In an average week, how many times would your 19mo wake in the night?

(33 Posts)
rubybambini Sun 11-Nov-12 20:47:42

I'm really not sure what I'm trying to find out with this line of inquiry...maybe just 'is this normal'?! I'm tired, really really tired (and working four days a week on top of sleepless nights), and feel like I've exhausted all options of dealing with night waking, other than just good old-fashioned acceptance that this is the way it is with DD - she's never been a 'good' sleeper, or perhaps I'm just naive.

Our DD is just 19mo, and I would say that in an average 7 nights, she'll wake up 3-4 nights.

Other nights, she goes down at her usual 7pm, and wake at 6.30 / 7am. She often shouts and screams in her sleep, just for seconds, but it seems she does it when she's moving around, and still asleep.

If she wakes it's usually 2am or 5am, and will moan and groan (not purple-faced screaming) for a good couple of hours. We'll go in, see if she needs water, or if she's too hot too cold etc, and usually it seems nothing obvious is wrong. Sometimes, we bring her in with us, then take her back to her cot 20 mins later, and she'll usually drop off then.

Her daytime nap is 12ish til 2ish. She eats very well. She's very active, very chatty to the point of never being quiet. She's in nursery 4 days a week.

So...tell me, your 18/19mo - how many times in an average week would s/he wake?

At that age:
DD1 = only when ill or teething
DD2 = every fucking night
DD3 = maybe once a week?

Think your DD sounds well within the range of normal, but much sympathy to you - nightwaking at any age is exhausting.

addictedtolatte Sun 11-Nov-12 21:04:06

every night here. usually around 4 times in the night. am like a zombie (what a shocker)

gemma4d Sun 11-Nov-12 21:12:16

DD2, 19 months, sleeps through most nights grin Down at 7, wakes at 6:45 ish, although she has only just adjusted to the clocks going back (damn you BST). One daytime nap of 1 to 1.5 hours. No nursery.

DD1 was a nightmare if it makes you feel any better! She woke in the night every night till she was 3.

tilder Sun 11-Nov-12 21:18:16

Sounds horribly familiar. Ds1 wakes if ill, same for dd. Ds2 didn't sleep reliably until 3. Doesn't make it any easier though.

There are various techniques to help, tho not sure how much these will help if she isn't waking. A friend saw a sleep therapist (i think was called) for her dd which really helped.

At 19mo they all woke more than once a night. At 25mo I am finally getting the occasional full night's sleep, but that's 8-5. Sounds like your dd is doing really well from here! (sorry)

OverlyWordyHurdyGurdy Sun 11-Nov-12 21:26:33

Every night.

sayanything Sun 11-Nov-12 21:27:29

DS1 (now 26 months) would only wake up if ill at that age or if his nappy leaked by that age. But he started sleeping through (i.e., 10pm dream feed to 7am) from 5 months, bless him.

DS2 is only 2 months old but promises to be a completely different story...

sayanything Sun 11-Nov-12 21:28:12

You can tell I lack sleep from my typing there.

haloflo Sun 11-Nov-12 21:30:53

My 19 mo tends to wake 1-2 times 5 nights out of 7 and sleep through the other 2. Once a fortnight or so she wakes up & is for hours with no reason.

She has a a dummy so sometimes loses all 4 and needs us to help find it. Most nights us going to help her find it means she wants to sleep with us. Sometimes she wakes with her dummy in and wants us. I can't be bothered sitting next to her resettling her in her cot when we could all be asleep again in 10 mins in our bed. At 15 months she woke 3-4 times a night to bf so this is a massive improvement.

She tends to sleep 1 1/2 - 2 hours in the day either 11-1 or 12.30-2 (before or after lunch) Current bedtime is about half 8. Tends to sleep til 7.

I work 4 days too, as does my DH so we just try to get as much sleep each night as we can. I nap at the weekends, sometimes on my week day off.

Having a toddler is exhausting. Even when she sleeps through I'm ready for bed at half 9!

UnderwaterBasketWeaving Sun 11-Nov-12 21:31:45

DS wakes 6/7 nights.

Takes ages to drop off too, and we're up early for work, so 8/9pm-6am.

A bad night is one where the wakeup is after 4am.

I reckon it's pretty normal.

clabsyqueen Sun 11-Nov-12 21:33:26

3 or 4 times every night of the week. Aged 17 months. I have accepted my fate. :-(

Slainte Sun 11-Nov-12 21:38:02

Goodness, you must be so tired.

Don't know if there's anything you can do, I think they're either good sleepers or not. My DD (23 months) never wakes up unless she's ill, so probably about 4 nights over the past 18 months.

Though I've always been a really heavy sleeper and I'm sure she takes after me, honestly, I've never done any sleep training or whatever she just really seems to like sleeping.

rubybambini Sun 11-Nov-12 21:44:27

This is fascinating. I genuinely thought that you had about six months of sleeplessness post-birth, then -ping- remarkable sleeping baby, except for occasional teething or illness glitches. Thank you so much for sharing your stories. I might not feel quite so benevolent when I'm singing the Alphabet Song at 2am, but... it's genuinely insightful and makes me think that it's just the way it is, so I've (and DP to be fair) got to suck it up. (For now!)

BeaWheesht Sun 11-Nov-12 21:47:23

When ds was that age - oh only maybe once but he only slept 11pm until 1am and then 5-7 so wasn't much opportunity to wake!

