Tips for Kate: which invaluable piece of new-mum advice would you pass on? Please share it here, or Tweet to #tips4kate

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HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Jul-13 14:55:23

So, the royal baby has finally arrived – congrats, Will and Kate!

Anyone with even moderately republican leanings should probably look away now – and, by look away, we mean from everything: internet, telly, newspapers, billboards, the works. The next few weeks are set fair to be a veritable fiesta of regality.

Which is ironic, in a way, because there are surely few experiences more levelling than that of giving birth and its immediate aftermath. No matter how much money you have, or how many attendants dancing errm attendance, at the end of the day, it's just you and your baby.

With that in mind, let's offer a helping hand to a fellow new mother – indeed, to all the new mothers out there. What would be the single invaluable piece of advice you'd share on the early days – and long nights – with a newborn?

Post it on the thread, or better yet, Tweet it with the hashtag #tips4kate. We'll make up a book of our favourites, and pass it on to her – and we'll ensure that your suggestions are given a permanent home on the site, too.

So go on, share: what helped you through?

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:40:31

Congratulation William and Katherine! What wonderful news! {crown]

KingRollo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:41:10

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KingRollo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:43:06

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DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Jul-13 20:43:09

A boy! lovely! Congratulations to William nd Kate.

I will come back with some tips. wink

ommmward Mon 22-Jul-13 20:44:39

Sleep when the baby does, preferably with the baby (plenty of information on the web about how to co-sleep safely).

Learn to say "yes, thank you" when people offer to help you (mind you, that's probably not going to be a big challenge for a member of the Royal family crown )

Mum2toomany Mon 22-Jul-13 20:45:23

Use a wipe/cotton when changing him to save yourself getting sprayed!

shoeprincess2 Mon 22-Jul-13 20:46:20

When changing a nappy, be sure to keep the little boy bits covered once you have removed the old nappy. The cold air hits and whooosh, a puddle of wee smile

cocolepew Mon 22-Jul-13 20:46:35

Set your boundaries with the MIL now grin

DeathByTray Mon 22-Jul-13 20:47:48

Don't spend their childhood wishing they were at the next stage.

They grow up too quickly.

CotherMuckingFunt Mon 22-Jul-13 20:47:59

Ignore all advice written in books and do what feels right for you and your baby.

Pascha Mon 22-Jul-13 20:48:36

When the MIL comes to visit, don't let her sit down while you run around after her. Make sure you get her to do the washing, make tea, do a supermarket run for biscuits...

HugAndRoll Mon 22-Jul-13 20:49:10

Make sure the willy is pointing down when you put on the new nappy to avoid him weeing out of the top of the nappy.

Just hold your baby. No rods will be made for any backs.

lottiegarbanzo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:49:43

Get Wills to do the cutting of the fingernails. It's incredibly scary. He works in search and rescue though so should be used to high stress situations. This will test him.

MichaelaS Mon 22-Jul-13 20:49:52

hooray, a boy!

but darn, there goes my hopes of a royal wedding of my boys.... unless the prince is gay and the royal family get VERY liberal.

as for advice... don't take anyone's advice unless you want to.

And don't let the Bounty rep in.

LostInWales Mon 22-Jul-13 20:50:02

Why oh why do I feel the need to run to Mumsnet the minute I hear the news. grin crown grin

Congratulations to the new parents, my advice would be listen to MN, everything posted so far is wise.

nenevomito Mon 22-Jul-13 20:50:33

Lansinoh if you're breastfeeding. Its the only thing that saved my boobs from ruin.

Cake is a main food group when you're recuperating.

Earplugs may not cure colic, but it makes it less painful.

Also, like so many new mothers before you, you will find yourself on the receiving end of some less then helpful advice from your mother in law. Sadly yours is the head of state so technically can she can overrule you. Be grateful that she can no longer send you to the tower, plaster a smile on your overtired face and agree with everything before ignoring it as soon as she's not there.

dementedma Mon 22-Jul-13 20:50:36

wow, I saw it first on MN!
Take that SKY news!

oldsilver Mon 22-Jul-13 20:50:41

I would suggest a little pot to catch the arc of wee that invariably happens the second you uncover, and make sure his royal willy not speaking about dad here always points down before you do the nappy up.

