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tylersmum · 13/11/2004 19:32

hi i wrote a thread a while ago about ds being in my bed and although have got him out of it am a bit fed up with having to sit with him coz sometimes it takes ages to get him to sleep but a friend told me about a method were you set a time limit say 15 mins and you let them cry then go in after every 15 mins to lay them back down.
she says this is not classed as cc as there is one set time limit.
would really like views on this please.

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TracyK · 13/11/2004 20:02

its not the babywhisperer - pick up put down mehtod is it?

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linnylambe · 13/11/2004 20:03

Think there's far to much emphasis nowadays on what's right or wrong as regards babies and child rearing.. imho,there's nothing wrong with leaving a baby cry for a bit,my DS is 9 mths old and had to do it with him to settle him down at night, tho did it in 10 min intervals.. only you know your DS best, and you will know when its a distressed cry or a "pick me up" cry....
hope this helps a little

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hermykne · 13/11/2004 20:33

tylersmum
c/c means you sleave them for 1min, go back in settle, leave for 2min. go back in leave for 4min, repeat again , go back after 6min, gradually increasing until they settle (hopefully), its painstaking for you and may take a couple of nights.
i use that and the "pick up put down" method of the baby whisperer.ie u pick them up settle in your arms and put down, if they get upset you pick up again and settle and repeat whilst saying ssshhhh. this "ssshhhh" in their ear helps to drown out their crying. it is really working with me and my ds presently.

imo i wouldnt leave them for 15mins at a time its too long and upsetting.

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spod · 13/11/2004 20:47

sorry, not sure of your situation having not read your [revious thread, but do you mean that your son now does settle and sleep in his own cot? if so... pat yourself on the back, and, if it were me (have been there!) i would just stick with what you are dong for a while... dont ruin it! gradually the time you need to stay with him will decrease... i never did cc, maybe i did it the hard way... but i dont think so, as dd is fine at night... but it did take quite a while to acheive this! i would say that i agree that 15 mins is too long to leave a child crying. good luck.

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Katieh · 14/11/2004 20:14

we are doing the "checking method" with our 1 year old who has always been a bad sleeper. Let her cry for 5 mins then go in - reassure, not pickup or linger, just touch her on the back or lie her down then leave. After 5 mins if she's still crying do exactly the same... but it's always 5 mins. First night it took her 45 mins to settle when going to bed, 2nd night 20 mins and now it's about 10 mins.....
I also agree that 15 mins is quite a long time for both baby and parent!!!

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tylersmum · 15/11/2004 16:05

i now agree that 15 mins is to long that was advice i was given from someone.
i go in lay him down dont say anything but as soon as i leave the room he stands up again. will he at some point lay down and go to sleep because at the moment i am going in to his room and sitting with him and this is after an hour or so of trying to settle him without being in his room. he just stands up and crys when i leave and refuses to lay down and after a bit he wont even be settled in to laying down with me in the room because he has got himself that upset.

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hermykne · 15/11/2004 20:40

tylersmum
you'll have to leabe him. i know its so upsetting to leave him and hear him cry but like many here have said, leave go back in and reassure and keep doingthat, but he needs to learn that he can go to sleep by himself and mummy is only a call away, try it, you'll be wrecked doing it, but the proof is in here in these contributions.
katieh has it sussed, try her method.
good luck

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Missmibaby · 17/11/2004 15:41

I know this thread is a couple of days old, but I need some help. I have started another thread on cc, but maybe someone here could giive me some advice. Basically our now 20-mth old has suddenly started to be very difficult to put to bed. We're trying cc, 2mins in 5mins out etc. What I'm confused about is when do you stop because I feel that just as he is settling I go in and the whole thing starts up again, but I'm reluctant to not check on him. Ideas please!!

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tylersmum · 20/11/2004 20:29

i put ds down on thursday night and decided to go in every 5 mins and settle him down and i told him that he did not need me in his room to go to sleep and fri and sat night he has gone down fine no crying at all. feel really good as thought it would take longer than a few days.
missmibaby i went in 5 mins on the dot and only stopped when he was not crying come the 5 mins time.