Hi,
I've been feeling very down generally about things with my 16wo DD recently, but I do think it mostly stems from the lack of sleep and increasing problems that we are having in the night. I am sorry this message will be quite long, but I am hoping if I provide enough detail someone will be able to give me some advice. I am very determined to have a plan and stick to it as the broken nights are getting to both me and DP and I'm finding it hard to stay happy and positive during the day. I have had some brilliant lovely replies from MNetters to my other posts so would really appreciate your wisdom on this.
DD is bf apart from a bedtime formula feed. Her bedtime is 7pm and the routine is as follows: 6.15ish first part of feed, 6.30 nappy off play time, 6.45 bath, followed by massage with lullabys, second part of feed, rock and cuddle then bed at around 7. We swaddle her and give her a dummy, lie her down awake and she closes her eyes and goes to sleep.
(NB the swaddle is a recent thing. We were just giving the dummy but she was consistently waking an hour later, we realised she was hitting herself in the face and waking herself up, so started swaddling and the problem stopped)
She'll then sleep anywhere between 10.30 - 1am (seems to really depend on how much she takes before bed, which is anywhere between 3oz and 6oz, no idea why it's so inconsistent). Then it all becomes a big struggle. I'll use last night as an example. She woke at 11.30 for a feed went straight back down. 1am, woke and had broken free of swaddle, reswaddled and put dummy in, straight back to sleep. 2am, woke, reswaddled but was still upset so fed, back to sleep. 2.45, came loose of swaddle, reswaddled. 4am, came loose of swaddle, reswaddled but wouldn't settle. Not hungry, tried to resettle but woke more and more, eventually wide awake. Took her into bed in desperation to get her back to sleep. Worked, but she woke at 5am to be fed. Then wriggled and wriggled despite seeming asleep, then fed again at 6am at which point she was wide awake again. Attempted to put back in cot, she stayed awake talking to herself for a while before crying. Got up at about 6.30.
During the day I swaddle and dummy for naps as well, she settles pretty well and usually goes down for an hour in the morning. I attempt a longer lunchtime nap but quite often she wakes after 45 minutes and won't resettle. Today she woke from nap at 10am, then back down (in pram) at 12. Woke at 12.45 wouldn't resettle despite me continuing to walk around. So got her up, she stayed awake until 2.15 then back down for nap, awake again at 3, then I've just put her back down at 3.50 as she was very grizzly and tired again. I usually do a 4ish-5ish nap then make sure she is awake from 5 until bedtime.
I am trying so hard and I'm so disillusioned by it all - worked really hard to stop feeding her to sleep but it seems I have replaced one crutch with another (i.e. the dummy). Although I'm not sure if it's the dummy or the coming loose of the swaddle that is the problem. We do sometimes have to replace the dummy as she falls asleep but then sometimes not.
So I need advice - do I have to get rid of the dummy, or is it the swaddling that is the problem? Any idea why she is waking up so fully in the middle of the night?
I really don't get on with co-sleeping by the way so need answers that keep her in the cot if possible. She is still in our room though I would like to move her into her own room soon.
Oh, and we did try a dreamfeed and also waking to feed at 11ish, but it didn't make any difference to how long she slept (she'll still wake around 1ish) so we're not doing it at the moment
Thanks in advance and sorry for the length
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rosycheeks81 · 19/06/2009 16:25
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