Hi all,
I'm planning on starting gradual retreat with my 10 month old DD this weekend.
I'm just looking for advice really from those who have done it. Would like to put some kind of plan in place to concentrate on as I can't bear her crying.
Dreading it as she has co slept from birth (we have a co sleeper cot next to the bed but mostly she prefers to be right next to me for all night bf access!)
The problem is that she physically cannot get back to sleep without me bf her and she wakes A LOT. I don't even count how much but we are talking every 30 mins - 2 hours absolute max. So we are both tired & I feel guilty & sorry for her because she does seem so tired during the day. In the morning she starts to cry & moan after about half an hour of being awake so could obviously do with better sleep.
I don't even bother trying to give her breakfast anymore, she is never interested, she must be full from the all night feeding marathon. Thing is, i wouldn't feel comfortable night weaning because she doesn't actually eat loads during the day so sometimes she does seem genuinely hungry. So how can I get her out of her cot sometimes & not others? I suppose I'm just hoping she will start to wake less for feeds & will learn to eat more solids during the day.
I think I'm dreading it so much because I'm not sure that it will even work. I can't imagine her ever just lying down & going to sleep by herself with no bf. What if she just cries for hours & hours? Should I encourage her to take a dummy or will that just create more problems?
Is the idea that I put her down in her cot awake & not get her out unless she is really upset, and in theory she will eventually just lie down & sleep? Im thinking I will sleep on floor next to her cot (in her own bedroom) for first couple of nights & then maybe sit on a chair next to cot maybe from 3rd night.
Sorry for the ramble just hoping someone can help/advise as I'm feeling sad & guilty about the whole thing. I think she will find it traumatic & won't understand why I'm not picking her up etc.
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Cb148 · 23/08/2015 22:01
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