Long running sticky thread request

(171 Posts)

Hello

I started a thread (randomly) in relationships, because I am hopeful that there is a way for MNers in need to get some RL support from other MNers.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1426504-When-you-need-a-RL-friend?pg=2

Is this something MNHQ could help with or support in any way?

Thanks

AnyFucker Wed 14-Mar-12 12:14:45

I second this

A great idea

garlicbutter Wed 14-Mar-12 12:26:21

Thirded.

RebeccaMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 14-Mar-12 12:32:03

Hi SlightlyJaded

We have seen your thread, would you like us to move it over here for you?

We will keep and eye and see what everyone thinks/wants and then see what we can come up with.

Thank you very much for the suggestion.

Let us know if you would rather the thread lived over here?

Hi Rebecca

Thanks for the quick response.

I don't know where the original thread should live as am not sure where it would be most visible/get the most traffic? Can I ask you to put it wherever you think it will be seen by the most people?

Once you've decided, I might put a link to it in 'chat' if that's ok.

thanks again

Fourthed smile

issimma Wed 14-Mar-12 13:52:58

Great idea.

fuzzpig Wed 14-Mar-12 15:42:55

<adds name>

<needs friends>

AnyFucker Wed 14-Mar-12 16:24:19

bump

Ok am going to link to this in chat and maybe AIBU

<wanders off in search of traffic>

Crawling Wed 14-Mar-12 16:58:12

I think it is good I personally suffer ill mental health and I am isolated as a result my family are not supportive so dont actually know I have alot of ill health and if they see it they kind of ignore and pretend it doesnt exist and most friends dont stick around when I become unwell as they didnt sign up for that. I have no friends and I am scared to talk to anyone new about it because of the stigma so I think its a great idea. I have posted this on the relationship board but I am posting here too.

loopylou6 Wed 14-Mar-12 17:02:48

Yes I'm deffo up for this. Lovely idea smile

AlmaMartyr Wed 14-Mar-12 17:06:45

Lovely idea, definitely supporting it here.

jenfraggle Wed 14-Mar-12 17:07:38

Stick my name down too

blueballoon79 Wed 14-Mar-12 17:08:47

Brilliant idea!

I'm in!

fuzzpig where are you? I'm on iPod and it won't let me get to your profile

MardyBra Wed 14-Mar-12 17:13:34

Yes. Great idea.

whatkungfuthat Wed 14-Mar-12 17:14:42

I'm up for this

TheJiminyConjecture Wed 14-Mar-12 17:14:43

Like it!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 14-Mar-12 17:18:31

Fab idea.

2shoes Wed 14-Mar-12 17:20:07

brilliant idea,

Misssss Wed 14-Mar-12 17:22:19

Amazing idea - please let it go ahead!

SaltResistantSlug Wed 14-Mar-12 17:22:23

Support added!

MichaelaS Wed 14-Mar-12 17:22:57

yes yes yes, i'm up for this and it would be a nice thing to do whilst on maternity leave as i'd have more time for coffees and to be honest would appreciate the company myself.

would need to know rough location (say first half of postcode?) of the MNer looking for a meet up. I can think of 2 ways it might work - firstly the person wanting to meet a RL person could request it and others could offer to meet, or alternatively people willing to meet in RL could offer times / rough locations and people wanting to take them up on it could "accept". suspect the second route is more likely to get people to actually ask for help as that is the most difficult bit of it i think.

Count me in!

Stangirl Wed 14-Mar-12 17:24:45

Please do this MNHQ!

ChaoticAngel Wed 14-Mar-12 17:25:12

Like

oiwheresthecoffee Wed 14-Mar-12 17:26:17

I like this idea. Id do it.

OooohShiny Wed 14-Mar-12 17:28:01

Great idea

TheFeministsWife Wed 14-Mar-12 17:29:28

Yes very good idea! I'd do it.

nameuschangeus Wed 14-Mar-12 17:34:53

Brilliant idea. I'm in.

Seems like a great idea - count me in.

Faverolles Wed 14-Mar-12 17:51:53

Sounds really good. Count me in.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Wed 14-Mar-12 17:56:32

Yup, fab idea, count me in.
East Sussex

AgathaFusty Wed 14-Mar-12 18:09:20

I'm very up for it too.

