10month in our bed. Help!

[laura20]

My 10 month old has slept in our bed since he was at round 4.5 months, I know this is the complete wrong way of doing it but at the time it wan anything to get some sleep. Now at 10 months he is still there and it's become really difficult because he is tossing and turning all night, kicking and wriggling, we need to get him into his cot he just won't go. He usually drinks 2 7oz bottles before bed but is a fussy eater He will have porridge or toast for his breakfast and then it's lucky if we get a few spoons in him for lunch and dinner.

The other awkward thing is I work and my partner has been made redundant, he tries to keep in in a routine but I'm not always thereto make sure it's going the way it should. He has also started to cling to my partner he will cry for him when he leaves the room and only go asleep in his arms which is getting me down as I work shifts.

His bedtime can differ between 7:30-10:30pm I have tried gettin him to bed before but if he's not tired he just won't go he usually wakes up about 8 probably so late because he tosses and turns all night. Then will have between 1-2 hour sleep around 11 but then his second sleep differs.

Please any advice at all will help, I'm willing to try anything

Thanks

[Themrmen]

Have you tried controlled crying? I know it's not for everyone but we've been doing it with our 7mo who cos slept from early on, we're on day 6 and although he is still crying for about an hour before sleeping he is now sleeping in his cot, which considering how clinging he was to me it's a miracle. It does take a lot of will power and a rigid routine.

Good luck tho

[minkah]

Can you put the cot next to your bed with one side missing, so he is in his own space but right by you?

Maybe he needs his own space, close to you, with his own bedding.. Like, is he too warm? Or not warm enough?

Any problem with temperature regulation would make him restless.

He will eat more dinner once he starts walking and uses more energy! Eating more dinner will make him sleep better.

Don't worry laura.things will shift for the better soon. He may very well be suffering with teething, which makes sleeping tricky and eating tricky too, and definitely makes a baby needy of plenty cuddles from primary carer.

Hopefully teething will improve soon.

If you can get to a pharmacy, try the homeopathic remedy pulsatilla.. It's really good for when teething babies are a bit restless and clingy.

Good luck.

(Btw it's definitely not 'the complete wrong way of doing it'!!! )