Help! DS2 is almost 4 months old and I feel like it is all going wrong wrt to his sleep. Main issues are:
- he will not nap in his cot during the day. Will only nap in his buggy in the hallway if I rock him to sleep. Or on me if we are out and about (at a friends house for a play date with older DS for example).
Feel like I am failing at this because I am sure I could put his older brother down in the cot for daytime naps by this age 😰
- his naps are all over the place, sometimes wakes after 20 mins, usually 40 mins, occasionally will have an hour or two but only if I rock the buggy when he stirs.
- at night he will NOT going to sleep without being rocked/cuddled to sleep. Again, this feels like I am failing to "get it right" because ds1 would quietly grizzle himself off to sleep by this age. My new baby just screams and screams and screams until I pick him up and rock him.
- in the last few days he has begun waking up inconsolable between 2-4am and will only settle back to sleep in the bed with me. I hate the idea of co-sleeping and don't want to do it, but it is the only thing that will settle him. He spits dummy out and cries. (Oh and he is not hungry when he wakes - he is FF and has a massive dream feed at 11pm, and when we get up for the day at 0630 he doesn't even cry for his bottle until 8am, from which I can surmise that he is not hungry in the night!).
- family are all telling me that it's a bad road to head down, having to cuddle him to sleep and cuddle him in the night, and I feel like I am failing to get him to do the most straightforward thing, ie sleep on his own. Which his older brother managed fine.
Please can someone tell me how I can solve these problems?!? Or if not, can anyone who's come out the other side reassure me that he will grow out of this on his own at some point??
I cannot physically rock him to sleep much longer, he is 98th centile and almost 18lb already.
Feel like it's all gone wrong this time.