co-sleeping

[GloriaMumble]

DD (6.5 months) has made it abundantly clear that co-sleeping is her thing... we've tried GW and PUPD (for about a week each) and she showed no improvement in number of night wakings (5) but last night when I took her into our bed she only woke once... I'm not fussed about co-sleeping - i don't get any kind of warm glow but I'm not anti either.
I just wanted some reassurance that she will eventually go into her own cot and that I'm not making the infamous rod for my own back by letting her work out when that will be. Anyone know any good (not too lentil-weaving in tone!) co-sleeping websites/books?

[elsieanjoanne]

my dd occasionally co-sleeps if she is ill or wakes at silly hour 2-3am as she has been latley, she will coe into our bed for cuddle and bottle milk then goes to sleep.
my dd does sleep in her cot just at those particular times its easier for me for her to be in with us! is she teething?

[kiskidee]

i put 4 links on this thread about co-sleeping. it is up to you to decide if any are too lentil weavery for you to read.

[FairyMum]

I don't think I am a lentil-weaver or not really sure what it is. I co-slept with my children because it suted us as a family and thats the way we all got enough sleep. I had no problems getting mine into their own beds at all. When they are ready to leave they will.

[Celery]

Oh, if it's the only way you can get a decent night's sleep, go with it. You're not making a rod for your own back - you're just doing what's best for everyone to get enough sleep, which is the most important thing. My dd was in my bed until 8 months, then I slept on a mattress on the floor with her until she was about 15 months. Then she was on the mattress on her own for a few months and straight into a proper bed at about 18 months - when we were sure she could climb in and out by herself safely. It was no biggy, just a gradual progression - no hassle.

DS is now 15 months. He starts off in his cot every night, sometimes he stays there, sometimes he comes into bed with me.

I'm not sure how it would work out for us if dh was sharing as well, but we prefer to sleep in seperate beds anyhow, children or not, so that's not an issue.

[kiskidee]

agree with you fairymum. i don't understand why people seem to think co-sleeping is lentil weavy. i think it has to do with people's liking for labelling and not wanting or wanting label x,y, or z to be applied to them. sorry for the hijack gloriamumble. i am just anti-label on anything esp my clothes.

[burstingbug]

Like Celery, my DS2 starts off in his cot(right next to our bed) then when he wakes, he comes into our bed, bf then co-sleeps with us. He's 9 mths

[GloriaMumble]

sorry, sloppy use of language. i use cloth nappies and we're trying BLW so I've been accused of being a "lentil weaver" when actually I consider myself as someone who just considers the evdence and goes with what I think best on the basis of that evidence ... I guess we all do but somehow that doesn't equate with what I think a "lentil weaver" is. I guess a better description for my original post would be wanting an "evidence based" co-sleeping website.
Anyway, not sure I've explained myself any better this time but thanks all for the links and advice and sorry if I caused offence.

[kiskidee]

i understand gloria, it's not that easy to offend me.