Toddler asking for nappy change after being put to bed.... wwyd?

[UnplainJane]

He is 21mo and great at going to bed and getting himself off to sleep but the last few nights about 10 minutes after going to bed he is shouting 'Mummy, wee wee nappy, change nappy!' I didn't bother for the first few nights, just went in to tuck him back in and tell him to go to sleep, which he has done. For some reason tonight I did change him, took 2 minutes and he was asleep about 5 minutes after but now I'm thinking this is going to happen every night after I indulged him! I don't suppose it's a bad thing, he might be uncomfortable and want a clean nappy to sleep in, or might just be asking to string bedtime out.

Would you change or leave it if it were your DC?

[Scarletforya]

Is it wet?

If so I'd change it. I wouldn't view that as 'indulging' him.

[UnplainJane]

Indulged probably the wrong word! It is wet yes, I just have an image of him squeezing a wee out just to be taken out of bed again..... Basically a toilet trained toddlers version of 'needing another wee' after being put to bed! He is quite happy to have the nappy on wet overnight without asking for it to be changed (and he does wake frequently so plenty of opportunity to ask!).

[KP86]

Why don't you include a nappy change as part of your pre-bed routine and then say he now doesn't need a new one until morning.

(PS. I have a DS same age and I'm impressed yours tells you when he's wet!)

[UnplainJane]

He has a bed time routine of bath, clean nappy (obviously!), book with milk then bed. I don't think he would mind if I didn't change it, he just likes to tell me. But since he is awake still with an obviously wet nappy it maybe seems a bit wrong to leave it on him when he is asking me to change it?

He has always been quite forward with language, he shocks me with some of the things he comes out with, we were reading a book the other day and he said 'Mummy, there is a mouse on the cement mixer'...... I was !

[UnplainJane]

(Not as articulate as I've typed, pronunciation still needs work, lol)

[FATEdestiny]

How about changing to pull ups and encouraging having a wee on the toilet/potty before bed?

Don't get ahead of yourself and start thinking about potty training fully, just introduce the idea that he could have a wee just before bed rather than always having one just after going to bed, and be a 'big boy' while he's at it.

As part of bedtime routine, bath, teeth, 5 minutes sat on the toilet chatting (big cheer if he does a wee, no big deal if nothing happens this is just about creating the try for a wee before bed habit), then clean nappy milk and bed.

[UnplainJane]

He sees his 6yo brother doing a wee before bath and has asked to try for one but only managed a drop once then got stage fright (he was trying standing up as that's what big brother does but I know that's probably not the best way to introduce it). Might try with him sitting same time each night as routine, good idea FATE.

[FATEdestiny]

It could literally just be sitting time, with no pressure to do a wee. I used to clean DSs teeth while he sat without a nappy on the baby toilet seat (hygienic, I know!) Then dry and brush his hair. Talk about having a wee, sometimes doing a wee.

At least then if he does do a wee in his clean nappy and need a nappy change just after going to bed, you can then start the conversation about if he needed a wee he could have done it when on the toilet instead.