Hey all, need a hand to hold. We have two bedrooms. 6 month DD2 has never been a great sleeper, she still sometimes feeds in the night, some times just wakes up to shout at us. We were waiting to put her in with DD1 (a better sleeper) until she got rid of her current cold or slept more consistently, but eventually realised she always has a cold and there'll never be a good time if we wait. She's teething at the moment too.
The interesting thing about DD2 is that she self settles and always has done, for naps and bed. You put her down in the cot awake without a dummy and she plays and talks to herself until she's asleep (takes about 5 minutes), she'll also go to sleep on the playmat if she's tired-this isn't thanks to anything we've ever done, she's never been left to cry etc-we just noticed it was something she would do. DD1 was the opposite-needed loads of help to get to sleep but once she was out she was down for the night, and slept 7-7 by 12 weeks.
So last night. My God. We put them down in the same room (blackouts/white noise/Sleepyheads which they've both had since birth) and they went to sleep. DD1 is still asleep now (6:50) and DD2 woke at midnight (feed) and four (dummy) and then up for the day at 5:10 (pretty standard wake up for her-she did a massive poo and that was that).
So safe to say, sharing hasn't improved or worsened DD2's sleep, but it has meant that I've got nowhere to put her when she's up-when she woke up in our room I could change the nappy then leave her to play and kick in her cot while I dozed in bed, but I don't want to leave her in with DD1 because I don't want both of them up for the day at 5. I could put a travel cot in our room, and pick the whole Sleepyhead up and bring it in when she gets up maybe?
I'm so fecking tired, so despondent, and I really really got frustrated with her in the night. Looking back I feel like an idiot, but I felt really panicky and stressed when she wouldn't sleep and I had nowhere to put her. DD1 just slept through and was fine, but I raced in there when DD2 woke up to avoid her being too disturbed.
Does anyone have any advice? What can I do differently?
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Room sharing and debunking the self settling thing
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minniebear · 25/04/2016 07:03
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