Dd (just 2 now but was same at 19m) every night at least once - sometime twice but in bed 7-6/7

rubybambini Sun 11-Nov-12 21:52:00

Bea - you must've been whacked! I've posted elsewhere on MN about DD, and have really tied myself in knots thinking oh, it's a development thing, or oh, it's because she napped for one pico second longer than usual etc etc, but I'm finally, finally realising / accepting, it's just the way it is. Doesn't make me feel any better when work emails are swimming before my eyes at 9.04am tho!

helebear Sun 11-Nov-12 22:18:03

Dd is about to turn 20 months & is very similar to your dd op. She'll wake up a few times a night & have a grizzle & then settle herself most of the time but a couple if nights/ week she wakes up properly & needs a cuddle or sometimes a bottle or failing that might come in to bed with us. On fri she was just wide awake for 2 hours from 2-4, despite cuddles & being in bed with me, it took 10oz of milk to finally knock her out!

We went through a truly hideous phase from about 14-16 months when she woke up 4-6 times/ night & needed settling every time she woke. We were like the walking dead, it was awful. So in comparison her current sleep habits are bloody brilliant! I have friends who babies of a similar age wake & need settling once in a blue moon but we just accept that our dd ain't one of those children!

DinosaursOnASpaceship Sun 11-Nov-12 22:21:06

17 month old - wakes up 3-4 times per night.

Due another baby in January and am praying my toddler sleeps through by then.

DW123 Mon 12-Nov-12 04:03:15

19mo twins - DT2 wakes 3-4 times every night and needs settling each time - usually feeding back to sleep. At about 3am he won't go back into cot so sleeps with his Dad. DT1 sleeps from 730 to 6 about twice a week. Other nights he will wake 1-2 times and need feeding back to sleep but then sleeps to about 7.

DW123 Mon 12-Nov-12 04:08:35

19mo twins - DT2 wakes 3-4 times every night and needs settling each time - usually feeding back to sleep. At about 3am he won't go back into cot so sleeps with his Dad. DT1 sleeps from 730 to 6 about twice a week. Other nights he will wake 1-2 times and need feeding back to sleep but then sleeps to about 7.

addictedtolatte Mon 12-Nov-12 07:31:04

Dw123 you must be worn out with double trouble. i wont feel sorry for myself again with my every night 5 timer lol

me23 Mon 12-Nov-12 08:12:46

Usually every night though we moved house 2 weeks ago and moved lo into room with his 7 yr old sister. (he was in our room) and he slept through the night 7-6 for the first week! We couldn't believe it. However it didn't last he's back to waking every night ( though he slept through again last night so am hoping he is starting to get it.

HappyAsASandboy Mon 12-Nov-12 08:23:58

It sounds completely normal to me.

I have teins who are just 2. Until two weeks before thir 2nd birthday, they both woke 2 to 4 times every night. Very occasionally DS would sleep through from 10 til6 ish.

Two weeks before thier birthday, DS started sleeping though more nights than not smile he probably wakes once on maybe two or three nights a week now.

DD still wakes 2 - 4 times every night. She just needs more cuddles and reassurance I think. She'll sleep later in the morning though, so if DH can get up with DS when he wakes at 5 or 6 when he wakes, DD and I can have another hour or two smile

Toddlerdom is exhausting! But to be honest, I quite like the quiet cuddles in the night smile We cosleep so I don't have to get up - I couldn't survive at work if I had to get out of bed in the night.

Your baby will work things out in his own time smile

fififrog Mon 12-Nov-12 21:50:46

OP my 19 month old is v similar, I too think a lot of the shouting (once or twice a night) is in her sleep, but she has a nightmare or something about once a week. And about once a week not a peep!

JellyMould Mon 12-Nov-12 21:56:00

At 19 months my boy would wake up about 2/3 nights a week, but it would be a 5 minute thing - go through and stick a dummy in and give a 2 minute cuddle.

BlingLoving Mon 12-Nov-12 22:07:45

Have you tried a bottle on grizzly nights? 18 month ds is about the same as your dd. which is a huge improvement for us. But we find some nights he just needs a bottle for some reason and will winge a bit until he gets one.

HippieHop Mon 12-Nov-12 22:15:04

My twins are nearly 18 months and wake up every night, at least twice each. I DREAM of the day they sleep through (hasn't happened yet)

JugsMcGee Wed 14-Nov-12 21:41:13

At 19m DS was waking twice a night every night. Now, at 20.5m, he has started almost sleeping through. He'll go til 5.30/6, sometimes he'll settle himself or we go in and give his back a rub and he goes back off until 7.30 smile

rubybambini Fri 16-Nov-12 12:03:51

I feel everyone else's pain, but, glad I'm nowhere near alone with this.

Unbelievably, we've had four, FOUR!, consecutive nights of sleeping through, with some yells at 3am this morning, but that's been the worst of it. I've added Nytol and ear plugs into the mix, for me, too, so I'm not doubt sleeping through any of DD's shouts when she's actually asleep herself.

Could this be...it?

I'm laughing at my own optimism =)

Good luck to all of us!

DW123 Fri 16-Nov-12 13:38:03

Sorry I sounded so grumpy on my duplicate posts! Bad night... Good luck (if it happens once it can happen again). I'm very cheered by the number of posts saying sleep improved around 19-20 months. Its always good to have hope!

Chesterado Sun 18-Nov-12 08:55:40

At that age dd was still waking most nights and was up for at least two hours each time. It was grim but she did finally grow out of it around two

Ds3 is 20 months and wakes up at least once a night. I'm due in feb so also hoping he starts sleeping through soon

PavlovtheCat Sun 18-Nov-12 09:08:49

Dd woke 3 out of 7 nights! Very approx
Ds woke 2-4 times a night, every night so that will be 14-28 time a week. Average probably 20 times. But every night without fail.

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