I'm in!

BibiBlocksberg Wed 14-Mar-12 19:31:18

Late to the party as usual but please add my yes vote to the others for this fabulous idea!

Hebiegebies Wed 14-Mar-12 19:40:55

Yes, get my support

useyourloaf Wed 14-Mar-12 19:57:52

would like it - to get support and to give support. Great idea.

BelleDameSansMerci Wed 14-Mar-12 19:58:42

Brilliant idea.

EmptyBotheredPocket Wed 14-Mar-12 20:00:15

Great idea.

ViviPru Wed 14-Mar-12 20:03:44

Yep I'm in

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 14-Mar-12 20:05:50

I'm in! Stoke on Trent ish.

spendthrift Wed 14-Mar-12 20:07:24

Yes in principle.

I've been a bit concerned recently, however, by the number of times MNrs have spotted trolls where I am obviously v naive and believe what people say.

So somehow there needs to be both caution on the side of the listener and obvious spots from either MNHQ or someone experienced.

Kennyp Wed 14-Mar-12 20:07:39

Lovely idea smile

LineRunner Wed 14-Mar-12 20:07:53

I'll go with whatever works. If I can help someone, I will.

But I would want that to stay private on the main boards, IYSWIM.

Seabright Wed 14-Mar-12 20:09:59

Great idea

I'm in, great idea.

SlightlyJaded, you are a love smile

Osmiornica Wed 14-Mar-12 20:12:43

Nice idea.

CheshireDing Wed 14-Mar-12 20:16:06

add me!

smartiesrule Wed 14-Mar-12 20:17:30

Me too, please

Fantastic idea, count me in.

Hippomaniac Wed 14-Mar-12 20:22:49

Great idea

thank you all - I knew MNers were lovely vipers

Please mention the idea to anyone else on MN you think might support the idea and send them over here.

<knows nobody on MN, is a member of approximately zero quiches and has never even had a PM until today emoticon>

Brilliant idea.
SlightlyJaded what a lovely thought. thanks wine for you

Ultrasonic Wed 14-Mar-12 20:27:18

Yup, lovely idea
Big yes from me too

TheLaminator Wed 14-Mar-12 20:29:30

great idea on so many levels. I feel fairly isolated sometimes, would be happy to help out someone feeling the same.
count me in

Good idea!

I am happy to join in. Count me in Mumsnet.

MissLofPubia Wed 14-Mar-12 20:43:17

I'm in! (Especially if we can somehow involve wine)

whyme2 Wed 14-Mar-12 20:46:13

Hi, just adding my support from the original thread.

travellingwilbury Wed 14-Mar-12 20:51:23

I think it's a lovely idea , and I know this may sound a bit paranoid but I am rubbish at spotting trolls and I have been bitten before , so I think for me anyway it would have to be someone who has been round for a couple of months or so .

Absolutley brilliant idea.

One of my closest friends I met through MN local - we had some meet ups and now chat regulary my phone/ text. (and I NC'd!)

I also chatted to another local MN who was moving to my area (she now has) and our DS' are in the same class at school and we are going to meet up with them during the holidays.

HepHep Wed 14-Mar-12 21:03:41

I think this is a great idea. I'm in. smile

Tee2072 Wed 14-Mar-12 21:05:18

Not to be a naysayer, because it is a brilliant idea, but isn't this why we have MN Local?

Wouldn't it be better to promote those boards (which HQ want to do anyway) than start a thread of MNetters all over the UK? The coordination effort is built right in.

DangerousMouse Wed 14-Mar-12 21:08:20

I'm in

AnyFucker Wed 14-Mar-12 21:17:58

bump

tee - it could end up being a local board thing, but in my experience (my local board for example) boards can be a bit quichey, meets tend to be 'jolly meet ups en masse' with it taking ages to agree a date, and whilst I think the local boards/meets are probably lovely, the emphasis is definitely on 'fun' rather than 'support'.

I think they are currently a bit intimidating for someone who has lost confidence and who is after a low key (initially at least) chat.

