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How to stop 10 week old co-sleeping soon (ish)?

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BetsyRabbit · 23/02/2008 22:10

We've ended up co-sleeping with our 10 week old, really just because every night it gets to the point that i just can't face putting her in her cot and her crying again. At the moment she is spending all evening on the sofa with me feeding and eventually falling asleep in bed with me at about 1am after a few attempts at putting her in her cot. It's not that I mind her being in bed with me and i do enjoy cuddling her but it's just not something i want to continue for months and months (she will always be welcome in our bed but just don't want it to be her bed). I want her to be able to stay at my mums occasionally when she's older and would love to be able to put her in her cot to sleep so me and DP can have a bit of the evening together. What I really want to know is if it is possible to co-sleep now but get her into her cot in a month or two or three (and if so - how?!!), or whether if I want her to sleep in her cot I need to be making more of an effort with this now?

I guess what I'm hoping to hear is that it's ok to co-sleep now and that in a couple of months it'll be easier to get dd sleeping in her cot. Got a feeling I'm making a rod for my own back though?

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pedilia · 24/02/2008 17:00

In theory the longer you co-sleep the harder it is to break the habit, beacuse for DD it is her routine.

Start a bedtime routine for her, something like bath,feed/cuddles then bed, her own bed.

She will kick up a fuss but you have to remain frim if you wnat her to sleep on her own, take her out to feed her but with minumum fuss i.e no lights,excessive talking etc
then put her back down, it may take a few nights but she will get the message.

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umma · 24/02/2008 18:29

Don't worry, 10 weeks old he/she is still tiny and needs to be with mum or dad (I think).

My son was just like yours, we tried to get him into a bedtime routine too early, he just cried, so ended up doing what you are doing and started a set routine later... and he normally sleeps through the night now (he is 14months).

Don't worry about stuff for now....just do what you have to do to get some sleep!

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BetsyRabbit · 24/02/2008 21:19

I think that is what my instincts are telling me, to just go with whatever gets us all some sleep at the moment. But as each week goes by I feel more pressure to get her into a routine and into her cot. Am worrying that it is going to be really hard later on.

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pedilia · 24/02/2008 21:23

I started mine on a night time routine from between 3-4 months, gave me time to enjoy having them in bed with me, as well as making it a hell of alot easier with feeds!

I felt under pressure with my 1st to get him into a routine becasuse everyone always asks whether they are sleeping through the night.
But having had 2 more since I did it when it was right for me and baby

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lilyloo · 24/02/2008 21:31

hi i co sleepimg at mo with dd 5 weeks. Did the same with ds and dd1 ds until 6 months and then had a nightmare r/e sleeping first full night at 3 years. Then dd until 3 months she was fine has slept through since she now 3 and sleeps 13 hours night.
For me it's whatever gets you through those first weeks however will be trying to put dd2 in cot at side of bed at 3/4 months too.
Good luck.

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BetsyRabbit · 25/02/2008 14:08

Thats what I was hoping to hear! I'm going to enjoy cuddling my tiny baby for another few weeks and then start attempting to get her into her cot and into a routine when she might be more ready. It's good to hear that it is possible to co-sleep in the short term.

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