Breastfeeding to sleep

[user1465928800]

Any advice welcome please . My little girl is 15 weeks and at night we bath her then I breastfeed her and have to lie with her till she is in a deep sleep before transfering to her crib . Sometimes this takes 90 minutes or 2 hours . Last night I tried putting her in her crib after the feed and she was quite happy for 20 minutes staring at her mobile then starting crying , I kept going into soothe her etc but gave up afte 30 minutes and reverted back to our old routine . In her car seat she grumbles and I can't get to her whole driving so she now just falls asleep . Is it too soon to do this at night ? I'm desperate to get the bedtime routine shorter, but also can't bear leaving her to cry .

[FATEdestiny]

Have you tried a dummy?

[Minimalteserbunny]

is this your first baby? why do you feel like you want to get her in a routine at 15 weeks - she's too young,

babies need their mother I am afraid, frequent night waking is the biological norm you should not leave her to cry

Sorry if this is hard to read

[Tfoot75]

Op didn't mention night wakings, she might sleep all night for all we know (which is also biologically normal!).

If she is grumbling but not full on crying I would leave her for a bit to see if she falls asleep without you there. Try to introduce some other comfort object eg dummy, teddy or use white noise to soothe.

[user1465928800]

Yes I am aware she needs her mummy and don't have a problem with that or night feeds . It would just be nice if my husband could put her to bed after i feed her occasionally so I was merely asking for advice /support . As I'm sure you know bf is lovely but does put all the pressure on mummy so I was looking for ways my husband could help . Thank you tfoot for your advice X

[TiffanyAtBreakfast]

No advice but just wanted to say my baby does this too, you're not alone. It's hard.

[Minimalteserbunny]

Sorry you didn't mention your husband settling your baby I thought you were looking for help with your routine I just wanted to reassure you that it's normal for her to do that at night

The time will come when your husband can help with bedtime settings OP I promise they change very quickly my husband was able to put my little one to bed from around 9 months it took a long time to wean of BF to sleep

I just think We expect little ones to be non reliant on us so soon it's hard on you I know but it gets easier

[Tfoot75]

Ah ok, my 2nd is 8 weeks old, she doesn't have a bedtime yet as isn't really showing signs of wanting to go down at the same time every night. I bf her when we go up to bed but I put her straight back into bedside crib, if she stays asleep then it's a bonus, if not then either dh or I lie alongside her, pop dummy back in or put a hand on her chest if she needs it but generally we can be reading a book or watching tv on iPad with headphones. We've done this since she was born more for our own convenience but also trying not to get into habits that you then have to keep up like with our first! Obviously if she cries we pick her up but that's quite rare as she's used to it now, generally she keeps dropping off then waking herself back up and kicking her legs around before dropping off properly. We only use the dummy if she's moaning a bit. They are all different though so yours might need a bit more help, which is perfectly normal at this age. Do you have a bedside crib? Appreciate its not easy to settle them without one!