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I know the official advice is 6 months in with you (and I understand why), but I wondered if any of you had put their DC into their own bedrooms with a monitor overnight before this? What age did you move them out, and why?

from the day we came home from hospital- so 5 days old
it was 1989 and the advice was different then
but I did the same with DD 1n 1996 and she was only 2 days old
oh, and we never had monitors either

From day 1, no monitor but the room is next to ours. I'm a very light sleeper and I don't think being kept unnecessarily awake by a baby's snuffles helps anyone's mental health! I'm not a natural worrier, knew she'd be fine. She was.

With ds1 when he was almost 2, as we'd lived in a one bed flat till then. Ds 2 is one next week and still in with us, he has got his own room, but I'm not ready for him to go in there alone yet, even with monitors, maybe another couple of months.
There's nothing better than waking up and seeing a baby wake up then stand up in his cot to give you a huge smile.

After 5 months

From the second or third night this was 13 years ago couldn't sleep with all the snorts etc room only next door had baby monitor. Ds has always been a great sleeper never had any problems know we were v lucky

Around 4 months-had started sleeping through too. Had a tiny house then and our room doors were a metre apart and also used monitors. I remember being so excited about going to bed on the first night and putting on my bedroom light and reading a book as no baby there to wake up!

When they were 6 months old. This was why.

Sorry didn't answer the why bit of your question. Our bedroom was so small and the cot took up most of the spare floor space. Plus I used to wake up at every snuffle and sniff and I needed my sleep by then!

3 months and the night we did he started sleeping through and has done ever since.

Dd1 8 weeks, DD2 5 weeks - both with monitors/sensor mats. Both slept through pretty much immediately when moved.

Five months approx.

When it became clear that both parties fidgeting and snuffling was keeping the other awake.

DD2 still BF in the night, so often co slept for an hour or two untill she started wriggling and then she'd happily go back to her cot.

2 weeks, with monitor and sensor mat. But we have a bed in there next to the cot so I end up sleeping in with her from about 2am as easier for the night feeds.

dd1 - 8 months
dd2 - 16 months
ds (2.6) - still in our room

Ds - 2 months, when he finally slept for a few hours but screamed in his sleep so I couldn't sleep with him there. I was scared but it was clear I needed more sleep to not be a greater danger myself. After a couple weeks I brought his basket back into my room a lot of the time until 6mo.

Dd is nearly 11 months and still in my room though I've slept in the spare room for a few hours some nights.

3weeks due to logistics of being unable to keep a cat out of our bedroom. I slept on a camp bed next to the cot for a few more weeks and then retreated to my own lovely bed at about 8weeks.

Guidelines are ok but need to be taken with a pinch of salt. The evidence surrounding babies needing to stay in the same room as you for 6 months is dubious and. Based more on research regarding co-sleeping than room sharing. Do what suits you, your baby and the rest of the family - not the Dept of Health.

6 months, then she moved back in with us at 8 months, and didn't leave until 12 months.

And now she sometimes join our bed between us .

Not yet - they're 2 years 2 months. I like having them in with us, and they seem perfectly happy. I don't worry that their room is cold because I am in it too, and I don't have to leave my bed to resettle them

Around 3 weeks for both dd's. They didn't settle in the Moses basket and bedroom not big enough for a cot as well. Had monitor and sensor pad and both slept through from about 8 weeks. They're now 10 and almost 7 and share a room as they like having each other around at night time.

At 8 weeks. She'd started to sleep through at 6 weeks so we decided it would be better for her and us if she was in her own room. Did wonders, she wasn't disturbed by us and we weren't by her. No monitor as she's next door so we kept the doors open. Will do the same with the next one.

dd - 7 days
ds - 1 week
Dp is a very light sleeper, every noise woke him up!

My son outgrew his basket very early (he was long!) & the cot wouldn't fit in our room so at around 6 weeks he came into our bed, that worked really well for a bit although my hips really started to ache & i craved a good stretch out so around 3.5 months tried his own bed (just next door with monitor) but he was a big night feeder & i quickly reverted back to having him with me! Things settled around 5 months & he was happy to go into his cot, slept through around 9 months
Our daughter is 10 weeks and we plan to have her in with us for a similar length of time- mostly incase she wakes her brother as they'll be sharing, although she sleeps better than he ever did ;)
Just do what feels right & don't be afraid to try different options till you find what works!

We moved DS in to his own room (put Moses basket into cot in own room) at 8 weeks as he had gone down to to only waking once during he night and we both slept better for it and not being disturbed but each others little noises during the night. That was actually on health visitors advice 3 years ago and best advice we were given. Will be doing the same again this time once baby goes down to waking only once during night.

wish the NHS sids info showed the actual research. eg I have read elsewhere that its not simply true that boys are more at risk and that months 1 & 4 are the vulnerable ones.
there needs to be much more research into this why is so much unknown. It would then help mothers to make informed choices about sleeping arrangements. I think my dd could sleep.better in own room I think I could do if I.wasn't panicking about what the health visitor midwife etc keep telling me over and over! been handed about 10 leaflets too!