My 11 week old is keeping us up the past few nights with his really noisy stirring. I feel like I am up every 1/2 an hour checking he is ok. He actually only wakes once for a feed in the night the rest of the time he is noisly thrashing around. I believe this is to do with his sleep cycle - how long will this go on for? I am knackered I feel like I am getting no sleep. He has only really woken prior to this for food.
I know this goes against everything we are told to do re. cot death etc. etc., but I am a terrible sleeper and am disturbed really easily and my youngest ds (10 weeks old) is also really noisy, unsettled, easily disturbed, so after 3 weeks of having him in our room, we moved him into his own and now both he and I sleep a lot better. My poor dh is currently sleeping on the sofa however as he snores and I'm already sleep-deprived without him adding to it!
To my mind, if anything is going to happen, the likelyhood is you wouldn't know anyway if you were sleeping, so whether they're in the same room as you or not I don't think it would make much difference. I have the baby monitor on in my room (turned down enough so you don't hear every shuffle though) and check on him regularly. Plus I follow all the other guidelines re. sleep position etc.
As mums we are made to feel guilty about whatever decision we make, whether it's about where our babies sleep or breastfeeding. for the record I desperately wanted to bf, but I was unable to get either of my ds's to latch on and without any support I was forced to give up, however the guilt remains and every doctor or h.v appointment I go to I am made to feel like I'm doing something wrong.
Sorry, rant over. It's just every baby and every mum is different and I think it's important to go with what works for you and your family and if you decide to move your baby to his/her own room please don't feel guilty about it. It wasn't an easy decision for us to do that, but you have to weigh up the pros and cons and with two small children to look after I needed to get as much sleep as possible in between actual wakings for feeds.
I totally agree on the each mum to her own thing but just wanted to mention I'd heard the reason for keeping them in with you a while is something to do with them hearing your breathing and them knowing they're close to you, and that's why it's a SID guideline (so it's not just so you can keep an eye on them). Just wanted to flag up what I'd heard so you can look into it and make an informed decision!
My dd is a little grunter but she's only 6 weeks. She tends to do it for a while before she wakes up though - or maybe I'm just so tired I sleep through the grunting for the rest of the night!