Also, I don't think people browse their local boards very much - and you would only ever come across someone in your immediate local area - whereas if the board was more broad (geographically) you might spot someone who is close to you or maybe where you work/have family etc, meaning that you might still be able to arrange something.

I might be wrong, or there might be something MNHQ could add to local boards, but I also think it would be easier to direct people or link to one ongoing thread that served just this purpose.

Obviously if it was popular, then it might have to become regionalised to make it easier to navigate, but in the first instance, I can't help thinking it should be a stand alone thread.

But that's just my view. Happy to be corrected smile

Oh and thanks for adding your name tee!

Tee2072 Wed 14-Mar-12 21:28:48

I'm deffo in and your explanation makes a lot of sense!

ParsleyTheLioness Wed 14-Mar-12 21:32:25

Think I agree with you Jaded.. local board, certainly my local one, do/does not get much traffic, so I tend not to check it very often, and I do not think of it as support offered/needed. Jolly meets seem to be more the thing.
If one is desperate, maybe also it wouldn't enter your 'radar' so would be an opportunity missed.

great idea

IneedAbetterNicknameIn2012 Wed 14-Mar-12 21:38:10

Fab idea smile

MadameMessy Wed 14-Mar-12 21:42:58

great idea, I'm in irelandsmile

iCANdothisiCAN Wed 14-Mar-12 21:46:25

Fab idea, I am very lucky to have some fantastic friend but all are childless and have busy work/social lives.

So whilst I may not seem lonely I don't have any close friends with children and don't know any lone parents at all. So no one at all to talk to who remotely understands.

MN has been the only thing that has kept me sane so being able to thank someone in person and also maybe help another in my shoes would be lovely.

fluffywhitekittens Wed 14-Mar-12 21:53:06

Yes, seems like a lovely idea smile

oreocrumbs Wed 14-Mar-12 22:00:30

What a lovely idea, count me in smile

What a wonderful idea, yes yes yes!

thanks for you OP, you're a sweetheart.

skullandcrossbones Wed 14-Mar-12 22:19:36

Great idea. I think there's a lot of 'stuff' around for young mums and kids, but once you're older with teenagers or even those who've left home, there's not much out there at all sad

TheThinksYouCanThink Wed 14-Mar-12 23:35:58

Fab idea! Add my name too!

LittlePebble Thu 15-Mar-12 05:52:09

Count me in!

destinyorfate Thu 15-Mar-12 06:08:36

You can count me in also smile

Whobuilt Thu 15-Mar-12 07:28:02

Add my name too please smile

UhOhJo Thu 15-Mar-12 07:29:04

This is a great idea, hope it happens. MN meet-ups are nice obviously, but sometimes a bit overpowering. There are a lot of lonely mums out there who would prefer a one to one with another mum who might listen. If this was called Mumsnet Connect or something neutral like that it would be best, and safety concerns are just common sense meet somewhere public etc.

I really hope this gets off the ground, well done to SlightlyJaded for suggesting it.

Startingagain88 Thu 15-Mar-12 09:03:56

I'm definitely in ! smilesmilesmile

Iheartpasties Thu 15-Mar-12 09:34:19

This sounds good.

Haberdashery Thu 15-Mar-12 09:39:37

I think this is a great idea and would help.

A thought: how about a sticky thread in each MN local, possibly called 'The Friendship Bench' or similar for people to post on if they need RL support. It would be specifically for that, not for organising meet ups or cinema trips or whatever. Or it could just have a link to the main thread and be locked for actual posting? Then people who are looking in their local sites in the hope of possibly meeting friends might see it.

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 15-Mar-12 10:34:43

Great idea, I'm in.

MightyNice Thu 15-Mar-12 10:47:28

love this idea (am in anagram form of usual self, mitchyinge)

HoudiniHissy Thu 15-Mar-12 11:00:50

WOW! Look at this support! Proves everything I always thought about my favourite parenting forum.

MWAH!

COUNT ME IN!!!!!

Silverthorns Thu 15-Mar-12 11:02:30

I'm in.

Fishandjam Thu 15-Mar-12 11:05:01

I support this too!

