DD (21 months) has always been a tricky sleeper and it's particularly settling that she finds hard. Up until now we've just sat in with her, or even just stood in the doorway of her room til she drops off. It normally takes about half an hour, but since about 16 months she's been sleeping through and doesn't wake too early so we really consider it a small price to pay and have never wanted to let her cry.
However in the last 2 weeks she's been a real nightmare. She's obviously tired and ready for bed, but we do the normal bedtime routine and hang around her room and she's perfectly happy, lying down and quiet, but still awake! As soon as we try to creep out she starts to cry. It's been ridiculous - she's often still been awake 2 hours later.
Yesterday for her nap and at bedtime I left her to cry. I'm a real wuss with her crying at bedtime, but even I could tell that it wasn't really upset crying, but even so it still made me That said, it took her 12 mins to drop off at nap time and 8 at bedtime, even though it felt much longer.
DH and I both feel really sad about her crying herself to sleep - it just seems to go against the grain and we feel like we're abandoning her . But I can't see another way - is there? I'm 35 weeks pregnant and can't be spending 2 hours getting her to sleep with a newborn to tend to!
I know there'll be polar opposite views on this - some who think I'm ridiculous for fussing over a a few inconsequential tears that are "normal" and others who think you should never ever leave a child to cry under any circumstances. I'd love there to be a middle way, but I don't think there is. We were already doing a form of gradual retreat and going back to reassure her every couple of minutes just wakes her up and draws the process out. I suppose I'm looking for some reassurance and wondering if she will get to the point where there won't be any crying?
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Toddler crying herself to sleep - hate it, but can't see another option
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blushingmare · 29/03/2014 07:34
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