Just wondered how many other mums out there spend all, or most of night on own. My DH says for work he needs to sleep in spare room as gets too exhausted. Dc is 10 wks and DH has been in maybe 3 full nights and 15 part nights in total. DC has never slept through and is up at least 3 times on a good night and 6 times on a bad. I think that's a wuss out but wondered if it's the norm?...
reason I ask is because I don't blame him for worrying about a good night's sleep, but I think he's going the wrong way about it and he's being a twat.
just asled dh. he said that although our 18 mo does wake him up in the night when she's being restless, he can get back to sleep okay and that he doesn't really mind. he gets up at 5.
as a bfing mum, you are the only one who can do the nights really, and maybe he doesn't find it easy toget back to sleep. but a good husband would show support and definitely take charge in the evenings (cooking cleaning washing etc) while you concentrate on the baby. he woild also do the nappies and ooh, not complain about any of it.
dh always slept next to me in our bed too. Every other night he got up with them when they were going through that stage, and each of us slept through on alternate nights. With 2 parents, that seems pretty sensible to me.
On bad nights/growth spurts, my boyfriend sleeps with the baby (she is 8 months old) and fetches me from the spare room if she needs a feed. I am slightly ashamed about this, but he is a deeper sleeper than me so manages better with her when she is just tossing and turning about. She has never needed that much milk overnight, mostly just cuddles.
On good nights she sleeps in the cot and we sleep in the bed next to her or in the bed in the other room and she comes in for a feed at 5am, and we all have dozy family cuddles till 6 or 7, my favourite part of the day.
He says he is happy to do the nights, and in return I give him a lie in till 7 or 8 every day. He says looking after a baby is harder "work" than his job and tries very hard to make sure I get some sleep every night.
DH has been in the spare room for months! We have a non-sleeping 8mo and the only way for us to function as a family is for me to co sleep and him to get a proper night's sleep in another room. I don't see the point in us both being exhausted.
I have twins and DH is in with us almost every night. Only exceptions are if he has a v busy day at work (does a v stressful full on job which can 60+ hrs a week and sometimes it's just not fair for him to be sleep deprived) or if I need the whole bed to co-sleep with both babies if they are having a v bad night. In 4 months, he's slept in the spare room about 5 times.