DuelingFanjo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:50:56

Stay in bed.

LostInWales Mon 22-Jul-13 20:51:06

And how come the OP was at 2.55? Don't you dare come all TSSDNCOP on me you hear me.

Erebus Mon 22-Jul-13 20:51:23

<Sucks in through teeth> Well, he'll be the youngest in his class, won't he? Hmm?

Didn't think about how that might disadvantage him, did you?


IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 22-Jul-13 20:51:25

Don't forget to get your cake, drink and tele remote within arms reach before you settle down to feed your little Prince.

lottiegarbanzo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:51:57

MIL? what?? Stop, think. Do you mean step-mother in law? (Perhaps you know perfectly well what you mean and think I'm being pedantic but I really don't think it's the same).

That thing about the shoulders on babygros being designed so that do can pull them down if the baby has done a violently explosive shart a messy bowel motion and you don't get the disgusting creamy gooey mess poo in the poor baby's hair...

Bitter? Me? particularly sharty child? Never... wink

Choose your battles

Don't sweat the small stuff

Make time to just play with your baby (and keep this up as he gets older)

Be silly, have fun and enjoy your son's company

Let him get dirty and muddy when he is older.

gazzalw Mon 22-Jul-13 20:52:57

Massive Attack is very good for lulling a very fractious baby boy to sleep (worked for us) and don't shy away from handing the baby over to Prince William for the graveyard shift grin!

heartmoonshadow Mon 22-Jul-13 20:53:41

Your baby your rules - although that may be hard with great grandma!

Maybe the people refering to MIL meant GrandMIL?

Wildwaterfalls Mon 22-Jul-13 20:54:34

When you settle down to bf, make sure you have all the things you might need around you... Drink, snack, book, phone etc

lottiegarbanzo Mon 22-Jul-13 20:55:37

Yes, I thought paternal grandmother, then remembered Camilla.

MrsRandom78 Mon 22-Jul-13 20:55:47

Trust your instincts, cuddle your baby and enjoy every minute!

WinkyWinkola Mon 22-Jul-13 20:56:49

Don't be afraid to do what you feel is the best for your baby wrt feeding, cuddling etc.

White noise...

<is clearly on a roll>

CitrusyOne Mon 22-Jul-13 20:59:34

Snuggly naps with your baby are the best. Have them as often as you possibly can. They give you a sense of calm that nothing else can.

Cherish every moment.

cabbage leaves down her bra in 3 days time!

Is it me or was the OP written before the baby was born let alone announced hmm

SuffolkNWhat Mon 22-Jul-13 21:03:08

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LostInWales Mon 22-Jul-13 21:03:11

I said that Edwina but they are ignoring me <consipracy> wink crown

Mum2toomany Mon 22-Jul-13 21:03:12

When awake in the middle of the night feeding/changing remember that you are not alone, lots of mothers are doing the same thing as you.

Be strong...and carry on!

MichaelaS Mon 22-Jul-13 21:03:54

persevere with the breastfeeding (if you intend to). it's really hard for the first week or so, and you will feel tired and emotional and like it will never work. then suddenly it all gets better and it becomes the easiest thing in the world, and you can stay in bed and don't even have to wake up to feed your baby. yawn

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Jul-13 21:05:27

If breast feeding doesn't work for you, don't be a martyr or get upset.

You can raise a perfectly healthy baby on formula crown

MissStrawberry Mon 22-Jul-13 21:07:46

Yes, how come you knew before everyone else? hmm.

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Jul-13 21:09:32

Think of the next three months as the '4th trimester' and just do what you have to do to get through them. Do not worry about forming bad habits or making rods for your own back; it won't happen.

Just do what you need to do to get through them, and to keep baby warm, fed and loved.

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Jul-13 21:09:55

I thought the baby was born at 4.20pm or something? confused

TheDoctrineOfAllan Mon 22-Jul-13 21:10:23

I think it was written earlier but posted later!

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 22-Jul-13 21:11:04

MNHQ were just being prepared!

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Jul-13 21:11:18

But it was posted at the time in the OP wasn't it?

DeathByTray Mon 22-Jul-13 21:13:25

They've found a way of hiding the thread from us all until after baby was born.

