Very long and slightly frantic post coming up, sorry! Blaming tiredness (of course)... First paragraph has the gist of the issue, other paragraphs gives the background (and allows me to vent).
A summary - my 8 month old has never been a great sleeper, but we used to be able to get him back to sleep reasonably quickly when he woke overnight. For the last month or so, however, he wakes every night some time between 11 and 1 and it always takes 2-3 hours to then get him back to sleep. Sometimes then sleeps though till 6 or 7, sometimes wakes again once or twice before then. It's the long wakenings that are the problem - can anyone advise?
More details - he's mix fed with breast and bottle (because of low milk supply) and up until a month or two ago he slept in his cot for the first part of the night then I brought him into bed and we co-slept from the first wakening onwards. First wakening varied but was usually between 1 and 3 and I breast fed him back to sleep, then he usually woke 2 to 3 times more after that and I breast fed back to sleep each time. We changed things because neither DP nor I were sleeping much with the co-sleeping (growing baby - not enough space in the bed). We also started giving a bottle as well as breast at the first wakening because I had a feeling he was getting frustrated by not getting much breast milk (the low supply - during the day I always give both breast and bottle at every feed). Things are probably better now because we do all sleep better when we're asleep if you see what I mean, and there are probably overall fewer wakenings, but we now have these very long wakenings around midnight to deal with. I have a feeling that he is now waking up for the bottle and we have created this - I don't think he's actually hungry (and he is climbing up the growth curve quickly enough to raise HV's eyebrows so he really doesn't need the extra formula).
Yet more details - when he wakes up we initially can calm him by cuddling and singing but he cries and then screams when put down. This escalates and I can temporarily settle him by breast feeding, but he then wakes up again and cries and then screams till he has a bottle. Then either gets drowsy or doesn't, but sooner or later wakes again, cries, screams and we need to hold him to calm him down again. The cuddling/crying goes on until he eventually falls asleep - 2-3h after the process first began. We've tried not picking him up, feeding more, not feeding - nothing seems to work, and the screaming doesn't calm down with time, it just gets worse (we've tried not picking him up for over an hour before, comforting intermittently in cot with increasing times in between but the screaming just increases).
FInally, even more details - at bedtime (between 7 and 8) he goes to sleep when put down drowsy after being cuddled and sung to. Sometimes protests for a bit but usually he gets to sleep within 15 minutes. Naps were more difficult but for the last 2-3 weeks he has had usually two naps, sometimes 3, and the routine is similar to bedtime. (Previously had to feed to sleep for naps). Nap times vary, usually roughly around 9.30, then around 1, then sometimes around 3. The first one lasts 30 - 90 minutes, the others usually about 30 only.
Phew, epic long post - apologies, congratulations and thank you very much to anyone making it this far through it. Any suggestions for managing the long wakenings? Thanks so much if so. I would be so very grateful....
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8 month old with loooooong (2-3 hours) night wakening every night - help!
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WhoGoesWhere · 09/01/2017 23:24
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