My dd is 12 months old. We co-sleep, and bf, night and day. In the last year (which has undoubtedly been the most fabulous of my life, so I'm not complaining), she has only ever fallen asleep either
- bf to sleep
- in a sling
- in a car seat or pushchair (moving, obv)
- being bounced or rocked in arms
She's never fallen asleep without this help. The concept of her sleeping in a cot seems almost unimaginable. To my mind, though, she's made great natural progress over the year. She used to hate the pram / carseat but now is fine with them, she used to stay attached to my nipple all night (at least she detaches these days). In addition, she used to wake instantly the second she was put down once asleep, but now if I'm lucky, she'll stay asleep for 20 minutes once put down without me lying next to her.
I can see that, slowly but surely, she is growing towards being able to sleep independently. Still, she sleeps best and longest when touching me.
Now, I'm not complaining, we're fine with this most of the time. But I just can't identify with most of what I read of other people's 'normal' sleep experiences, like "putting the baby down for a nap", "sleeping through", "getting XYZ done whilst the baby sleeps" and so on.
I have been there, helping her fall asleep, and staying with her for almost every sleep of her life except a handful of rare occasions.
I just want to know there are others like me out there. Still doing this kind of thing after a year, hoping that nature will take its course and that one day she will begin to gently fall asleep of her own accord.
Come and talk to me?