TheDoctrineOfAllan Mon 22-Jul-13 21:14:11

But no one else posted till 2040 so I assume it was written but not published [deerstalker]

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Jul-13 21:15:04

Ahh that makes sense grin

ouryve Mon 22-Jul-13 21:15:30

Make sure you've had a wee, picked up a drink and commandeered the TV remote before sitting down for a nursing session grin

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Jul-13 21:15:31


I don't think Kate really wants a thread of our in-squabbling. grin Back to the tips.

LostInWales Mon 22-Jul-13 21:15:47

I concur TheDoctrine but a conspiracy theory was more fun. crown

mrscog Mon 22-Jul-13 21:15:54

Get yourself a large 'swing bin of doom' for the first few weeks, bung any dirty nappies, breast pads, maternity pads in it and empty it daily. We had one in our landing and it was just so much better than trying to cram stuff in to a tiny bathroom bin.

Ignore anyone who tells you to get your DS in to a feeding regime - feed on demand, and cuddle on demand. You cannot spoil a baby!

HoneyDragon Mon 22-Jul-13 21:16:00

They're meant to roll off a bed once. That's natures way of letting you know it's time to start child proofing.

After the 150th witty reference to the baby having more hair than William you no longer have to pretend to laugh and are legally allowed to bludgeon them to death with a brick filled nappy bag.

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Jul-13 21:17:45

I don't think the Duchess has to worry about people not emptying the tiny bathroom bin before it overflows. grin

But that is a good tip for we mere mortals.

joanofarchitrave Mon 22-Jul-13 21:18:12

[imagining enormous MNHQ lever and Justine shouting 'REVEAL THE THREAD' while Olivia and Rachel leap up and heave it down together]

Equip yourself with some earplugs (for you) and ear defenders (for the baby) if you're at all concerned re church bell/21 gun salute racket.

Don't in any way be focused on 'getting back to normal' in the early weeks and don't give in to the Daily Mail pressure to be doing so. I like the '4th trimester' idea. Get used to your new normal.

NonnoMum Mon 22-Jul-13 21:19:13

Make sure you don't tell everyone straight away, but keep your baby to yourself for a good few private Mummy-Daddy-baby cuddles.

Oh, you've done that! Well done.

BonaDea Mon 22-Jul-13 21:19:56

Just let the baby sleep on you if you have to. Sleep's sleep and you need it.

If bf'ing and it starts rocky, stick at it and get expert help. It's the best thing I've ever done.

Many congrats.

NonnoMum Mon 22-Jul-13 21:19:56

And, if you call him Tyler, I will be your servant for every...

mrscog Mon 22-Jul-13 21:20:23

Yes I did think that Dondrapers, but put it anyway for the mortals - it was one of the most useful items in the house for that messy post partum stage!

MalcolmTuckerSwearsBy Mon 22-Jul-13 21:23:04

Take sleep when you can, take advice with a pinch of salt and take lots and lots of everday family photos. They grow up so very fast, faster than you can possibly imagine today, so enjoy every second and record as much as you can And when you are not enjoying it, let your mum take over and you have a good cry, very cathartic.

DeeLighted Mon 22-Jul-13 21:23:13

When baby wakes in the night, try BFing lying down with him. You'll be asleep in minutes and he will too once he's had his fill.

Following safe co sleeping guidelines obvs.

Baby will want to be near you (on you) all the time so just go with it. Slings and letting him doze on you make for a happy baby.

SoYo Mon 22-Jul-13 21:23:48

You can't spoil a baby

AtYourCervix Mon 22-Jul-13 21:25:40

You cannot spoil babies by holding them. Hold him. Cuddle him. Love him.

Limelight Mon 22-Jul-13 21:26:07

Trust your instincts. He's your boy and if you think it's the right thing to do, it probably is.

Congratulations my love and welcome to the best adventure you'll ever have. brewthankswine

It's not making a rod for your own back, they are a beautiful, helpless little baby. Do whatever you need to make sure YOU are happy and as un exhausted as is possible with a newborn and let routines and general life slide as long as the baby is loved, safe and has his needs met. It's natural to struggle and be prepared for a drop in adrenaline and a 'I gave birth to a BABY? My life has been changed forever? Can I swap it for a gerbil?' type moment and if you can't cope- seek help. Don't be a martyr, enjoy childhood and make sure childhood is enjoyable for your son.

