Nearly 2 year old never slept through night!!

(25 Posts)
Bee182814 Fri 04-Mar-16 20:27:19

I thought I would post out of desperation really as I've tried everything else....
My DS will be 2 in June and has never slept through in his life - in fact he wakes every 30-40 minutes throughout the night. My slerp app tell me thst i get an average of 1 hour 27 mins dlerp a night! I'm due DC 2 in august and have suffered badly with sickness and tiredness this pregnancy to the point where the lack of sleep is now making me very depressed. I've tried everything, I've got every sleep book under the sun, paid these online 'sleep experts' for sleep plans, tried leaving him to cry it out (he will literally go for hours!) Begged GP and HV to help and they won't do anything. He has a solid routine and is well fed, stimulated etc. Anyone have any advice? I'm desperate, this is ruining my life!

crispiecrunchie Sat 05-Mar-16 03:09:27

I have no real advice but just started my own thread about my baby. My dd is 2.5 and dinner wakes a lot moaning in the night. Our only solution on the bad nights is bringing her into bed with us. assume you have tried that?

Otherwise is the temperature ok? Not getting too hot or cold? A comforter, toy and book in with her have also helped.

You have my sympathy. On the nights one sleeps well the other seems to wake every five minutes. In the babies case literally
. There is a lot of chanting 'this too shall pass'

Xxx

ThisWasCrownjewel Sat 05-Mar-16 03:54:07

I'm up now with DS (17mths) who doesn't sleep through - I'm due the next DC any day now also, so really feeling it at the moment. No useful cures here i'm afraid, but a hand to hold and a cup of hot tea for you flowersbrew

Out2pasture Sat 05-Mar-16 04:07:28

Drop them off at the grand parents for the week.

Bee182814 Sat 05-Mar-16 06:21:48

Thank you very much for your reply. It is comforting to know it's not just me - although I wouldn't wish it on anyone!

Yes tried putting him in with us - just kicks me and pokes me in the eyes thinking it's time to play!

He has a monkey in with him who he loves. I think temp wise he's doing okay. Might try books for the morning maybe that would give us 5 extra minutes!

Appreciate your time, thank you xxx

Bee182814 Sat 05-Mar-16 06:23:24

Crown jewel - good luck with yours! Hope all goes well. Really appreciate the support. Slept deprivation can be such a lonely place xx

Bee182814 Sat 05-Mar-16 06:25:22

Not possible in our situation. Thanks for your 'help.'

SeasonalVag Sat 05-Mar-16 06:32:04

My elder son never slept til he was three. I was dead set against cosleeping. When I had my second, I just co slept .And he's a great sleeper. He sleeps alone now. If I had my time back again, I wouldn't have been so hard on my first, I think in hindsight some babies need more reassurance. My son who is now six told he he used to be really scared of being alone, and wasn't making it up as he even described what he was scared of, a picture in his room. He's pretty sensitive by nature, and I hate the thought that ibwasnt listening to him. So if you can, cosleep. And send him to bed with a full tummy.

SeasonalVag Sat 05-Mar-16 06:33:58

I remember the panic of being pregnant and sleeping deprivation, its a horrific combination. You have my sympathies. Does he sleep during the day?

WaccaWacca Sat 05-Mar-16 06:34:06

Is he still napping during the day? Both of mine started sleeping miles better when we dropped the nap. I know the advice is usually 'sleep begets sleep' but wasn't the case for us.

JerryFerry Sat 05-Mar-16 06:37:18

It is definitely not just you.

Have you thought about getting a sleep consultant? I know it sounds ridiculous but I don't think you can put a price on wellbeing.

I used a sleep consultant with my son at 5 months and she had him whipped into a daytime routine as quick as you like. Never did crack the nights and it turns out he has a disorder but understanding that is helpful.

SusanAndBinkyRideForth Sat 05-Mar-16 06:47:03

My 4 year old didn't sleep through until she was 3.
By which time I has the next non sleeper. She's now 2.5 and has slept through once (although usually only wakes once at about 5 so I'm coping) and I'm expecting #3.

I didn't sleep through until age 4. My brother was 5. My cousins were 4. I think it sometimes runs in families and all you can do is wait it out.

Not helpful, sorry sad

VeryPunny Sat 05-Mar-16 06:53:53

DD is nearly 3 and has never slept through. At least now she can sometimes wake quietly and come into bed with one of us so disruption is minimal. CO sleeping is the only thing that worked for us.

Her younger brother is usually out like a light at 7pm and we don't hear a peep out of him until about 6am (he's 16m). Go figure....

waitingforsomething Sat 05-Mar-16 07:04:07

Poor you op that is an unsustainable amount of sleep.
When he wakes every 30-40 minutes do you leave him or do you have to do something? If so what do you do?

You say he's well fed which I'm sure he is- have you tried a 4th meal- like weetabix or porridge and a banana before bed to give him a bit extra?

Also cut his nap or reduce it a lot- they're all different and he might not need it. Dd1 although a reasonably good night sleeper didn't need a day sleep at all past two. And As a child I didn't nap past 6 months!

