that ds actually did miss her while she was in hospital, and has been exceptionally patient with her diva behaviour since she's been back <proud>

And school seems to be going well, finally - have realised so much depends on the class teacher doesn't it.

Now just waiting for DP to get home so I can crack open some wine.

I have my bank card and oyster card on the window sill by the door, and on my way out bank card goes in my bra on one side, and the oyster card goes in the other.

Phone and key loosly in one pocket. 2-3 nappies and a half used wet-wipe packet in my other pocket.

As you might imagine, I never look especially stylish.

PedanticPanda Fri 05-Oct-12 18:45:25

Moose I'm the same, never used bags until I had DS, and even then I refused to use a changing bag.

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