3 years and still no sleep

[Hoddle]

Hello there, just joined in the vain hope that somewhere out there is someone who can work out how i m gonna get my 3 year old girl to sleep.

Ok, bit of background me and my partner did controlled crying when she was a few months old and for about 8 blissful months she slept from about 7 -6.

Around 18 months this changed and since then she is up at least once often more times every night.

She used to wake up and cry but now she wakes up and comes into our room, we put her back to bed but often she will be up an hour later then another hour.....

She is pretty clever I reckon and seems to understand when we say she needs to sleep all the was though but she just seems to wake easily and not be able to settle herself - we tried leaving her, we ve kept door closed, threatened naughty step, tried bribing, just don t know what to do anymore and its killing us

Help!

[divedaisy]

have you tried a sticker reward chart? For staying in bed? Sleeping?

is the light getting into her room? Hav you tried blackout blinds or curtain linings?

[mackerel]

Our DD started this but at age 5. We eventually had success by rewarding her siblings one evening with hot choc. and marshmallows to say well done for staying in bed and going back to sleep when their sister had woken up everyone with her screaming. We said she had to go to bed, have story etc. but miss hot choc, because if she was going to wake every night she needed to go to bed on time, but if she managed to sleep through then we'd celebrate the following eve. with hot choc. etc. Worked a treat. Yr. DD is orob. too small for that paproach though. we think she started waking because of anxiety about a few issues, but that after a few weeks it just became a habit and a kind of routine 'this is what i do at night' thing. Suggestions from friends who had had sim. problems were to just ignore and instead of getting her to stay in her own bed, let her sleep on our bedroom floor if need be but not in our bed. I do sympathise. Our DD did it for 4 weeks, screamed the house down every night refusing to go to bed, wasn't having nightmares etc. It was a killer and we got pretty desperate. We even were offered mild sedation by GP but came close but didn't go there. We tried sticker charts, steps eveything yu can imagine. I do feel for you!