Ok, i did IT!!!

[Donbean]

After a few weeks of horrendous nights with DS 16months i decided that enough was enough.
Last night i left him to whinge. I say whinge because he wasnt crying but moaning. I just left him, with my eyes tightly shut (like that would make any difference!!!)and guess what, he went back off.
Im going to try again tonight. Why is it that i still feel like i have had no sleep whatsoever?
He has NEVER slept through the night and i long for the night when he does.
Lately i have been very clumsy and forgetful and a bit "spaced out" at times so it is affecting me now, 16 months on.
The thing is, i can cope with him whinging but i just cant leave him if he is really crying, i have to go to him and comfort him.
I know what you are all going to say about that but hes my little chicken beanie boy who needs me to cuddle him and find his dodo and noonoo so what can i do?????

[mckenzie]

keep positive donbean. fingers crossed you'll have a good night again tonight.

[TracyK]

you're the same as me. you may be able to tell if it is a whinge or an all out crying fit.
I could leave him if its only a moany cry - but if he was really crying/sobbing - theres no way I could leave him.
Although I'm sure you don't have to comletely leave him - maybe just not pick him up - just pat him in his cot.
I must admit I usually fed ds (altho only 8 mo) whether he needs it or not and then he'll fall back asleep. If the worst comes to the worst - I'll take him into bed with me. I don't care if its not the done thing - it lets me have sleep and doesn't distress him.

[Donbean]

Its so hard tho isnt it? I think that i have adjusted some how to getting little or broken sleep every night. I am just forgetful and a bit dizzy in the day. Tonight im working a night shift, ive been up since 4.45 this morning and wont get to bed until about 10am tomorow. DH is home so i can go to bed till dinner time. If DH wasnt home then i wouldnt normally get to bed until 8pm tomorow night, so thats nearly 35 hours with no sleep. Im not appologising for moaning, i need a good moan because i am fed up with it. The funny thing is, is that DS always seems to sleep through most of the night after my night shift. I think that this is because i am just so exhausted that i simply dont hear him and he settles himself off. So i know that he can do it. Good luck with yours and think of me tonight slaving away while you are tucked up snuggly!

[TracyK]

I think you do get used to it - I feel tired but no more tired than before ds (I always was a sleepy/lazy cow!) but at least I've got an excuse for tiredness now.
Plus I always was an early riser 6.30am to walk dog etc. But as you say its the broken sleep - I think I still get roughly the same number of hours sleep - just not all at one go and not as deep a sleep.
I just take whatever the easiest option is at the time - although dh disagrees (mil infulence I'm sure!) I'll do whatever I can for a few hours sleep.