I know that shouldn't come as a surprise, but DD's nursery teacher seems to genuinely like me, and even more surprisingly, my DD!!!
After my experience with DS I didn't think teachers could ever speak without being under duress, carrying a sour facial expression and with punctuated sighs.
They appeared to like DS however, and thought it was a miracle he was likeable despite his nasty parents (FOI gave me that information), but honestly, DD is my light and I love her to bits, but quite frankly she's a pickle!!
Star Am having a bit of a blip personally ATM wrt this issue... Ds1 is now doing amazingly well at his new school...but...the awful memories of the old school and what he went through are more raw that I like to admit Ds2 was 4 last week. He knows all his setter sounds and can write his name and some numbers. He can read some simple cvc words. It's freaking me out Is this what it's like for everyone else? Not constantly worrying about milestones, motor skills, reading etc? I am so scared if getting it wring again So glad your dd is doing so well. Of course they like you! You are very likeable!
the senco is my dd's nursery teacher...and just HAS to approach me when I collect her to tell me how she does a very "loud over dramatic cry" (just like my immature 7 yr old son ) if she is asked not to do something soooo she either wants me to stop her from being a 3 yr old girl or enrole her at stagecoach must ask her to clarify next time, but dd seems happy sooooooooo.....bite me
Badvoc You know so much more than you did. I know several people who have finally admitted to themselves that their younger child has a condition to follow the first (not saying your does btw) and knowing what they know now they haven't even bothered going down the dx and statement route as they believe their first child's progress was all down to them anyway.
Your ds is who he is, and if he has no symptoms of anything at all, he'll still do brilliantly because of who you are and your journey so far.
I don't worry about dd. I mean, the worries are very different. I worry if her over-confidence will get her disliked, or whether her 'in-your-face' skills to get ds to play with her will go down well with her peers, so the worry IS there, - but not the dread and fear that goes with ds.
And now I have another boy, and not a day goes by when I'm not attempting to prove to myself that he has no signs of autism. But I suppose he is a bit different in that when I had him I was no longer under the illusion that I somehow deserved an NT baby and was prepared for whoever he is.
I think worrying is normal. Everything is going so well for ds at the moment that I find myself worrying about dd for the first time. She is completely NT, there is nothing wrong with her but I think for the first time I have the luxury of freedom from ds worries so my mind turns to dd. I look at parents who drop their kids off without a care in the world, leave them to do after school activities and don't stress endlessly about playdates and feel envious but then who knows what's going on in someone else's life and perhaps I would have been a worrier even if ds had not had the SEN he has.
No wonder teacher likes dd she sounds a right character You are doing it the opposite way to me I had three children go through school before ds and it was lovely.I reminisce about those days when checking communication books signing IEPs etc. I'm sure you will enjoy and appreciate it far more than I did at the time too.As for liking you well I'm sure that the only reason you weren't liked before is because you made them feel inferior and inadequate (and rightly so) this time you will be able to take a step back and let them get on with it so they won't need to experience warrior mother.
Dd took in a balloon today because she's learning about balloons and bubbles. She was adamant.
I never expected the teacher to take said balloon. Anything that has ever come from home to support Ds' learning was always handed back in disgust, but the teacher took it and played with dd and others with it in the playground and even added some more.
Yes star That's happened to da2 too With bubble mixture...they made it part of the morning session! With ds1 he stopped taking stuff in...they never let him do show and tell. Because they were bastards.
Well, some of us actually like children and enjoy their individuality, it's a shame that the teachers you've met up to this point have been a PITA. I'll be waiting in Y6 for your babies to arrive! Quirks and all.
Wofflingon - that's a lovely thing to say, ds is in Y5 but has joined Y6 this week as the rest of Y5 are on a residential. Y6 teacher told me his morning that ds and a couple of other Y5s were a joy to have in his class. After 5+ years of ds always being the naughty/difficult etc child it was lovely to hear.
I know Woffling My mum and dad and God parents were all Primary teachers.
I started on this journey having to defend heavily every action until they slowly became appalled at the behaviour of their colleagues and backed me. You just don't see what I have seen from their side of the fence until you're pulled over yourself.
The teachers I have dealt with so far were shit at SEN, defensive to a hostile degree but I know that this was mostly this was down to context and their solidarity within their profession and ignorance about the reality for Parents of children with SEN, especially those who by determination know a heck of a lot more than them about their child and their child's disability when they are expected to be the masters of outreach as far as education is concerned!!
Sigh.... Sent 2 large bundles of really nice clothes to an mner who said she needed them free for postage. Postage came to £15. Dh paid it. This is over a month ago and she is now not replying to pms. Anything I can do? Or do I just chalk it up to experience?
Badvoc Star, I think I would let dd take her picture in and take your photo in too. Let nursery persuade dd which one to put above her peg. If the teacher is as good as she seems so far she will find a special place to put dd's sparkly pic so that the photo can still go over the peg. Hopefully she will make dd feel special about her homemade one.