High Needs Baby Support Group (thread IV)

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Yoohooo! Over here!

<Waves>

The last thread was filling up so I've started us a sparkling new one.

The original thread was to support those of us with babies fitting the following criteria:

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

Some of our babies have grown out of some of those now, but we're still here to support each other through the sleepless nights and noisy car journeys and to offer hugs, chocolate and wine to anyone who's struggling.

So if that list sounds familiar then come and join us as we delight in our active, inquisitive, curious and restless babies or toddlers!

Teeth? DS has always woken up crying, but definitely gets worse when there's a tooth coming through. Not found a solution though, sorry!

Raspberrysorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 20:52:06

I am having a bottle of beer joyful. <rebel>

Oh god, please don't tell me it is the bottle of beer that makes him cry!

Actually, we have just started solids....he flipping loves them but I guess his teeny tiny tummy might be struggling.....

I think that rather than separation anxiety because he is currently insisting on sleeping practically in my armpit. As I didn't get a chance to shower yesterday, he should deffo be able to smell me <slattern>

Your DS sounds GORGEOUS!

Raspberrysorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 20:54:40

Can I DO anything about an uncomfortable tummy though?

Could be teeth....nuffink to be done about that either I guess..how long is that likely to go on for Truth?

Ooh yes, could be teeth! It's definitely teeth here atm, I should have thought of that! I doubt it's the beer but if you really think it might be try cutting it out for a couple of nights and see if it makes a difference. smile

DS is gorgeous, sometimes I think that's the only reason that he survives! grin He and DD are both awesome, I just wish they slept better...

You could try winding him I suppose? As for teeth (if it is that) he'll settle down once it cuts through the gum. Until the next one starts. confused

<considers evading question, decides honesty is the only policy>

Um, BabyTruth got his first tooth at three months, he's now (13mo) got 10 and a bit. So it's been on and off for 10 months, with no sign of letting up!

No, that's not fair. We probably get two or three nights of full on screaming each time one comes through, the rest of the time we just get a lot of dribble! Bickiepegs are the only thing that seems to work for DS, although they're only really good for daytime. He just wants to nurse all night when there's a tooth coming.

Raspberrysorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 21:08:57

I don't think it is the beer. It's a tiny bottle <party animal>

Yeah, I pick him up and wind him but he just fusses then falls asleep on my shoulder, then I put him down and he wakes enough to latch on then goes back to sleep. I guess the shift in position might be enough to dislodge trapped wind?

Teeth are RUBBISH. Don't see why they even need them...

Raspberrysorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 21:09:55

<refuses to look at Truth'spost>

Sorry.

<Offers cake. Always makes things better>

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 21:24:58

Mmmm Cake!

<better>

I just wish he could tell me what was wrong.

LittleWaveyLines Sat 01-Sep-12 21:37:32

Rasberrysorbet - we had about a month of even more unsettled sleeping when we started solids.... It tends to correspond with yet another sleep regression as well I think....

If it helps, DD has all her teeth now... [hopeful]

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 21:40:51

Why does no one tell you this stuff when you're trying to conceive, eh?

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 21:42:02

Did you do anything to help wavey or is it just a question of sitting it out whilst sobbing quietly in the dark

If it's his digestion it should settle down fairly soon, and the same for teeth. smile Is he trying to roll or is he fairly static in bed?

LittleWaveyLines Sat 01-Sep-12 22:09:02

Sitting sobbing and ranting on here - oh and not giving her green veg at dinner... just lunch. Dunno if it helped grin

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 23:02:27

He can roll onto his front but not back again. He actually sleeps more soundly on his front, I think, but then gets upset that he can't roll over. He's a little wriggler when he isn't on his front..

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 23:03:32

I wonder if we should stop co sleeping...perhaps having milk on tap makes it more difficult to settle if he's in light sleep?

Lychees Sat 01-Sep-12 23:35:28

Is anyone still awake? I'm downstairs sitting with a crying DD. She just won't sleep unless she's in mine/DH's arms. And now my arms ache and I've sent DH to bed as he was up until 3am with her today and DS was up and loud as usual by 7am. Anyway, I've put her down on her cushion for a bit to see if she'll cry herself to sleep. I confess I tried a soother today ... I'm not that keen on them as I hear/read they can become a hinderance in the long term but she spat it out anyway so I don't know why I spent so long umming and ahhing about whether to try one.

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sat 01-Sep-12 23:43:14

I'm awake. Boy is feeding. Will she sleep in a sling? Give your arms a break?

Lychees Sat 01-Sep-12 23:55:47

No, unfortunately, I've tried a Close Ring Sling, a Baby Bjorn and a Infantino. She hates them all. I've picked her back up and calmed her down several times now but every time I put her back down to give my throbbing arms a rest, she immediately starts crying again. I'm planning on carrying this on until her next feed in an hour or so, then hopefully, she'll be so tired, she'll fall asleep on the bottle.

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sun 02-Sep-12 00:01:52

Will she let you sit down and hold her? Or do you have to be standing? Pushchair? Go for a walk? Or a drive...I'm guessing probably not.

Go out into the garden for a bit - that occasionally works with my boy. Change of scene distracts him and he forgets to carry on crying.

Raspberryandorangesorbet Sun 02-Sep-12 00:03:26

Oops, sorry Lychee, just retread your earlier post. She hates cars eats, pushchairs etc...ignore me!

Lychees Sun 02-Sep-12 00:12:55

I have to stand up and do half-squats. She likes the up and down movement. It burns the old thighs but I get to do some pelvic floor exercises and butt clenches whilst doing them ... it's always a good idea to find some positives to keep you going, right? grin. I have two other ways to sway her; going from one foot to the other (works the outer thighs); then twisting from the waist (helping to get rid of the mummy tummy faster?). I've been doing these so much, I thought I should glean some benefit from it too.

She might actually be falling to sleep now on her own .........

Hope your lo is a bit more comfy tonight.

Lychees Sun 02-Sep-12 00:15:27

Thanks for chatting. I don't feel so alone. When you do tagteam-parenting, it often gets lonely.

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