MissStrawberry Mon 22-Jul-13 21:31:02

I demand an answer from MNHQ grincrowngrin.

AtYourCervix Mon 22-Jul-13 21:34:48

Aftenoon nap.

The nights aren't quite so painful if you get a couple of hours in the afternoon.

AtYourCervix Mon 22-Jul-13 21:39:46

Pelvic floor exercises.


NonnoMum Mon 22-Jul-13 21:42:30

It's OK to stare and stare at your beautiful baby for hours on end...

No-one ever, ever looks back and thinks "wow, I wish I had made more cups of tea/tidied up more/worn make up 3 days post birth".

Many new parents may look back and think "I wish I had cuddled them more when they were tiny."

Cuddle your baby. Your son.

You are allowed to say "Can I have him back now" if someone is having a cuddle. They can make the tea.

GobblersKnob Mon 22-Jul-13 21:45:03

Log yourself onto mumsnet and kiss the next five years goodbye grin

FunnysInLaJardin Mon 22-Jul-13 21:45:13

enjoy your lovely boy!

necklaceofraindrops Mon 22-Jul-13 22:09:05

Whoever said Lansinoh - I agree 100% smile

NonnoMum Mon 22-Jul-13 22:11:11

Have a go with the washable nappies by all means, but if you do get fed up with leaky explosions all over the royal christening gown chose to go for the disposables, Lidl's are by far the best value...

DameFanny Mon 22-Jul-13 22:13:39

Don't use cotton wool on boys - it shreds on their scrotum and you spend ages picking bits out. Just use a damp cloth. Cashmere perhaps.

PenelopeChipShop Mon 22-Jul-13 22:17:10

Listen to your instincts. Cuddle, snuggle, love.

Forget the waiting world. At the moment you're first and foremost a mum and the centre of your son's universe. Nothing else matters now.


OliviaLMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Jul-13 22:18:54


[imagining enormous MNHQ lever and Justine shouting 'REVEAL THE THREAD' while Olivia and Rachel leap up and heave it down together]

blush No cheeky spies in the Lindo wing or anything.
Was nothing like as exciting as a golden easel something a bit like this grin

Anyway, my tip to Kate is: rock your baby, cos babies don't keep.

crown The best days are when babies come. crown

Pawprint Mon 22-Jul-13 22:23:26

Don't listen to +bitches+ like my SIL who bossily told me to get my baby into a routine from birth. Fuck 'em.

BikeRunSki Mon 22-Jul-13 22:43:32

Stay in hospital as long as you want!

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 22:46:20

When you get visitors and they ask if there is anything they can do, take them up on it. Get them to fill the dishwasher or clean the bathroom.

Turnipvontrapp Mon 22-Jul-13 22:48:46

Hairdryers on full blast (cold setting) work a treat for colic. DH and I had one either side of the bed and took it in turns turning it on and off throughout the night. DS stopped crying the second it was switched on - magic! grin

Come and join MN, somebody has the answer to every problem or worry at any time of day or night.

Turnipvontrapp Mon 22-Jul-13 22:56:24

Ha ha, just picturing when the Queen visits, asking her to clean the loo or empty the bin. Bet she would too, after the Olympic parachuting with James Bond, she seems up for anything!

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:06:51

She did her time in the Wrens, fixing jeeps in the war, Turnip.

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:08:57

Ha, yes.

Join MN. We have great advice for dealing with overbearing matriarchs-in-law

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:10:55

Don't let breastfeeding stop you from getting out and about, just wear easily accessible tops for feeding on the go.

Sharptic Mon 22-Jul-13 23:11:55


No-one told me that a new baby did not know when to sleep and doesn't understand tiredness.

I didn't k
now that a newborn needs to sleep at least every 1 - 1.5 hours, any longer will lead to an overtired, unsettled baby.

Look out for your tired baby and help them sleep whichever way you find works for your baby. Then enjoy cuddling and looking at that sleeping baby in your arms because that is precious and he will be at school before you know it!

