You have my symapathy also.

I have the same problem, the difference being that my DS used to sleep ok, but recently I have started feeding him to sleep again (I'm kicking myself)and I know EXACTLY what you mean about having your evenings revolve around feeding him to sleep. I'm also fed up, frustrated, exhausted...

Myself and DP are about to have a chat and try to formulate some kind of plan. I will definitely post on here if we have any wonderful ideas. Until then, hang on and sleep whenever you get a chance.

I'm thinking of you!

Could your DH drive around one evening and give you a break?

CarGirl that is very interesting. Will def book an appointment as soon as possible. We have tried letting her cry in dh's arms or while pushing in the buggy, she falls asleep eventually, the only problem is that she wakes again within a few minutes and we have given up the attempt. Perhaps we just need to be more consistent and try repeatedly over a few nights rather than giving up after one go?

On a good night she wakes a couple of times for a feed, on a bad night she is awake four or five times.

We have a couple of car journeys most days and she sleeps during those. She is obviously knackered in the evenings.

Thank you so much all of you, I am grateful for the messages of support and advice.

vdery sorry for you. . my ds is similar, I was at the end of my tether, but now just go with the flow, he's 16 months now.

at seven months i discovered that he was dairy intolerant when trying to get him to have a bottle, i gave up dairy myself and he ggot much better, he still bfs for comfort because i think that if they have stomach ache it relieves the pain, now he does it for habit.

i am plannning on trying dr Jay's night weaning technique soon.

I take it you co sleep?

It was at 10 months with aching arms (and heart!) and painful back that I cracked and did soem form o CC with DD1. It hurt but my back hurt more from having to pace up and down and rock her to sleep every time. It did only ake about 3 nights nd after that she was a brilliant sleeper with no problems going to bed.

Now she's hit 13 it's another story and it takes me a solid hour to persuade her into bloody bed every night.

This sounds terrible and I don't doubt that you're exhausted.

Can you pluck up the energy for a few days of pacing and soothing rather than feeding? Or even go out and let DH do it? (If you think he could cope with the screaming!)

At 10 months I ended up doing CC with DS and it was the best thing I've done (ducks) but you don't have to let her cry by herself, only walk and soothe her which is the route I've gone down with DD (also 9 months).

I will be following this and I offer you every sympathy. Do you co-sleep and get any sleep at night?

often having a c section can cause problems because when you give birth it does something to their necks when they go over your tail bone that is important!!!

If she has no routine perhaps it is over tiredness that putting her into a rountine could help with.

I would def recommend craniel, do you know her tired signs?

I never had the patience to really put the book into practice, but I think it is good, and very gentle. TBH, your evenings sound so exhausting, I don't think trying her suggestions would make it any worse for you!

I do feel for you, you must feel terribly drained. Hope you can find a good solution soon.

Could just be sheer tiredness - my dd still has nights like it now esp when she's had a busy day...

She spits a dummy out and won't take bottle.

She is addicted to me!

She was born by c section and is otherwise a happy baby - would cranial osteopathy help in that case? Will give it a go though.