Cosleeping what do you do in the evenings?

(23 Posts)
parttimer79 Wed 02-Apr-14 10:27:39

After a period of illness and v disrupted sleep we took dd now 7 months into our bed. Better sleep all round but now she won't sleep in her cot. Ideally I want her in the cot but while I work on that... Does anyone have suggestions of what to do to get my evenings back. Sh currently falls asleep on one of us after bath and feed at 7 then we take her up when we are tired but I neeeed my evenings with DP back! What do people do with cosleeping babies from 7 til 11? Can anyone help?

monniemae Wed 02-Apr-14 10:29:25

Watching!! We've had this since 4weeks... currently 28 weeks..

ColdTeaAgain Wed 02-Apr-14 12:41:57

What happens if you try and put her in her cot once she's fallen asleep on one of you?

ThisFenceIsComfy Wed 02-Apr-14 12:45:42

This is a bit extreme but....

Baby proof your room, put a mattress on floor, take her up to sleep there, once she's asleep, roll away like a ninja and enjoy your evening.

monniemae Wed 02-Apr-14 16:29:50

ThisFence doesn't work for us - baby just won't stay asleep if I'm not there hmm

parttimer79 Wed 02-Apr-14 17:12:36

Hmm if we put a mattress on the floor we will have to move our bed out. I wondered about bed rails and all bedding removed. What I really want though is her to sleep in the damn cot!!

ChickenFromHell Wed 02-Apr-14 19:15:20

Bed rail here, plus a pillow boundary at the end.

I sneak off the bed when she's fallen asleep and leg it upstairs with a boob out if she cries. She's been a consistently bad sleeper but were down to 1 wake up a night now (fingers crossed) - next is working on moving her to her cot.

BB01 Wed 02-Apr-14 19:31:47

I feed her to sleep on a futon then roll away when I can. This didn't work consistently at first but I kept trying.

cakebaby Wed 02-Apr-14 21:07:33

Ninja style retreat here too. Accidental co sleeping after multiple bouts of illness as well hmm I wait til he's in deep sleep (about 35 mins) and creep out. Have creaky floorboards though so its like a Crystal Maze game getting out.... hardly ideal

EmmaLL25 Wed 02-Apr-14 21:31:44

We turned our regular cot into side sleeper after period of cot refusing. So we were lying down to feed to sleep then I'd disappear once he was asleep. I made a pillow wall to block space onto our bed until I went to bed - that said he never moved much when he woke anyway.

He then got happily used to cot - whereas he used to scream if he realised he was going in it.

Can now put him in cot awake and he'll go to sleep (doesnt help night wakings , but that's another story).

parttimer79 Thu 03-Apr-14 11:42:36

Thanks, I think I'll try to get her sleeping on the bed but not cuddled up to me and then get her into the cot in the same way. Off to practice my ninja skills!

parttimer79 Thu 03-Apr-14 19:37:09

Is it safe to leave her with bed guard no bedding and monitor on? I have pnd and anxiety so not always great at assessing risk

cakebaby Thu 03-Apr-14 19:54:18

That's what I do, though he's starting to crawl so god knows what fresh hell that will bring grin

stitchedupbelow Thu 03-Apr-14 20:34:12

No advice. Just pleased to see I'm not the only one! Cakebaby - I was on the sleep regression thread with you and dread to think what havoc crawling will cause to co/sleeping!

monniemae Thu 03-Apr-14 20:46:37

parttimer that sounds safe. We're away this wkend but from sunday/monday I too have resolved to try again... Shall just have to resettle every time she wakes up and hope she starts sleeping longer without me shock

stitchedupbelow Thu 03-Apr-14 20:50:16

Sorry Partimer - I agree that your set up sounds safe.

ThisFenceIsComfy Thu 03-Apr-14 22:29:12

No bedding and bed guard sounds fine. I'm a bit over cautious and got rid of my bed and we sleep on a mattress on the floor. We quite like it actually we are a bit mental

IUsedToUseMyHands Thu 03-Apr-14 22:35:12

I get into the cot with him, lay down beside him and feed him to sleep, then spring out ninja style! One day it will break but so far so good...

DelBot123 Mon 07-Apr-14 07:30:52

I take my lo to bed at 6. Once she's in her grobag I feed her lying down on the bed. She sleeps where the pillows should go, so the headboard is on her left. On her right I pile pillows. The baby monitor is up high on one of the bed posts. I go downstairs and keep an eye on her. If she wakes she usually doesn't open her eyes or gets up. She fidgets and goes back to sleep. If she does wake up and grumbles I go up and resettle/feed. I can usually leave her sleepy now after 2 months of this routine She blows bubbles and chats away and eventually falls asleep. I used to go to bed with her at 6 until she was 3 months. Now I sneak off. She's 5 months

parttimer79 Mon 07-Apr-14 16:48:02

Delbot that sounds ideal in my situation. A friend is lending me a co sleeper cot so hopefully that will help.

CrispyCrochet Wed 09-Apr-14 07:53:30

I'm glad I checked the other threads before posting as I do most posted this exact same thing.

My LO isn't reliably rolling yet so realistically it is safe to leave him on the bed with the monitor on?! Right? I mean I know when he starts rolling & crawling this will be dangerous. But I need him to get to sleep earlier plus I want my evenings with DH too!

Donki Wed 09-Apr-14 07:58:55

I used to do ninja style retreats too.

Then he learnt to roll for the first time after I had sneaked off from his afternoon nap.

There was a loud thud and lots of wailing.

Fortunately no harm done. But I felt like the worst ever mother for about a week...

Catsize Thu 10-Apr-14 00:03:41

I find 50 a magic number. Once child is asleep, after last sign of movement, count to 50, slowly, then embrace ninja technique.

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