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:12:14

Try to avoid performance parenting in Waitrose unless you want another thread about you.

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:13:45

Try not to get offended when Phil tells you the baby looks common and must get that from your side.

angelfire Mon 22-Jul-13 23:20:06

Enjoy your baby
You will know him better than anyone else so don't let others tell you what to do

Congratulations - this is such lovely news

WafflyVersatile Mon 22-Jul-13 23:24:58

Just seen about you making it into a book.

Mine aren't going to make the cut, are they? sad

HoneyDragon Mon 22-Jul-13 23:31:11

Whoops. Will I get beheaded for the bald comment? blush

I didn't know this thread was meant to a present!

<<slinks off in shame>>

Turnipvontrapp Mon 22-Jul-13 23:40:35

Didn't know that Waffle, she has gone even higher in my estimation. She can fix the hair dryer when it breaks from overheating (and then empty the bin).

WafflyVersatile Tue 23-Jul-13 00:22:49
catkind Tue 23-Jul-13 01:03:09

My top tip has to be
Stretchy wrap slings = sleep. They think they're back in the womb, it's like magic. Baby in stretchy wrap on dad = nap time for mum too!

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Jimanis Tue 23-Jul-13 03:14:00

If breastfeeding, get an app for your phone to remind you how long he fed for, when feeds are due & on what side etc. It's amazing how you can forget with everything else going on.

Crabbypink Tue 23-Jul-13 04:02:33

Don't worry. You're doing a good job. It isn't about perfection, it's about loving your child.

Secretswitch Tue 23-Jul-13 05:02:26

Please leave the royal foreskin intact.

noblegiraffe Tue 23-Jul-13 05:21:14

9 months on, 9 months off, don't fret if you don't lose the baby weight straight away, celebs that do usually have major surgery help with diet and exercise.

Buy a swing/bouncy chair and a baby gym because at some point you will want to put the baby down.

Buy a sling if the baby won't be put down and you can get on with housework while still carrying the baby.

aftermay Tue 23-Jul-13 05:23:49

If you offer to help at mother & baby group you don't have to pay the 50p entrance fee - and you get extra biscuits!

saffronwblue Tue 23-Jul-13 05:37:58

Don't fret about your looks, weight, hair, anything, despite the media obsssion. All the mothers in the world will love you if you appear looking tired, drawn and with baby sick on your shoulder!

quertas Tue 23-Jul-13 09:25:54

"there are surely few experiences more levelling than that of giving birth and its immediate aftermath. No matter how much money you have, or how many attendants dancing errm attendance, at the end of the day, it's just you and your baby"...and the option of an army of nannies hmm

Ipsissima Tue 23-Jul-13 09:29:27

Download a WhiteNoise app !!

Fenton Tue 23-Jul-13 09:35:27

There is nothing, NOTHING that cannot wait a bit or a lot longer while you have a good quality cuddle with your baby.

Your hair will be brushed eventually, the dinner can wait, the visitors will wait the country will wait. Just enjoy him.

HoneyDragon Tue 23-Jul-13 10:05:20

Except cake, Fenton. Cake can't wait, not for the breast feeding mother,

Get on the July 2013 antenatal thread and then join us when we've all popped and go postnatal grin

ScrambledSmegs Tue 23-Jul-13 12:00:34

If you're finding that visitors (relatives, friends, Prime Ministers and Presidents) are overwhelming/upsetting you and you just need some peace, don't be too polite to use the Royal Fuck Off.

ScrambledSmegs Tue 23-Jul-13 13:43:53

<kills thread>
I presume ^^ that piece of advice won't be passed on to HRH?!

ScrambledSmegs Tue 23-Jul-13 14:01:56

Oops, it's being made into a book? Oh dear, sorry.

Small babies and strict routines are unlikely to be a good fit - it takes time to get to know your baby and their sleep patterns. At some point you will probably wake up and realise they've put themselves into a routine and it was actually relatively painless. Stressing over routines in the early days is pointless and detracts from the important stuff, like spending hours sniffing your scrumptious newborn's head.

issimma Tue 23-Jul-13 14:07:49

Breastfeeding essentials: a kindle so you can read one-handed, DVD box sets or a lovefilm subscription, and a hair bobble. Put the hair bobble on your wrist to remind you which side you last fed on (unless HRH is like my little prince and only takes one side).

