Ds is 16 mo and has always co-slept with us at night and had his naps in a cot. He still breastfeeds to sleeps both for naps and at night, but lately it has become extremely difficult to transfer him to the cot for naps or at the beginning of the night. He is teething, which I am sure doesn't help, but also, as he is getting heavier, it is becoming more and more difficult for me to transfer him to the cot "carefully" so that he doesn't wake too much in the process.
Would it be too early to get him a single bed with a guard so that I can get in with him to feed and then leave? Or maybe just a single mattress on the floor would be better?
Not sure why I am asking as right now I don't see any other solution, except for me to nap with him everytime or leave him in the double bed on his own (where he is now, but that means I have to stay in the next room so I can get to him as soon as he stirs)
if you want to put him in a bed for naps or night time he'll be fine - but only if he can get off the bed on his own safely already!
don't worry about him falling out of bed once you left him, just put another mattress on the floor, if he falls out he'll be fine, I mean it's a very small distance and onto a soft surface! just make sure there's no gap between the bottom of the bed and the mattress on the floor, if he wakes up with his head or limbs stuck he'll cry his face off! I wouldn't bother with a cot rail either, such a nuisance for you to try to shuffle off the bed once he's asleep!
if him getting cold is a problem, get him some grobags.
use waterproof sheets in case his nappy leaks - if that happens a lot give him a bigger size nappy for the night
make sure the floor is clear from toys, clothes etc to avoid any tripping over and injuries in the night for him or you.
you probably have safety plugs in electric sockets already - if not, do it now.
most importantly, which ever bedroom he will sleep in put a stair gate on the door, so if he wakes up he won't be able to get out of that room!
I personally prefer a cot for them as long as possible, but as you are comfort feeding him to fall asleep it is difficult, I get that.
our DS5 is 3 in May and although he sleeps in various beds at times (ours, brothers, spare bed in his room, on the floor on a mattress next to our bed for naps or all night) he will graduate to big bed properly after his birthday for various practical reasons.
Thanks a lot Amazing, that is helpful! he is safe climbing off the sofa, etc. but I don't let him get off the double bed on his own yet, as it is particularly high and he is not too too. obviously we would get him a bed that is lower so that he can get in and out on his own.
TBH if you have't got a bed for him yet, just choose a place where his bed will be and only buy/ borrow the mattress to put on the floor! then the whole issue of climbing in/out, falling, bedrail is eliminated.
and if it doesn't work out you didn't spend a fortune buying a bed just yet...
I co-sleep with my almost 16 month old. During the day he either naps in the pusher or I breastfeed him to sleep then lie him in our double bed. I do have mesh guards on the sides. If I had more room and different circumstances I probably would buy him a single bed soon (but as we're emigrating later in the year I won't bother). What we're doing works fine at the moment.