Hello everyone,
My daughter is 4 months old now and cannot self-soothe to sleep so I am looking for advice from fellow parents. She fits in Dr Sears's description of high needs babies in that she likes to be held a lot, is very alert/likes looking around/will fight sleep to ensure she doesn't miss out on anything and will scream/cry at the top of her lungs if she has set her mind on something and she is not getting it (eg. being held, not being in her cot,...). Several doctors/nurses/HV have commented on how 'angry' she sounds when she cries. I am not using this as an excuse for anything but thought it would be helpful to show what she is like.
Her sleeping routine consists of 40-minute naps throughout the day at 1h30-2h intervals. I avoid feeding her to sleep whenever possible but need to use a mixture or rocking or white noise to get her to sleep. Then I can put her down in her cot. A month ago I tried the pick up/put down method which sort of worked (although I am not sure how well I was doing it- by the stage I placed her in her cot she was closer to being fully asleep than being simply sleepy), but it all went down the drain when she hit the 4 month mark (sleep regression?). Simply putting her in her cot without any preliminary rocking will not work, she will be wide awake and will simply start playing in her cot, rolling onto her stomach and basically getting quite excited and unable and unwilling to fall asleep. Putting her half asleep (and not picking her up), making shh sounds will result in high pitched crying which again has the effect of waking her up and wounding her up so any form of controlled crying doesn't seem to be an option. As I said, pick up put down only works when she is closer to being falling asleep.
With regards to the duration of the naps, I have tried the wake up to sleep method to make them longer but that didn't work.
As far as night time is concerned, we start getting her ready for bed around 7 and 'officially' try and get her to sleep around 7.30pm. Again, she will need to be rocked with white noise in the background. The last few days it took a good 2 hours to get her to fall asleep. On a good day, it will take 1 hour. She will then sleep for 4-5 hours, wake up for a feed, then go back to sleep (easily, but probably because she is fed to sleep) for another 2-3 hours for another feed, which gets us to around 4-5am and at this stage, she will sometimes go back to sleep (generally with the need of white noise/rocking) or won't altogether.
I would very much like to reach a stage where she can fall asleep on her own during naps, and the first part of the evening. Would you have any comments on what I am doing wrong or any advice on what worked for you? Thank you!
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Ohlalala · 25/07/2016 09:24
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