Advice and support please! 3 month old has lost the ability to self-settle and I've fallen into the feeding to sleep trap.... again!!

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uppereastsidemom Fri 31-Jul-15 18:28:26

DD1 was a horrendous tongue-tied, refluxy, colicky non-sleeper, so we have been counting our blessings with DD2 (12 weeks) who, to date, has been a champion self-settler and long-napper. She had a bit of a witching hour at bedtime between weeks 7 and 10 but that has now settled. She has always breast-fed to sleep at bedtime and throughout the night, but settled herself for naps.

However, for the last few days she has been addicted to boob and refusing naps!! She self-settled for her morning sleep this morning, but needed to be fed to sleep for the next nap, woke 30 minutes in, and of course I fed her back to sleep again hmm.

I know I need to break this habit before it gets really entrenched, both at naps and bedtime, but obviously am not going to let her cry. But my feeling is that the Pantley pull-off is too wishy washy (and didn't work at all for DD1). I am hoping that gently but firmly working on it now, at just 12 weeks, will be easier than at 6 months, 12 months etc when we are really sleep deprived.

So I'm thinking of removing feeding from the bedroom entirely. I.E last feed before bed downstairs, and same before naps. Obviously feed in the bedroom at night but try not to keep feeding to sleep. Does this sound sensible? We'll rock, swaddle, white noise etc her to sleep ad nauseum, but I cannot end up with another intractable feeder-to-sleep a few months down the line like I did with DD2... Anything I'm missing or not considering?

uppereastsidemom Fri 31-Jul-15 18:30:29

I should have put in my post, I'm well aware that feeding to sleep isn't a problem in and of itself and it works for loads of people, but I'm going back to work in a matter of weeks, don't enjoy co-sleeping, and want DH to be able to put her to bed when I'm in the house. So, self-settling (if she can) is the name of the game here people!!

HighOverTheFenceLeapsSunnyJim Mon 03-Aug-15 22:35:46

Bumping this for responses. No idea myself as have only fed to sleep myself (but wondering what to do differently with dc3 that might make him sleep through before the age of 2...)

FATEdestiny Tue 04-Aug-15 11:28:38

Have you thought about a dummy for a baby who clearly likes sucking to sleep?

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