My last suggestion is a bed instead of a cot - he might be more comfortable and you can get a decent bed guard. Dmil always says that dh hated his cot and slept better in a bed from about 1

crispiecrunchie Sat 05-Mar-16 11:52:11

Another suggestion is some people have success with the groclock. Might be slightly young? We go for path of least resistance a lot. Is there a time he does sleep ok? I've taken to going to bed at 8 as normally get to half ten. I'm finding reading here and posting helps ar least makes it feel less lonely when surrounded by kids that slept through at 6 weeks!!!

crispiecrunchie Sat 05-Mar-16 11:55:23

Also agree with Wacca when we dropped the nap it helped. Fingers crossed you get better sleeper xxx

Bee182814 Sat 05-Mar-16 18:42:15

Hiya - thanks for replying, absolutely overwhelmed by all the support so very grateful! He has a nap for about an hour at 10 ish - will definitely consider dropping it now.

Generally he just wants dummy back but a few times a night just stands up in the cot and poi ts at the door (he wants me to take him in to my bed but then plays up when I get him there!)

Turning cot bed in to bed is a good suggestion, I've considered it (along with gro clock) but I don't think he will 'get' the gro clock yet, it's amazing what a few weeks can do in terms of their understanding though so one to keep in mind for sure.

I'm also going to bed as soon as I get him to bed, doesn't bother me a great deal as Ibe always liked an early night smile

Totally agree it's genetic - OH and his siblings didn't sleep through till they were at school and my brother and sis the same!

Tried online sleep consultation thing - though it was a bit rubbish to be fair but open minded if any recommendations.

Thank you all so much - it's really appreciated and nice to hear it gets better/I'm not the only one! Xxx

hazbaz Sat 05-Mar-16 19:06:50

My Ds1 didn't sleep through once until he was 21 months and went through periods of waking every 30-40 mins so you totally have my sympathies thanks. What worked for us was probably pretty unique circumstances, we moved from a 1 bed flat to an old 2 bed cottage & I found out I was pregnant with DS2. We just explained to him that as he was a big boy he needed to stay asleep his bed all night & went for it one night leaving him in his cot with a grobag (so couldn't get cold) but DH going up & telling him he could sleep by himself & he did after about 15 mins of crying.

I totally agree that some children just take longer to be ready to sleep by themselves, he is 7 now & still creeps into our bed occasionally as he says he misses us / doesn't like to be alone!

Equally we tried to leave DS2 to cry when he was about 18 months and wouldn't sleep unless in bed with us, he cried for over 35 mins when I cracked...in the end what worked was when we put him in DS1's bedroom in the cot & he started to sleep through. He was probably just 2 by then.

Is there anyway to have a cot or even a blow up mattress in your bedroom for a bit so he's with you but not disturbing you so much? Then try again in a few weeks? Even a few weeks can make such a difference to their understanding / emotional maturity at that age.

Anyway probably not helpful but just wanted to let you know you are not alone and we've got through it twice and you will too!

Bee182814 Sat 05-Mar-16 19:32:21

I've thought about having the cot in our room for a bit to see if it makes him more comfortable - was just wondering if it would confuse/upset him when baby comes in a few months but definitely something to consider - thank you! Xxx

waitingforsomething Sat 05-Mar-16 22:48:33

Also have you considered cold turkey on the dummy if it's causing waking? A tough couple of nights but could be worth it. Agree you may have another few months before a gro-clock will be worth it

crispiecrunchie Sun 06-Mar-16 00:08:33

We have the same issue with the dummy with dd. Doesn't seem to occur to her to look for it. She just shouts 'I want my dummy'. It was ok with just her and we could pop in once or twice a night but with the pair of them tag team waking its not so easy. This last week we have dropped the dummy during the day and she has done really well without it. I agree a few weeks make a a huge difference in their understanding.

Apparently I didn't sleep through till three. I licensed my sleep now though! I have that song 'I'll sleep when I'm dead' running in my head a lot!! Xxxx

crispiecrunchie Sun 06-Mar-16 00:09:43

That should be love my sleep!!

Bee182814 Sun 06-Mar-16 06:06:38

Yes also something I've considered but I'm such a chicken I've been to scared! Okay I've got a list of possible things to try - all very helpful ladies I'm so grateful! Happy mothers day all xxx

BigPigLittlePig Sun 06-Mar-16 14:06:29

My dd is now 3 and has only just started reliably sleeping through. When times were really bad I resorted to sleeping on her floor on a mattress - it's interesting that now her speech is really good, she talks about the "shadows" in her room and other scary things. Anyway, I always thought that trying to make her happy to be in her own room was helpful. I think also if you are feeling brave enough, losing the dummy might be an idea, especially if that is what's causing him to wake so often.

TeaPleaseLouise Sun 06-Mar-16 14:16:56

Just about being a chicken - I totally was about stopping DS's night feeds after he turned two, I thought it was going to be horrific. In the end, he was unsettled for two nights then seemed to forget about it. The build up to it was much worse than actually doing it.

Happy Mothers Day!

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