When did you move DC into his/her own bedroom?

(36 Posts)
DangerMousey Sat 05-Jan-13 13:35:27

I know the official advice is 6 months in with you (and I understand why), but I wondered if any of you had put their DC into their own bedrooms with a monitor overnight before this? What age did you move them out, and why?

insancerre Sat 05-Jan-13 13:38:31

from the day we came home from hospital- so 5 days old
it was 1989 and the advice was different then
but I did the same with DD 1n 1996 and she was only 2 days old
oh, and we never had monitors either

Kiwiinkits Sat 05-Jan-13 14:35:15

From day 1, no monitor but the room is next to ours. I'm a very light sleeper and I don't think being kept unnecessarily awake by a baby's snuffles helps anyone's mental health! I'm not a natural worrier, knew she'd be fine. She was.

BabysPointlessPocket Sat 05-Jan-13 14:54:17

With ds1 when he was almost 2, as we'd lived in a one bed flat till then. Ds 2 is one next week and still in with us, he has got his own room, but I'm not ready for him to go in there alone yet, even with monitors, maybe another couple of months.
There's nothing better than waking up and seeing a baby wake up then stand up in his cot to give you a huge smile.

flossy101 Sat 05-Jan-13 14:57:46

After 5 months

lovetoski Sat 05-Jan-13 15:02:35

From the second or third night this was 13 years ago couldn't sleep with all the snorts etc room only next door had baby monitor. Ds has always been a great sleeper never had any problems know we were v lucky

PrimeSuspect Sat 05-Jan-13 15:05:13

Around 4 months-had started sleeping through too. Had a tiny house then and our room doors were a metre apart and also used monitors. I remember being so excited about going to bed on the first night and putting on my bedroom light and reading a book as no baby there to wake up!

When they were 6 months old. This was why.

PrimeSuspect Sat 05-Jan-13 15:08:52

Sorry didn't answer the why bit of your question. Our bedroom was so small and the cot took up most of the spare floor space. Plus I used to wake up at every snuffle and sniff and I needed my sleep by then!

Florin Sat 05-Jan-13 15:09:02

3 months and the night we did he started sleeping through and has done ever since.

steben Sat 05-Jan-13 19:00:25

Dd1 8 weeks, DD2 5 weeks - both with monitors/sensor mats. Both slept through pretty much immediately when moved.

Startail Sat 05-Jan-13 19:04:08

Five months approx.

When it became clear that both parties fidgeting and snuffling was keeping the other awake.

DD2 still BF in the night, so often co slept for an hour or two untill she started wriggling and then she'd happily go back to her cot.

NettletonMummy Sat 05-Jan-13 19:08:52

2 weeks, with monitor and sensor mat. But we have a bed in there next to the cot so I end up sleeping in with her from about 2am as easier for the night feeds.

hazeyjane Sat 05-Jan-13 19:22:04

dd1 - 8 months
dd2 - 16 months
ds (2.6) - still in our room

notcitrus Sat 05-Jan-13 19:46:23

Ds - 2 months, when he finally slept for a few hours but screamed in his sleep so I couldn't sleep with him there. I was scared but it was clear I needed more sleep to not be a greater danger myself. After a couple weeks I brought his basket back into my room a lot of the time until 6mo.

Dd is nearly 11 months and still in my room though I've slept in the spare room for a few hours some nights.

1500mmania Wed 16-Jan-13 17:13:27

3weeks due to logistics of being unable to keep a cat out of our bedroom. I slept on a camp bed next to the cot for a few more weeks and then retreated to my own lovely bed at about 8weeks.

Guidelines are ok but need to be taken with a pinch of salt. The evidence surrounding babies needing to stay in the same room as you for 6 months is dubious and. Based more on research regarding co-sleeping than room sharing. Do what suits you, your baby and the rest of the family - not the Dept of Health.

6 months, then she moved back in with us at 8 months, and didn't leave until 12 months.

And now she sometimes join our bed between us hmm.

HappyAsASandboy Wed 16-Jan-13 17:21:39

Not yet - they're 2 years 2 months. I like having them in with us, and they seem perfectly happy. I don't worry that their room is cold because I am in it too, and I don't have to leave my bed to resettle them smile

Julygal Thu 17-Jan-13 22:57:30

Around 3 weeks for both dd's. They didn't settle in the Moses basket and bedroom not big enough for a cot as well. Had monitor and sensor pad and both slept through from about 8 weeks. They're now 10 and almost 7 and share a room as they like having each other around at night time.

PunkyPod Sat 19-Jan-13 04:09:21

At 8 weeks. She'd started to sleep through at 6 weeks so we decided it would be better for her and us if she was in her own room. Did wonders, she wasn't disturbed by us and we weren't by her. No monitor as she's next door so we kept the doors open. Will do the same with the next one.

dd - 7 days
ds - 1 week
Dp is a very light sleeper, every noise woke him up!

