i am still co-sleeping [on the floor] and i really dont want to anymore please help.

[whitebeachesandcoconutoil]

my lo is 3 at the end of the month.sinced he was born he has not been a very good sleeper partly due to his birth and if i am honest partly due to us as parents.when he was 7 months old i actually got him sleeping thruogh and on his own in a cot but we moved into temporary accomadation and was unable to have his cot for 3 months until we moved into our house.
and so we put him in a travel cot but he would not go to sleep screaming etc so i went back to co sleeping.
when we moved in i did his room all lovely stayed with him next to his cot etc but still no luck so we went back to co sleeping.
when he was 2 and a bit we bought him a ready bed[ bob the builder] and did gradual retreat and then moved on to a bed -perfect-but then he had that horrid norovirus and was sick for 3 weeks and so you guessed it i co slept!
now the problem i have is i since tried gradual withdrawal he just keeps calling me back, i lie with him to get to sleep and some nights he is gone in five minutes and other night 3 hours.there is no rhyme or reason he has the same routine etc.
i have tried dropping his daytime sleep but that makes him worse.
and finally when you do get him to sleep he wakes 2-3 sometimes more in the night finally waking up at 6 ish.
i love him lots but i really am fed up of sleeping on the floor to just try and get a couple of hours sleep but i really don't know whwt to do.
i tried sticker chart alsorts but he still wakes up- he is a very sensitive little boy and at the moment he has a fear? of motorbike noise and when he wkes up he will say no motorbike man mommy no like motorbike but this is just an example sometime it can be no its my football- the nearest i can explain is it s like his brain doesn't turn off from the day.
gosh i know this is long but please help as i am at a loss and i would like to actually have an adult evening with maybe some sleep

[overthemill]

i think maybe you should try being brutal and just leaving him. you know he's not ill so he can get through. you will have agony for a few weeks i'm guessing. good luck

[StealthPolarBear]

Why are yu sleeping on the floor? Can you not co sleep in bed as a temporary measure?
Then maybe could he sleep in your room but not in your bed?

[Neeerly3]

defo needs to be some tuff love here I think, or even perhaps, do you have a DP/DH? could he do the settling to sleep for a bit, get him out of the habit of needing you? You go out at bedtime so you don't hear the inevitable shrieking and leave your other half to it.

I slept on my DT's floors for a few weeks when they were about 18 months I think, arms through the bars of their cots patting bottoms (even arranged cots so I could pat two bottoms at once!). Dh woke one night to find me gone AGAIN, came in, sent me to bed and had them settled in 5 mins flat. Since then it's been his primary job, unless he's particularly tired or ill. They are now nearly 4 and for the most part do sleep through, we just always deal with any wakings the same way - go in, shush, cuddle, kiss, back to bed, leave room and repeat until asleep.

Good luck!

[whitebeachesandcoconutoil]

thanks i guess i know its got to be tough dh does try and settle but he not very confident and so it it tends to be me can you tell me though do you think the getting to sleep and then him waking are related or two seperate issues.

[whitebeachesandcoconutoil]

oh and i sleeping on the floor cos at least if i do that he is in his own bed and so i can kind of justify to myself that at least he is in his own bed.