If you co-slept/didn't sleep train...

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CobsAhoy Mon 20-Jun-16 15:17:22

If you co-slept/didn't sleep train, at what age did your LO move into their own room?

My DD is coming up to 9months and we have always bed shared, this has meant either me or her dad have always been with her while she sleeps. Although this wasn't what I planned (or expected!), I'm fine with it and actually quite enjoy lying next to her and pissing round on my phone rather than doing housework smile

But I am curious at what point babies who aren't encouraged to move into their own room decide they want to.....

boldlygoingsomewhere Mon 20-Jun-16 15:22:58

Mine was happy in her own room from 12 months. She had a Montessori style floor bed initially as she hated her cot but transitioned happily to toddler bed at 18 months.

Absolutely loves her own room and bed and we only get occasional visits now that she is almost 3.smile

timelytess Mon 20-Jun-16 15:27:03

18. She went to uni.

Or, 5. She had her own room and bed, but joined me later as we would always talk before sleeping and it was silly to shout between rooms.

AppleSetsSail Mon 20-Jun-16 15:28:46

Me! I loved it but it left me knackered. My youngest moved to his crib when he was about 18 months old - I left him with a nanny for 3 nights and that sorted him right out.

KittyandTeal Mon 20-Jun-16 15:38:43

Our dd1 bed shared until 2.2yo when I found myself 7 weeks pregnant and knackered.

We did new pjs and new bed sheets etc. Big up the big girl business, I slept on her floor for 3 nights and that was it.

She is my alarm clock and gets out of bed and joins us when her sun comes up on the gro clock. She's in with us if she's poorly and last got when all the power went off and there was a storm.

Last night reminded me how much I loved co sleeping with her.

lalath Mon 20-Jun-16 18:27:01

At five years old ds has just moved to a floor bed in our room - he had to because we now have baby dd who is in our bed.

Titsywoo Mon 20-Jun-16 18:28:13

2 but they came back regularly until about 8 I think. They snuck in while I was asleep.

Coconut0il Mon 20-Jun-16 20:06:17

At about 2 and a half DS1 used to start the night in his own bed. If he woke he always came in with us.

houseeveryweekend Mon 20-Jun-16 20:11:15

My Lo moved from my bed in to his own room at 6months and slept straight through from that point on. I think previously he had been waking me up every few hours just because of his movement and i was a light sleeper. As soon as he went in his own room we didnt wake each other up. Only very rarely does he cry during the night now, if hes ill or something. He usually sleeps through from 8pm till 9am. When he wakes he will just play in his cot and talk to himself for about half an hour.

StubbleTurnips Mon 20-Jun-16 20:14:25

She went on a full size single (with a bed rail) at 18 months where she usually sleeps for half the night, then sneaks in our bed.

PenguinsAreAce Mon 20-Jun-16 20:15:45

Same as Titsywoo

I did both really. There was a certain degree of training for when they were put to bed (essentially I'd put them down, and then sit in there with a book and a cup of tea and no eye contact until they got bored and went to sleep grin) but we didn't do anything for during the night waking, they'd just sleep with us. Consequently they didn't go into their own rooms until they slept through to the morning more nights than they didn't, and more importantly could get themselves up and back into my room to sleep if they did wake. Roughly 18mths/2 years iirc.
DS1 was the only one I tried to do' by the book' and it was bloody miserable until I gave up and we carried on with the (partial) co-sleeping. DD held out the longest I think. We'd have a couple of mornings a month where we'd wake up and she'd just be there in the middle of our bed right up until she was 6 or 7, usually because she'd had a bad dream.

PotteringAlong Mon 20-Jun-16 20:37:22

About 1. The 4 year old probably sneaks back in about twice a week now. The 2 year old never comes near me - he likes his own space too much.

PolaroidsFromTheBeyond Mon 20-Jun-16 20:40:02

My 4 year old has her own bed and room since she was a baby. However, it wasn't used regularly until last year. Now she goes to sleep in her own bed but almost always comes into mine at some point during the night. She will ocassionally sleep through in her own bed but it's not the norm.

