Long time lurker, first time poster here - I desperately need some advice from you wise MNers on helping my 9.5month old DS sleep! At the moment he wakes up anything up to 5 or 6 times between midnight and 6am and I'm on my knees. The one saving grace is that he falls asleep again quite quickly if fed (BF) and allowed to fall asleep in our bed before being transferred back to his cot but quite possibly I'm making a rod for my own back here! I'd strongly prefer to avoid co-sleeping as although he does OK on it, I end up lying awake listening to he and DP snore in perfect harmony...
We tried the 'no cry sleep solution' when he was 6 months and it was a total disaster and made things much worse. Once we dropped that he actually improved to the point where he was only waking once or twice between 12pm and 6am but now things have slid again (the dreaded 9 month sleep regression?) and we're facing up to the awful possibility of trying gentle sleep training again. We've been putting it off until his own room was ready - lots of friends have told us how much it helped -but now we're all ready to move him and I'm not sure how to tackle things. My questions are:
- Should we move him and leave any attempt at sleep training for a little while till he's settled in the new room, or go all 'new room, new rules' on him?
- Obviously I'm hoping he'll suddenly start magically sleeping through the night, but in the off-chance he doesn't (ha ha!) how should I feed him? At the moment he's fed lying down in our bed, should I spread out a duvet on the floor and replicate that or make things a little less cosy with a chair or beanbag?
- Finally, if we do push ahead with sleep training (I'm thinking PUPD or a variant thereof, NOT CC or CIO, both of us are far too wussy for that!), do we do it for every waking? I feel he's a bit young to night wean, I just want fewer wake-ups! If we PUPD when he wakes soon after a feed but feed him after longer intervals, will that just confuse him with the inconsistency?
Thanks for any advice - sorry for the long rambling post!