We have been soft on dd with co-sleep, now she wont sleep alone!!!!

[Lilypie]

I dont know how to begin getting dd to sleep in her own bed but her night-time clinginess is causing big problems between me and dh so we need to fix it. It started with a cough 5 months ago and I slept with her for a few nights and it has evolved into dd waking from her own bed after an hour of sleep and demanding to sleep in our bed. DH sleeps in the spare room and we are becoming like housemates.... Its very sad.

I need to get dd to sleep the full night in her own bed again but where do I begin?

This is my new years resolution, any advice?

[sophierosie]

Is she old enough to understand her that you have your bed and she has hers? You say that she demands to sleep in your bed - can you just say no?

Is anything waking her after an hour? What time does she go to sleep?

[MUMOFDJandP]

I sooo empathise!!!!

[emkana]

Buy a kingsize bed

[Lilypie]

She goes to bed happily in her own bed at 8pm. We started out just saying no when she woke up crying to sleep with me but tbh we got so exhausted with working all day on no sleep we started giving in just for survival!!!

Happy new year btw!!!

[sophierosie]

Happy New Year too!

Its so difficult isn't it especially when you're at work.

Who normally goes in to get her? If its you, perhaps dh could go in and resettle her. Sometimes I think they know that mum will relent - if you take a hard line approach she'll get the message after a while. It might be tough for a few nights, but they do learn quickly despite their initial dislike!

If she goes down at 8pm does that mean she's in your bed at about 9pm? Does she sleep in your bed without you in it?

[TooTicky]

Perhaps she needs the comfort atm.

[GreenGlassGoblin]

softly-softly approach? DS (21 months) co-sleeps with either me or DH in the spare bed, but before midnight we resettle him in his own bed, no matter how long it takes. After midnight frankly can't be bothered and need our sleep too much to try, so take him in with whichever one of us woke up. If I wanted to change things, I'd look at extending the time he was resettled in his own bed: midnight, 1am, 2am etc over a couple of weeks. Might be an option if your DD is coming in with you very early in the evening at the mo?

[HollieH]

Our 10 month old daughter sleeps in with us and we have a 3-sided cot attached to the side of the bed so that we have our space and she has hers but we are right there. No getting up in the middle of the night to go into a different room and she gets easy access to comfort. That's the best solution we have found and we all get a full night's sleep (usually!)