ProudMamma Sat 19-Jan-13 06:15:32

My son outgrew his basket very early (he was long!) & the cot wouldn't fit in our room so at around 6 weeks he came into our bed, that worked really well for a bit although my hips really started to ache & i craved a good stretch out so around 3.5 months tried his own bed (just next door with monitor) but he was a big night feeder & i quickly reverted back to having him with me! Things settled around 5 months & he was happy to go into his cot, slept through around 9 months smile
Our daughter is 10 weeks and we plan to have her in with us for a similar length of time- mostly incase she wakes her brother as they'll be sharing, although she sleeps better than he ever did ;)
Just do what feels right & don't be afraid to try different options till you find what works!

mylittlemonkey Sat 19-Jan-13 21:57:09

We moved DS in to his own room (put Moses basket into cot in own room) at 8 weeks as he had gone down to to only waking once during he night and we both slept better for it and not being disturbed but each others little noises during the night. That was actually on health visitors advice 3 years ago and best advice we were given. Will be doing the same again this time once baby goes down to waking only once during night.

zcos Sun 27-Jan-13 07:06:55

wish the NHS sids info showed the actual research. eg I have read elsewhere that its not simply true that boys are more at risk and that months 1 & 4 are the vulnerable ones.
there needs to be much more research into this why is so much unknown. It would then help mothers to make informed choices about sleeping arrangements. I think my dd could sleep.better in own room I think I could do if I.wasn't panicking about what the health visitor midwife etc keep telling me over and over! been handed about 10 leaflets too!

nooka Sun 27-Jan-13 07:24:30

About two weeks for ds as I just couldn't sleep with him in the same room. dd was in with us as we were worried she would wake ds (she was a terrible sleeper) but we ended up sleeping in the sitting room after a few months for about a year until she finally slept well enough to go in with ds. She was a terrible sleeper! They are 13 and 12 so the advice wasn't as strong at that point. I suspect we'd do the same now though.

DancingInTheMoonlight Sun 27-Jan-13 07:32:59

After his 6 week check as his noises were keeping us awake and any trips to the toilet by us would wake him. Still have a monitor 2 years on which has been sufficient and i have been able to detect when he has had his fits (febrile convulsions) by mothers instinct and changes in breathing over the monitor

BlueyDragon Sun 27-Jan-13 07:34:04

DC1: 4 months. We had just come back from holiday so sleeping arrangements had had to change anyway so the opportunity was there.
DC2: maybe 9 weeks? The giant boy was looking a bit cramped in his Moses basket anyway and he and I were keeping each other awake snuffling and snorting. He didn't sleep through until 4 months so I just got up to feed him.

I didn't understand the reasoning behind the 6 month guidelines so ignored them blush. Now I know I might have done things differently.

TheFallenNinja Sun 27-Jan-13 07:37:40

8 weeks. No problems.

DangerMousey Mon 28-Jan-13 12:05:27

Just wanted to update incase anyone in a similar situation is reading this: we made the v difficult decision a week ago, when DS was 6 weeks old, to move him into his own room (next door in a small flat, with a monitor on).

And life has become much easier as a result....whereas before I was lying awake whilst DS slept beside me in the moses basket (flinching at his every snuffle and thinking there was no point in going to sleep as he was bound to wake up again soon), I am now getting 2-3 hours sleep at a time at night in between bottles/getting up to give him a quick cuddle/pop his dummy back in.

Consequently I am feeling much less anxious/depressed/all over the fecking shop during the day.

What I have learnt by this experience: no one can survive in any meaningful way on less than 2 hours sleep per night in the long run. And ultimately, no matter what it says on the DoH/WHO websites, you need to make decisions that work for your family, in full knowledge and awareness of all the risks therein.

DancingInTheMoonlight Mon 28-Jan-13 12:26:56

Congrats OP. Glad you found a solution that works for you and your family

zcos Fri 01-Feb-13 16:25:31

I'm still unsure feel I may sleep better and dd may sleep longer in own room - she is 8.5 weeks now but I still feel v uncertain about it - dd doesn't wake when I need the loo and does sleep for 4 hours sometimes now but is slowly getting too big for Moses basket and big cot won't fit in our bedroom walls are thick in house and slightly worried bout getting into the habit of doors being open with sneaky cats!

I put LO in his own house at 7 days old. Next to our room, so only 5 or 6 steps from my bed to his.

I also put a mattress on the floor in his room, so if he wasn't settling or just being noisy, we could co-sleep and leave OH to sleep in peace!

Typo obviously. Put him in his own ROOM, not house...

Contradictionincarnate Tue 12-Mar-13 00:29:14

<still

Contradictionincarnate Tue 12-Mar-13 00:29:48

still unsure

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