Hi there guys! I'd love some advice.
Our 4 year old has been slipping out of bed in the middle of the night and jumping into our bed, where he insists on sleeping for the rest of the night. He's been doing this for a couple of years and it has developed into a bad habit. The bigger he gets, the worse our nights sleep is getting as he takes up so much room. The only other option is getting up and taking him back to his own bed where we must lie beside him the rest of the night. A narrow kids bed- it's not good either! My very hands-on and great husband is really dealing with this by himself at the moment as I have hurt my back and he doesn't want me having to be uncomfortable in a tiny bed. He works very hard all day and now he's not getting a good nights sleep, so I worry about him too!
Ds tells us he doesn't want to sleep on his own as he is scared of the dark. I've explained there is nothing to be scared of. Then he says he just wants someone to sleep next to him. He gets upset when we discuss it.
So here's what I've tried. Ds has a nightlight on in his room all night. The dog has started to sleep at the foot of his bed for company and comfort, but ds still gets up and comes in to us. I made a reward chart - if he was to sleep in his own bed until 7am for 7 consecutive nights he would get a nerf gun. Ds was very excited about this, but he didn't even get on to the first step. I bought a gro clock sleep trainer, it didn't work at all.
Ds apologises perfusely in the morning and says he's sorry he disturbs mummy and daddy. I don't want to traumatise him, but I lost the rag a bit this morning and told him Santa might not come to him this year. Que tears and panic. So I'm not proud of myself there.
I really don't know what to do and how to break this habit. This can't continue for his sake or ours. We have a one year old too (who thank goodness sleeps through)
Please give me your thoughts and advice on how to gently but firmly get ds to sleep in his own bed! All night! Before we lose the plot! Thanks in advance.
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4 year old won't sleep in his own bed! Advice please!
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MockTurtle20 · 13/10/2015 12:23
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