Hello all
My baby is 4 months old now, and we are muddling through ok I think (hope!). He is ebf, naps for about 3-3.5 hours broken into 3 naps during the day (always in his pram whether we are at home or out), goes to bed at 7 after playtime, bathtime and feed (we've had this loose routine since he was about 2 weeks old), and I put him down awake with a dummy, read him a story then leave him in his cot awake and go downstairs and he puts himself to sleep. So far, so ok (I hope!). When his dummy falls out, it doesn't wake him up and I try not to use it at night after the first falling asleep. We don't have any routine in the daytime other than I put him down to sleep approx 1.5-2.25 hours after he has woken up, depending on when he seems tired. And when we are out and about, he sleeps when he wants to. I feed on demand - anywhere between 2 to 4 hours between feeds.
We co-slept for the first 6 weeks then I got him into his co sleeper crib and he's been there since, going to bed on his own since about 8 weeks old. He was sleeping for 3/4 hour stretches then went to 5/6 hours until we hit about 13 weeks (15 corrected). Then for about 3 weeks he woke every hour - not a disaster as would wake, feed and go back to sleep within 5 mins. But very tiring as I am on my own, so no-one to help, and back working 2 days a week (due to being on my own). Luckily he went back to 3 hour wakeups a few weeks ago, but the last 3/4 nights has been doing 90 min-3hr stretches and screaming when he wakes up - he never normally cries at night, well, unless I leave him to get worked up, which I don't. I think his teeth are bothering him. I tried to not feed him a few times, when he woke up after an hour eg, but he just got so cross - then i feel like the worst mother in the world. Not very nice.
My mum bought me the baby whisperer book so I read that today - she basically says I have to get him in a 4 hourly routine (and stay at home for 2 weeks to do that - we go out every day for a lot of the day. I think I would go crackers staying in for 2 weeks) and stop feeding him at night or I am storing up longer term trouble for myself. She also writes in the second person and peppers the text with 'luv' which I hate, but anyway.
Sorry for the essay - basically my question is, is tracey hogg right? Do i need to take action now? I was hoping we could bimble along as we are and he would figure it out. I can hear on the monitor he has woken up already, so that's 50 mins first stretch tonight. Not good!
Would really appreciate any advice as this is getting quite hard now we are back to short stretches again. Well done if you got to the end of that lot!
Thanks so much.
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PollyIndia · 17/02/2013 19:55
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