2 to 1 naps? still struggling!

[MaeBee]

i am pretty sure my 14 month old has been ready to drop the morning nap for some time. but me and my dp do 50/50 childcare and are not in agreement about it! dp insists child goes down for morning nap, and will carry on going in, calming him down until he does fall asleep. dp reckons this is proof he wanted a nap in the first place.
i tend to give in after 10 - 15 minutes of frustrated child pointing at curtains and demanding to get up!
child gets up early in morning, usually wakes before 6. goes down for morning nap around 9ish for 40 mins, then we wake him up. depends if its me or dp doing it as to whether he sleeps or not in the first place! then has an afternoon nap around 2 for an hour. sleeps 7 til 6ish in the night.
dp suggests cutting morning nap time and waking ds after 30 mins instead of 40. i would rather just not force him to sleep and put him down after lunch when he's tired. dp says im being selfish and just dont want the stress of putting him down for morning nap. its true i find it really stressful but thats cos i think its counterproductive. i think dp can't bear losing his morning time to himself!
we go to baby groups from 10 - 12 most mornings and don't really want these cut out cos ds - and me - get a load out of them.
so any thoughts on what is best way for the child to transition?

[Nemostwonderfultimeoftheyear]

dd2 has just dropped her 2 naps to 1 and she is 11mths. She did it herself automatically and now sleeps 12.30-2

[DaddyJoseph]

dw and I had similar disagreements about the morning nap!

At nursery (3 days a week) dd has no more morning naps and
sleeps for 1-2 hours after lunch.
When dw looks after her (2 days a week)
dd sometimes falls asleep in the morning (car, pram)
but usually only has one nap after lunch.
And when I look after her she tends to have
a morning nap and a lunch time nap.

In other words, we came to the conclusion
that dd is quite happy with different
daytime sleep routines depending on who looks after her.

[MaeBee]

thanks for your replies. think the 2 to 1 is generally a tricky time!
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