how do you get an 18m old out of your bed and into the cot?

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bumbleandbumble Wed 24-Apr-13 08:02:26

I am fed up with little ones sleep. She is in a cot, still in our room because she screams so loudly and for so long, that I am not wanting to move her into her sisters room yet.

Now she wants to come into our bed every night! My husband seems to give in but I cant stand her in the bed with us. She is big and kicks and no longer settles easily.

How do you do controlled crying? I have left her to cry and she has carried on for over an hour. She doesnt seem to stop until she get what she wants (coming into bed with me)....

has anyone ever gotten past this? help!!!

Skygirls Wed 24-Apr-13 23:55:02

Consistency is the main thing here and breaking the cycle.

Your DC knows that if she cries for long enough, you'll give in and she'll get what she wants.

If you really mean to get her back in the cot, you're in for the long haul- about 4 days to a week or 10 days to break the habit of coming into bed with you. It will also help her to put herself to sleep without needing you there, if she wakes in the night.

You could still have her in your room, if you think it would be gentler, but keep putting her down in the cot and pat her and say shhh. If she gets up again, put her back down with the patting. This is very repetitive and the first night will be the hardest- no sleep for you I'm afraid!

Whatever you do and no matter how tired you are, you must not take her into your bed. Keep putting her down in her cot.
Hopefully she'll eventually tire out and go to sleep, but as I said, the first night is the hardest and you'll be up constantly.

The next night, do the same thing-put her down in cot and when she cries, go and put her down again, soothe with pats and shh and then leave for 1minute. If she cries, go to her after that minute and pat and soothe. Each time you leave, leave it just a little bit longer before you go back to soothe her- do not pick her up to do this, just lay her down in cot each time. Do not give in.

Keep doing this and hopefully by day 3 or 4, you should hopefully have her sleeping in the cot....but it can take up to a week especially if she's been sleeping with you for 18months.

Good luck and persevere! Don't give in! No matter how tired you are!
Otherwise you could go sleep in the spare room? wink

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