Formula essentials: the water goes in HOT. Then you can save a few in the fridge for the day ahead.

Things get easier.

mariedavis241 Tue 23-Jul-13 14:10:17

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DontmindifIdo Tue 23-Jul-13 15:01:05

If you are breast feeding, in the first few days put the nipple cream on the breast pads and well as on you. (the lanisoh stuff makes great lip balm as well)

You will feel hungry all the time if you're BFing, try to have protein-y snacks like cold cooked chicken in your fridge for when you need food now , not just grabbing cakes and biscuits. Carrot sticks are also good to have to hand when you just need something to eat.

Make sure you stay hydrated. Drink pints of water/squash.

As you aren't in a small flat, make sure you have lots of available changing areas, so another changing mat, nappies and wipes in your downstairs bathroom(s), saves having to trapse up to the nursery every time you need to change your DS.

Keep the changing bag loaded up with nappies, wipes, nappy sacks, a spare babygrow and a couple of mussies, that way you can just grab it and go rather than faffing about taking an hour to leave the house.

Don't get outfits that are complex to put on a baby who can't sit up, so for the first few months, avoid things that button down the back. Not worth the hassle.

BFing burns off a lot of calories, however when you stop bfing, remember that very day you have to cut your calorie intake - I learned that one the hard way, was back in pre-baby jeans at 5 months, stopped BFing, was a heffer within a month...

Have a thing to do every day. A friend to meet, a baby group to go to, a weighing clinic, a list of things you need to get from the shops etc. You need a reason to get up and out daily. It will stop you going slightly crazy.

smile and nod with health visitors, don't expect any of them to say anything useful.

DontmindifIdo Tue 23-Jul-13 15:39:50

another one!

Clip your DS's nails while he's asleep (far less scary)

Take time to enjoy him. It goes so quickly.

Kafri Tue 23-Jul-13 20:01:48

Listen to peoples advice, nod along, then make your own choice! you know your own baby.

Welcome to life as a mummy, you're gonna love it!x

Dackyduddles Tue 23-Jul-13 20:06:48

Trust yourself.

Ignore every book written as baby will.

Get proper bf help.

Sleep when baby does.

Slow down. Life is now very different. A different pace is required from you too.

If you don't feel well for gawds sake say so. Pnd is silent and sadly can sometimes be a killer.

MorrisZapp Tue 23-Jul-13 20:15:40

If you're not loving it, don't feel bad. Loads of us don't have lovely snuggly happy early months with newborns. In fact, some of us pretty much hate the newborn stage. Plaster a smile on for DHs family but tell your friends and the doctor the truth.

NonnoMum Tue 23-Jul-13 23:12:28

Did I mention that it's brilliant to stare and stare at your baby for hours?

Yup - think I did...


NonnoMum Tue 23-Jul-13 23:15:26

By the way, if you go to Baby Group, and things turn into Competitive Parent mode, just nod sweetly and admire Elsie and her smiling-at-one-week skills, and Tyler and his crawling-at-three-months skills and nod to yourself thinking "Yeah, but my baby's gonna be King, ladies..."
Then pass round the hob nobs.

BettyStogs Tue 23-Jul-13 23:18:38

Ignore people who tell you to 'enjoy every minute'. You won't. And that's ok, as long as you enjoy most of them.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Wed 24-Jul-13 00:10:29

1. Make sure you get alone snuggly time with you, and just you. This may well be more of a problem if you're a princess, as there are probably bucket loads of people who will be mulling around trying to help. It's easy to feel pushed out of things and find yourself yearning for your baby when he's been spirited away by helpfulness. Demand baby back, get into bed, shut door!

2. Alone time with you, baby and HRDH (his royal dear husband!) also crucial. As above plus husband!

3. iPhone is the perfect shape for one handed Internet browsing whilst breast feeding

Enjoy and don't worry too much smile

Zara1984 Wed 24-Jul-13 10:11:06

When he starts teething - like, proper teething, tooth about to come through - paracetemol and ibuprofen suppositories are a lifesaver! They work much much faster than liquid suspensions like Calpol and are easier to administer if baby has sore gums and won't open his mouth for you.

scarecrow22 Wed 24-Jul-13 15:14:46

Babies cry from tiredness more than hunger (certainly after very first few weeks, probably before too). When you are head of state you can make it law that it is a defence in law for eliminating relatives that insist you always feed a crying baby. Especially if that baby has colic and or reflux!

