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She's 10 months.she's never slept more than three hours. The last two weeks she's been waking 6-10 times a night. She screams so loud that she wakes the neighbours, who I can hear talking now. She's already been screaming six times tonight since 10pm. It's like torture. It's effecting how i feel about her, I'm genuinely less patient, I just hate her right now.

Hate co sleeping, can't sleep with her next to me in my arm pit pinching me and sucking. Can't stand the nagging feeling that that's the reason she sleeps so crap. Can 't do cc anymore either, the noise of her crying just makes me sob and feel like my head is going to explode. She doesn't give in either, none of this cries for an hour the first night, but sleeping happily ever after by the third. She just screams for hours until she gets fed.

I hate this. I don't know what to do

Just lying here crying . So tired I feel ill.

ahh ditziness - have you had her checked out recently? does she scream during the day?

i'm sure someone else will be along with better advice

nothing worse than tiredness

Have you got a partner that could give you a break for a few hours?

And have you ever had her checked out for problems such as reflux etc? Does she have a bottle every time she wakes?

You have my sympathies. That sounds really tough. Have you spoken to the GP about it? Have you considered a cranial osteopath?

There was a very similar thread on here recently - will see if I can find it as one poster in particular had a million ideas.

Do you have your parents living close to you? Or a close friend who you would trust the wellbeing of your child to?

You sound like you really need a break my love.

You poor thing, it sounds horrible. I'm sure you have tried everything.

Do you have a DP that can give you a bit of a break? How is she during the day?

My DD1 was a terrible sleeper, I really sympathise.

She's breastfed, refuses a bottle , goes hysterical if you offer her one.

She's fine during the day. Bit whiny sometimes, but aren't they all.

She was a bit chucky uppy when she was newborn, but nothing spectacular. She doesn't seem to have reflux. She just wants to lie in my arm pit with nipple in her mouth. If that's no the case she's screaming

Husband helps, he tries to settle her each time so she's not being fed all night. Sometimes he can get her to shut up and go back to sleep, but only for like 30 mins . He's desperate too

I don't have any advice but just really feel for you. I agree with twinkle, have you been to the gp or health visitor? Maybe there's an underlying cause. Do you have a partner/mum/friend who can help?

I'm going back to work next week too. God knows how that's possible. My eldest has been sleeping through for months by now. Don't know what I'm doing wrong.

You poor soul - didn't want you to go unanswered and there might not be many people up at this time.

Has she a cot of her own where she will be safe? If so, put her in it, shut the bedroom door, and go make yourself a cup of tea and take a breather for ten minutes. Your baby won't melt if left for a little while, and you will feel a bit more able to cope. Sounds as if you've nobody to help. It must be really hard. Chin up, chicken. Were it not for the flaming I'd get for advocating the drugging of small children, I'd advise you to go get some Phenergan tomorrow. Just to break the cycle so you both get some sleep.

Yes you're all right. I'll take her to the doctors on Monday

Where are you?

If you are in Glasgow or surrounding areas then I'd happily take DC away for a few hrs so you can sleep.

Husband helps, but it's only really to nurse she wants. No one else close. She'd just scream and wake the neighbours all niht anyway if someone else had her.

Ha! Usually I'd be one of the flamers, but right now that sounds brilliant :-(

If your eldest has been sleeping through then that shows its not something you are doing wrong - I hope the doctor can help.

Eldest slept thru, give or take the odd time, from 7 months ish

will she take a dummy?
i'm too tired to think straight (ironic lol)
but deffo remember 1 of mine wanting to feed all night - turns out they just liked sucking. dummy gave them that bit of comfort and we all slept

I had this. DD (now 2) woke all night for almost 2 years months. Only a boob would do. I hated cosleeping and she was bad at it too. Didn't sleep well and I was quite miserable. DH is still convinced I had PND. I didn't, it was 'just' sleep deprivation. All I can say is there is an end to it. DD sleeps though now. She will always need less sleep than other children.

After a year I night weaned and did very gentle CC. Not CIO, just a few seconds then back in, reassure, out for 20 seconds, reassure, 30 seconds, reassure. Never more than a couple of minutes. She got the message that DM was always there but not picking up or feeding.

It will be over before you know it. Those people who love the baby stage... you will breeze through the twos because you will finally have some sleep.

You sound as if you're are really suffering. Yes, get her checked out, but in the meantime, take turns if you can so at least one of you can sleep. She's probably fine but she's not sleeping enough for you or her. Mine did not want to take her first bottle at this age, but I had to persist because I was going back to work. I mimicked nursery hours, and it worked within a couple of days. Start it when you're feeling a bit stronger and less knackered. (Mine still bf til age 3 so she learnt to flip between the two).

Hope you getting some sleep tonight. Get her checked but imo she needs to be weaned off bfing at night. At 10 months she doesn't need a feed in the night. My DS used to wake to feed so we just used to take it in turns to lie next to his cot doing ' pat shush'. He didn't like it and it took a while but eventually he got the message and stopped waking for a feed.

Maybe cooled boiled water to drink and slowly reduce the amount weaning her off does she suffer from colic? As one of the posts says you did well with your eldest all babies are different but if in doubt health visitor or gp. Have u tried the swaddle technique Feel for u my youngest now two was a rotter at nite has grown out of it just have probs getting him to bed at times now. Take care if you need a chat pm.

I had exactly the same situation OP.

At ten months I done cc. It was four nights of hell but she's been sleeping fine alone ever since.

If you can't face doing it, could you stretch to hiring a sleep trainer for a couple of nights? General rate between £100-200 a night.

Don't suffer any more, get help.

Am hoping you are all asleep now, just wanted to send sympathy and say perhaps sit down with this thread in the light of day and decide with your OH which of the many excellent suggestions to try. It's hard to think straight in the night when you are in despair. It WILL get better, good luck with her.

My ds was just like this. Turned out to have a dairy allergy.

Sympathies. Hope you manage to work out what's wrong and get some sleep.

Oh, and he is now my BEST sleeper. Never thought I'd say that. Take heart. It won't be forever.

My DS was very similar. I tried loads of different bottles and hd eventually took a breastflow one.

Sleep deprivation is hideous