What am I doing wrong??

[HoLLYT86]

My daughter has always been really great at going to bed (she has never slept through the night... not once!!!) But actually going to sleep has never been a problem. We used to have some milk, a little cuddle then I would lay her down in her cot with her projector and lullabies on and lay on the floor next to her until she fell asleep.

She used to go to sleep beautifully for me very rarely making a fuss but when my other half tried she would have a tantrum until I went in.

Now it seems to be the complete opposite!! She goes down for my other half without a peep or fuss but if I try to put her to bed I have tantrums, tears and screaming for up to an hour. She won't go to sleep with me lying on the floor anymore, if I try to pat her to sleep or stroke her she pushes me away if I pick her up she continues to scream, I tried leaving the room thinking maybe she just doesn't want me in there but nothing seems to work and she literally cries her self to sleep. I have never down cry it out as it just isn't something I feel happy doing and I would rather her go to sleep happy and reassured as she always has done until now!

My mum child mind's has her for me 2 days a week while I'm at work and tells me she goes to sleep for her without a fuss too! Apparently she just puts her in the cot awake and leaves the room and that's it she goes off by herself... I have tried this too but resulted in more tears and screaming!

My partner and I both do the exact same routine.... why is she playing up so much only for me? ???

Has them is ever happened to anyone else or do u have any idea why she has suddenly started behaving this way with me??

Many thanks

Worried and upset mummy

[carolinementzer]

Sorry how old is your daughter?

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

Erm, I'd reckon that she's trying her luck. Tbh, I'd leave her to it for a short while - I bet there's no tears! (This is when a video monitor is handy)

DS does this for DH more than me but by the time that we've cleared up the toddler tornado he's usually stopped. If she is toddler age I'd expect that she's just practising asserting herself again

[FailedActress]

I know controlled crying is really hard but in this instance, I'm not sure you have much other choice - she definitely seems like she's pushing the boundaries. What do you normally do when she does this? Do you give in and get your OH to go in instead? Or is there something specific you would do which she is acting up for?