3 year old still cosleeping

[Savannah13nbump]

Hi all

Okay so I know we have created this problem ourselves however advice on how to move forward, our daughter is 3 next month and has slept in our bed since she was one as she was quite ill, we did get her own little bed and at first put it in our room so she could get used to it but she would wake up and get in with us anyway, we don't mind her sleeping in our bed however we know have a 6 week old baby and during the night he is waking her up, how should I approach this just put her in her own room and let her cry it out or what? Thank you in advance ps we will not be making the same mistake with ds!

[Nemmaline]

I found this website really useful when I stopped cosleeping (and it worked for us). Don't know how it would go with your baby though as it recommends that you sleep in the room with the 3 year old for two weeks.

sarahockwell-smith.com/2016/04/12/how-to-stop-cosleeping-and-bedsharing/

[wobblywonderwoman]

I think I would just put her in her room- make it really special for her (I know you must be very busy with a newborn) and let her go shopping with you for a new bedtime teddy, light, blanket.

I would tell her she will be sleeping in her big girls bed in her own room - read her a story and let her cry it out (gently rub her on the head but keep returning her back without fussing)

Hope it will work out for you.

[TanteRose]

We coslept with both DCs until they were 4.5 and 3 yrs (it's pretty normal in the country where we live so we didn't really see it as a "problem" as such) and then moved them into bunkbeds together in their own room.
I agree with PP about choosing new duvet cover/blanket, bedside light, toy etc.

Our two were together which probably made the transition a bit easier, but it did take a while for them to both consistently stay in their own room all night.

One thing I remember is that they both had phases of waking up in the middle of the night and toddling into our room for the rest of the night. If we could be bothered, we walked them back into their room and tried to settle them back down - sometimes worked, sometimes didn't - I can't stand crying so just let them stay if it looked like they'd get upset (sometimes they were absolutely fine being taken back to their own beds - obviously just wanted a bit of comfort and a cuddle)

Eventually the phases of sleeping all night in their own room got longer than the phases of coming in with us half way through.

If you have a new baby, then you need to get your DP/DH on board with the transition so he will be the one taking her back into her room.

Good luck - it might take a while as I said, but she will eventually love her own room

[Savannah13nbump]

Thank you all for advice, going shopping with her a really good idea