Ok, so I take all of the blame. I have completely messed up any chance of a sleep routine with my little girl, who is just about to turn one. My husband moved out when she was 7 weeks old and unfortunately, creating a good bedtime routine was the last thing on my mind. Now I am definitely paying the price. It is always stressful getting her to bed as she won't settle by herself, she wakes 2-3 times during the night for a feed (usually 3-4oz) and when she does wake, usually ends up in my bed as she screams until I give in. I'm so tired that I just usually cave and go whatever gets us to sleep quickest.
Due to space within the house she is currently sleeping in my room still (in her cot). She was supposed to be moving in to share with her sister (a 4 year old) but I am concerned she will just keep her awake and so won't move her.
When my eldest was this age she had a good routine and would go to sleep really nicely, and was usually sleeping through the night. I don't really like controlled crying, but what usually happens is I reach my breaking point and just leave her to cry herself to sleep and then feel guilty afterwards. The poor little mite struggles with separation anxiety in the day and cries when I leave her - I don't know if it's a product of the marital split but she does seem much more clingy than my eldest. I've tried mentioning it to my health visitor, but I just get told to leave her to cry and I really struggle with that. It's upsetting for both of us and we still don't get any sleep.
I really want to try and find a nice way to help her have a more peaceful bedtime (she has the same problem at nap time) and also to cut out the night waking so we can all start to get some rest. I find it really hard to be firm in the night when I'm on my own and have no support.
Has anybody else been in a similar situation - any tips??
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1 year old with no sleep routine - HELP!
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Staceymummy85 · 07/09/2014 10:21
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