CatherineDeB Mon 20-Jun-16 20:41:24

Nearly 3 here when she 'moved out'. At ten she still turns up in our bed once a week, maybe twice.

Am sure she will grow out of it eventually smile, and of course we could 'enforce' it but clearly we are relaxed about it.

ChilliMum Mon 20-Jun-16 20:45:13

About 18 months I think. We were lucky enough to have a large enough room with ds that his cot was in our room so from about 9 months I would put him down in his own cot to sleep and then when he woke for a feed (about 3am) I would bring him into bed. Once he got to 18 months he could climb out of the cot so we took off the sides and moved it into his room as I didn't think ours was safe enough if he went for a nightime wander. I used no cry sleep solution to settle him for a little while in his own room but it was a fairly painless transition. That said he has always come into our bed during the night while we are asleep, he is 5 now and still comes into my bed between 5 and 7 am most mornings but tbh I love our morning snuggles and I will be gutted when it stops grin

CobsAhoy Mon 20-Jun-16 21:43:25

Thanks for all the responses, it's good to hear a variety of experiences! As I expected there is a real range in ages, but it's reassuring to know it will happen at some point, hopefully before she is 18!

CatherineDeB Mon 20-Jun-16 21:45:34

Everyone is different Cobs. I have got friends who think it is ridiculous that Dd shows up at 10 but we don't mind and among my family it seem fairly normal until about 13 at times!

Salene Mon 20-Jun-16 21:47:27

He is 21 months and currently snoring his head off in his toddler bed a meter away from me in my bed

His bed is in our room, we tried him straight from co sleeping into own bed own room and it started off well but within 2 weeks it was a disaster

He often ends up in our bed still at some point before morning

Stylingwax Mon 20-Jun-16 21:49:28

DS left just before his 3rd birthday. When I say left he goes to sleep in his own but clambers in by about 2am every night. DD 5 months is in a crib by the bed but generally comes in for the early morning feed then we snooze. Love them in the bed, even tho my boob is permanently in a mouth and there are feet on my head.

wigelspigels Mon 20-Jun-16 21:50:09

5 years, but in bed with DH just now and almost 8. I'll be in DS room with 4 week old. He's a wee grunter when feeding - DH not sleeping well just now.

CobsAhoy Mon 20-Jun-16 21:56:02

And it's so good to hear from others who have/are enjoying bed sharing, i am the only one of my friends/family to do it and people keep asking me "is she still sleeping with you" with a twinge of pity in their voice confused

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly Mon 20-Jun-16 21:59:48

We moved him into his own room at 9 months - I was still doing night feeds until about 18 months though. The only way he would go into the cot on his own was with a sleepyhead pillow. Best thing we ever bought.

pinkstarsarefalling Mon 20-Jun-16 22:02:31

He went through a 'mine' phase at 20 mo and insisted he was fed to sleep in his bed. He'd stay there till first wake which varied for some time.

Around 2.5 it had got to 8-10 hours (until molars came for a bit and notwithstanding illness). With naps of 2 hours in the day 10 hours was all night. I night weaned around 2 and 3/4s (I think I'd do it sooner another time! But made no difference to sleep other than the annoying early morning stuff. Regression after 3 then pretty consistently sleeping all night as he neared 3.5 (a bit of verbal encouragement here and there but he seemed to be taking pride in it by that age).

It is really really variable though and I think trying to get him to go it alone around 7 mo really messed him up and made him extra clingy. (No training just tried to stop bedsharing)

But he has been a cling on and spend periods where he had to be touching me at night. I know nursery caused issues actually; for a while those nights were the bad ones.

pinkstarsarefalling Mon 20-Jun-16 22:04:43

Op read the book 'three in a bed' and you won't feel rubbish when people question it. It's far more common and normal than people think, sleeping alone is a Victorian western construct.

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