Ds has never been a good sleeper, but at 19 months we?ve finally got to the stage where he only really wakes in the night if he?s ill. He?s still a hideously early riser, but I can live with that (just). We now have just one problem, which is his ability to go to sleep at night.
He still has a daytime sleep of around 90 minutes and always goes straight to sleep or chats to himself for a minute or so before crashing out, so I know he can do it. But in the evenings when we put him to bed, he will moan and cry for up to 45 minutes. It?s not really serious crying ? he?s not standing up shrieking ? but more on and off wails, complaints, grumbles and moans.
We?ve never really done controlled crying with him for night wakings, they just stopped more or less on their own, but we?ve had to resort to leaving him to it in the early evening. We used to sit in the room with him until he went to sleep, but it got to the point where we were in there for 90 minutes or more, because he kept looking to see if we were still there . I suppose what we?re doing now is controlled crying ? we say goodnight, we close the door, and we go back in as and when he gets really upset. But he doesn?t really get that upset, he?s just fussing ? so last night he fussed for 45 minutes, we went in once and then he went to sleep.
We both find it hard listening to him. I don?t think he?s that distressed ? he makes it clear when he is ? but I?m just not sure what to do. Staying with him doesn?t seem to be an option but leaving him certainly isn?t helping him learn to settle himself as this has been going on for a month or so now. I?m hoping someone will come up with a magical solution that means he goes to sleep after 10 minutes of happy chatting, but if not please reassure me this is totally normal and he?ll grow out of it.
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Settling to sleep at 19 months
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snickersnack · 13/01/2009 10:28
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