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OMG - The teacher likes me and DD!!!

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I know that shouldn't come as a surprise, but DD's nursery teacher seems to genuinely like me, and even more surprisingly, my DD!!! shock

After my experience with DS I didn't think teachers could ever speak without being under duress, carrying a sour facial expression and with punctuated sighs.

They appeared to like DS however, and thought it was a miracle he was likeable despite his nasty parents (FOI gave me that information), but honestly, DD is my light and I love her to bits, but quite frankly she's a pickle!!

troutpout Thu 04-Oct-12 11:46:46

grin

appropriatelyemployed Thu 04-Oct-12 11:58:53

It is bizarre Star isn't it to have a taste of what life is like for most parents who don't have children with SN and who have no reason to suspect that teachers don't like them or their children!

Badvoc Thu 04-Oct-12 12:24:53

Star smile
Am having a bit of a blip personally ATM wrt this issue...
Ds1 is now doing amazingly well at his new school...but...the awful memories of the old school and what he went through are more raw that I like to admit sad
Ds2 was 4 last week.
He knows all his setter sounds and can write his name and some numbers.
He can read some simple cvc words.
It's freaking me out sad
Is this what it's like for everyone else?
Not constantly worrying about milestones, motor skills, reading etc?
I am so scared if getting it wring again sad
So glad your dd is doing so well.
Of course they like you!
You are very likeable!
smile

jigglybottom Thu 04-Oct-12 12:25:17

starlight a little less for you to stress about!

grin the senco is my dd's nursery teacher...and just HAS to approach me when I collect her to tell me how she does a very "loud over dramatic cry" (just like my immature 7 yr old son wink) if she is asked not to do something hmm soooo she either wants me to stop her from being a 3 yr old girl or enrole her at stagecoach grin must ask her to clarify next time, but dd seems happy sooooooooo.....bite me smile

LOL jiggle - that made me laugh! grin

Badvoc You know so much more than you did. I know several people who have finally admitted to themselves that their younger child has a condition to follow the first (not saying your does btw) and knowing what they know now they haven't even bothered going down the dx and statement route as they believe their first child's progress was all down to them anyway.

Your ds is who he is, and if he has no symptoms of anything at all, he'll still do brilliantly because of who you are and your journey so far.

I don't worry about dd. I mean, the worries are very different. I worry if her over-confidence will get her disliked, or whether her 'in-your-face' skills to get ds to play with her will go down well with her peers, so the worry IS there, - but not the dread and fear that goes with ds.

And now I have another boy, and not a day goes by when I'm not attempting to prove to myself that he has no signs of autism. But I suppose he is a bit different in that when I had him I was no longer under the illusion that I somehow deserved an NT baby and was prepared for whoever he is.

Badvoc Thu 04-Oct-12 13:02:14

Yes.
You are right of course.
But it's always going to be the isn't it?
I really thought I had put it behind me.
I am an idiot.
Thank you for your kind comments x

Yes AE A taste of normal life.

The nursery teacher IS lovely. But I can't shake the doubt at the back of my mind as to how lovely should would be had it been ds in her class?

Badvoc Thu 04-Oct-12 13:19:53

Yeah.
I often wonder how things would have been if ds1 had been at his current school from reception...
It's a form of self torture really ip andi should stop sad

I think worrying is normal. Everything is going so well for ds at the moment that I find myself worrying about dd for the first time. She is completely NT, there is nothing wrong with her but I think for the first time I have the luxury of freedom from ds worries so my mind turns to dd.
I look at parents who drop their kids off without a care in the world, leave them to do after school activities and don't stress endlessly about playdates and feel envious but then who knows what's going on in someone else's life and perhaps I would have been a worrier even if ds had not had the SEN he has.

sorry Starlight - didn't comment. FAB that the teacher likes dd, don't question it, enjoy it smile

insanityscratching Thu 04-Oct-12 16:24:47

No wonder teacher likes dd she sounds a right character grin You are doing it the opposite way to me I had three children go through school before ds and it was lovely.I reminisce about those days when checking communication books signing IEPs etc. I'm sure you will enjoy and appreciate it far more than I did at the time too.As for liking you well I'm sure that the only reason you weren't liked before is because you made them feel inferior and inadequate (and rightly so) this time you will be able to take a step back and let them get on with it so they won't need to experience warrior mother.

Dd took in a balloon today because she's learning about balloons and bubbles. She was adamant.

I never expected the teacher to take said balloon. Anything that has ever come from home to support Ds' learning was always handed back in disgust, but the teacher took it and played with dd and others with it in the playground and even added some more. confused

Badvoc Thu 04-Oct-12 18:45:57

Yes star
That's happened to da2 too
With bubble mixture...they made it part of the morning session!
With ds1 he stopped taking stuff in...they never let him do show and tell.
Because they were bastards.

WofflingOn Thu 04-Oct-12 19:11:04

Well, some of us actually like children and enjoy their individuality, it's a shame that the teachers you've met up to this point have been a PITA.
I'll be waiting in Y6 for your babies to arrive! Quirks and all.

TirednessKills Thu 04-Oct-12 19:17:45

Well done little star for dazzling her 'teachers' grin

She does sound like a delight, well done starlight.

TirednessKills Thu 04-Oct-12 19:21:41

Wofflingon - that's a lovely thing to say, ds is in Y5 but has joined Y6 this week as the rest of Y5 are on a residential. Y6 teacher told me his morning that ds and a couple of other Y5s were a joy to have in his class. After 5+ years of ds always being the naughty/difficult etc child it was lovely to hear.

Badvoc Thu 04-Oct-12 19:32:37

Oooooh ds1 is year 6 next year!
Hope his teachers are as nice as you wofflingon!

I know Woffling smile My mum and dad and God parents were all Primary teachers.

I started on this journey having to defend heavily every action until they slowly became appalled at the behaviour of their colleagues and backed me. You just don't see what I have seen from their side of the fence until you're pulled over yourself.

The teachers I have dealt with so far were shit at SEN, defensive to a hostile degree but I know that this was mostly this was down to context and their solidarity within their profession and ignorance about the reality for Parents of children with SEN, especially those who by determination know a heck of a lot more than them about their child and their child's disability when they are expected to be the masters of outreach as far as education is concerned!!

Latest thing: We were supposed to supply an A5 photo for their pegs to go above their names. Shamefully, we are almost at half term and dd still doesn't have one (to be fair she can read her name).

So DD has drawn one at home and put glitter on it to take in on Monday. I got out the camera sharp-ish but she insists it has to be her own picture now.

This teacher wot likes me, - she's going to change her mind isn't she?

Should I let dd take her pic in or should I try and not risk the teacher thinking that I think my dd have different rules for her, and insist my dd takes a photo?

Badvoc Fri 05-Oct-12 10:50:15

Sigh....
Sent 2 large bundles of really nice clothes to an mner who said she needed them free for postage.
Postage came to £15.
Dh paid it.
This is over a month ago and she is now not replying to pms.
Anything I can do?
Or do I just chalk it up to experience?
sad

Aw, sorry Badvoc. Not sure what you can do. Is she posting ATM?

Badvoc sad
Star, I think I would let dd take her picture in and take your photo in too. Let nursery persuade dd which one to put above her peg. If the teacher is as good as she seems so far she will find a special place to put dd's sparkly pic so that the photo can still go over the peg. Hopefully she will make dd feel special about her homemade one.

Ooh, good idea.

Badvoc Fri 05-Oct-12 11:40:44

Oh! Sorry posted that on wrong thread!

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