NayFindus Wed 24-Jul-13 17:20:02

Did anyone say about stopping breast feeding? Get the breast flow bottles in at 6 months, show Wills how to make a bottle up - the nanny will help - and go stay at your mothers for a couple of days of pampering or you will be rubbing lemon juice on your nipples when the little blighter's over 2 to get them off.

NonnoMum Wed 24-Jul-13 19:31:24

Don't even THINK about an exercise programme until AT LEAST after your six week check...

BikeRunSki Wed 24-Jul-13 20:41:52

When you run into the inevitable competitive mum, whose 10 month old can play grade 8 violin whilst riding a bike without stabilsers, then state at het very hard and say "Yes, but my son is going to be King".

sickofsocalledexperts Wed 24-Jul-13 20:45:14

Don't make tea for visitors, get them to make it. And don't use nap times to do housework - only sleep! Even a couple of mins of sleep here and there helps.

scarecrow22 Wed 24-Jul-13 22:17:59

When you want to make life easier now, by say singing baby to sleep, pause and think 'am I happy to be doing this in years to come?' If so, carry on. If not, reconsider?

KarlosKKrinkelbeim Wed 24-Jul-13 22:20:15

Now you've had experience of how important good care in childbirth is, don't spend £100K on clothes next year; give it to childbirth charities.

HorseyGirl1 Thu 25-Jul-13 10:36:22

Make sure you tie your hair back when he gets bigger. Those tiny little cutesy hands have a surprisingly strong grip when pulling long hair!

Enjoy every single day, it goes past all too quickly.

Rugbyscrum Fri 26-Jul-13 23:14:41

Don't change George's nappy in any room with carpet on the floor (best to get rid of all carpet now, it's easier in the long run) and NEVER if his bottom is pointing towards your best Sanderson floral curtains.

Talk to him about everything that you're doing, even better make up your own songs for him. And enjoy every moment with him, watching him explore his world, as you will never have such luxury with no.2 !

kim147 Sat 27-Jul-13 09:05:06

You've got a husband. Get him involved as much as possible in everything.

scarecrow22 Sat 27-Jul-13 19:17:44

If baby is hard to wind, sit him on your knee or a cushion, hold him under the arms and circle his upper body, from the waist, in an anti-clockwise direction
Most babies love the leopard/lion hold. You can probably Google it, but roughly baby's head goes in the crook of your arm, facing out, his body tummy down along your forearm, and your hand between his leg. Daddy's bigger forearm is usually better.

Don't feel pressed to adopt one baby book/method or reject them all. Many have lots of wisdom or good ideas to.try, or give you a sense of a good rhythm to your day, and you can pick and mix what works for you. good luck smile

MrsWooster Sat 27-Jul-13 19:23:14

Put him in tights. They look like leggings and when I think of the billions of lost socks from DS compared to the ease of tights with DD I could weep.

MrsWembley Sun 28-Jul-13 18:47:37

Haven't had a chance to RTT, but would like to add (just in case no-one else has) something that has got me through some rough times -

'This too will pass.'

northlundunmum Tue 30-Jul-13 13:20:57

Think of your next three months as the fourth trimester. He may be out in the world but all he really wants to do is be close to you, eat and sleep. Sleep when he does, let him set the rhythm, eat lots of cake, and give hims lots of cuddles.

ringaringarosy Tue 30-Jul-13 13:39:24

my only advice would be....

dont listen to any advice (except that advice)

Flobbadobs Tue 30-Jul-13 13:43:06

Don't read the newspapers or baby magazines. Or trashy ones either. Especially after you've been spotted going anywhere. You will probably get the rage..

scarecrow22 Mon 05-Aug-13 21:31:25

whatever idiotic gossip.columns and trolls say, the vast vast majority of fellow mums know you are doing your best for your child and feel nothing but empathy and admiration. We don't have a public voice to tell you, so read it here smile

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