blowing off steam!!!

[nicolajc]

I just really need yo get this off my chest but i am so fed up with my parents,ds1 has autism and yes allthough they are great and very helpfull any1 would think they gave birth to him, the way they carry on its as if they think they love him more than me and his dad eg 1) son broke his leg at school 10 weeks ago i have now decided that in 1 and a 1/2 weeks he will go back to his special school i tell my mom this as he is doing gambowls ,climbing ,fighting in his plaster that is due to come off next thursday well my moms reply was i dont want him getting hurt again!! AS IF I WANT HIM TO hes my son my world iwould kill for himthen she replied that i had rushed into it with out disscussing with them first!!!
eg 2)my dad yes i will admit has got a special bond with son but they both tell every one that my son loves his grandad more than anyone else that he is his security blanket and only he can comfort him and im like HELLO im his mommy.

when ever they are around if we tell our son no to something they go over our heads and let him.

Once a month they are meant to have him to give us a breack as he is VERY DEMANDING!!
But now they wont as they say he screams and crys for me but i dont want him upset but i seriously need a breack and theres my dad telling everyone only he can comfort him i could never put him in to restbite care.
When we have tried to confront them about it they go ballestic saying how ungratefull we are and they wont come round anymore but as im sitting here writting this i just feel so horrible like im really betraying them.

[Davros]

I don't have any parents or in-laws to disagree with. To be honest, its better than having to fight them. If only all our kids had 4 grandparents who would co-operate, listen and give us a break! You're going to have to decide a strategy. Either say something, put up with it or somewhere in the middle, I'd go for something in the middle. Choose one or two things to bring up, not everything iyswim, and see if you can tackle it in a friendly/jokey way....

[kaseysmum]

hi nicola, this is a tricky one - you don't want arguments or to fall out with anyone, hell we've all got enough to deal with, but we do need a break. what my parents do is to take care of my older son, he's only five and loves his papa. i've also recognised that he needs some attention too, he knows how busy i am with the baby (who has cp, epilepsy etc), but is quite happy to go to grans house. the great thing is they live two doors down, he just pops in when he needs something. S/W have organised a weekend respite on a monthly basis for the baby which is great. can't you ask for that?

[nicolajc]

my son is really really clingy to me and he crys enough at his nan and grandads i couldnt part him off to a stranger he would have a major meltdown, i know that restbite care is a wounderfull thing and helps thousands of parents but im affraid it it just isnt for us as ds does have autism he doesnt miss a trick there is no falling him like you could with a "normal" child its a real pain in the bum sometimes of just how sussed out he is!!