Hi Ok I've decided to start the Dr Jay Gordon technique, My partner is taking a week off so we can battle it out with the little one. In preparation for it I have dropped another feed in the day which is usually when he naps, instead I am having to drive him around and let him nap in the car, I wanted to help break the feed to sleep association.
At night I put on sleep sleep sleep now and breastfeed him until he gets drowsy, rolls over and goes to sleep, this can take over an hour. I then co sleep with him but start off at the other end of the bed. This has helped in the way that he wakes 3 times now instead of 6+ times.
I guess the next step is stage 2 of dr jay. He already unlatches when he's fed and then rolls over.
I have also ordered a gro clock as a tool but I'm not sure he will understand yet ( he's 2 in 3 weeks).
Basically, any tips, experience or just any comments would be really helpful. I'm poorly and exhausted and my relationship is slowly going downhill as I have to go to sleep with ds every night.
I'm determined but I'm so nervous, he's very stubborn and anything else we have tried has resulted in sobbing and gagging on his saliva.
I can't buy books (now i have bought the clock) and the library don't have the ones I want.
Day nap not a success today, I ended up losing my rag a bit and putting him in the car for a sleep. It's proving to be quite a stressful week. Having Dp at home is a help in some ways more than others :-)
Update for night 4. Very brief wake and moan at 2:10, 4:10, 5:55 ten awake at 7:10 for feed, dozed til 8:10. I didn't get on the bed at any point, just lent over the rail and shh'd him and put my hand on his tummy. So tired. The weaning hasn't really stopped him waking, so I'm just not going to engage with him when he wakes.
Update on night 5. We had a later bedtime as I had stuff to sort out. He fed til 9:25, I moved off the bed onto the floor and left him to sleep on his 'own'. He fell asleep at 9:40. He didn't wake up until 6:20, he sat up, I ssh'd him but he had a mini tantrum, so as it was almost sun rise on the gro clock I pressed the button early, then made a fuss about it being sun/boob time. He's now feeding. He did fidget a couple of times in the night but no wake ups. Shame I've been awake since 4:30 A break through though, hooray!
Yes it's hard to know but I think it may have been the massive plateful of homemade macaroni cheese. He wolfed it down!
Update on night 6. He went to sleep at about 9:10 again I moved on the floor for this. He didn't wake until 5:45 but he did cry out two or three times in his sleep, he didn't wake up though. I think the fact that I was out from 9:30am until 7:30pm probably disturbed threw him a bit, as I've never been away from him that long. The good thing is my Dp managed to get him to sleep for an hour in the day. Anyway he woke at 5:45 and sat up and cried for a couple of minutes before nodding off again. He's stirring now so I then he will need a feed as the sun is up. I moved the time to 6:30.
I should point out that since starting this his moods are much better in the day.
So it's been a week and there has been a big improvement. I have gone from co sleeping and feeding up to 5 times a night (was up to 12 previously), to no feeds, me sleeping on the floor, ds falling asleep on the bed with out me , napping in bed without breastfeed and sleeping from 9(ish) - 6:30/7. He does sometimes whine in his sleep which wakes me but last night didn't make a sound(again). I got 8 hours sleep, hooray!! His mood has also improved making him more bearable to look after in the day. I would say apart from the first night, it has been quite a gentle transition. Good luck to anyone who chooses to night wean.