Hullygully Thu 15-Mar-12 11:11:06

yars

Ilovemypinkflowerywellies Thu 15-Mar-12 11:21:31

Great idea .. Kent

PeppermintPasty Thu 15-Mar-12 11:42:19

I'm in.

amillionyears Thu 15-Mar-12 12:08:16

Im in.

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 15-Mar-12 12:28:41

Thanks for this suggestion. It sounds lovely. We will def pass it on to the Powers That Be.

Thanks Helen smile

springaroundthecorner Thu 15-Mar-12 15:59:46

Great idea.

AnyFucker Thu 15-Mar-12 18:32:25

thanks HelenMN

Greenshadow Thu 15-Mar-12 22:35:11

Another supporter here.

Me too

MistyMountainHop Fri 16-Mar-12 08:38:42

just adding my support to this

BupcakesandCunting Fri 16-Mar-12 08:53:30

What a lovely, lovely idea Jaded. This is why I love MN. I would be happy to help. smile

BIWI Fri 16-Mar-12 08:54:53

Helen - I thought you were the Power!

Dawndonna Fri 16-Mar-12 08:57:25

Count me in.

beachyhead Fri 16-Mar-12 09:01:42

Good idea about the MN Local Friendship Bench. To advertise it, you could have a GO LOCAL day once a month where you 'check in' to your local MN site to visit the friendship bench to see if anyone is sitting there...... So the GO LOCAL could be a thread just giving everyone a nudge to remember their local area....

I'm in...

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 09:05:43

Didn't see this thread, have just posted in the other thread re why I don't think this is a good idea. While the vast majority of MNetters would be doing this for the right reasons, there is still a risk that a vulnerable person could be befriended by someone for the wrong reasons, could be given duff advice and could end up trying to extricate themselves from a friendship/situation and be under more stress. similarly the befriended could end up totally out if their depth.

Befriending organizations have extensive training, policies and guidelines for a reason.

MNHQ need to really think about this and maybe speak to some befriending organizations before proceeding.

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 09:09:02

Sorry that should say the befriender could end up out of their depth dealing with complex emotions, situations or mental health issues they are totally unqualified or unable to deal with.

ThePinkPussycat Fri 16-Mar-12 09:09:26

Yes, think this is a good idea. There may be unforeseen downsides but we can all think this through together.

danablue Fri 16-Mar-12 09:24:01

I think this is a lovely idea, you can count me in too. Having someone to talk to is the best therapy ever.

fiventhree Fri 16-Mar-12 09:35:40

Im in.

Pinot Fri 16-Mar-12 09:49:30

I love this idea.
Lovely, lovely, lovely.

madhairday Fri 16-Mar-12 09:53:48

Oh yes great idea, I'm in too smile

MichaelaS Fri 16-Mar-12 10:18:51

good point Wipsglitter - perhaps there could be some readily available backup from "real" befriending organisations should a MNer feel she is out of her depth? clicky links and all that?

I'm in. Am shite at small talk though but really good at coffee and cake smile

lesterlassone Fri 16-Mar-12 10:31:46

Coming over from original thread and yes, count me in too. Hopefully my "maturity" (well in years, if nothing else!) would be useful?

Wips I think you have a point and I am sure that if MN do give us a thread/board, they will do so with consideration, but I also think that on balance, this will potentially benefit so many people.

The type of troll/person who is likely to want to meet people for the wrong reasons is far more likely to use dating/matchmaking sites where people are going in with rose tinted glasses, I think. I honestly believe the risk is small and far outweighed by potential good

Also, anyone on MN can currently offer to meet someone who seems lonely for a coffee - that isn't a new thing - it's just the idea of a more specific place within MN for people to post.

bumpsnowjustplump Fri 16-Mar-12 11:05:49

I think this is a great idea and would definatly be interested in this.

janx Fri 16-Mar-12 11:18:20

just adding my support - lovely idea

garlicbutter Fri 16-Mar-12 13:13:58

I've been thinking about the points in your 10:48 post, too, Slightly. It would be bonkers to act on advice from one internet poster. But your point, I think, was that when we're friendless we are in the worst possible position to find a friend.

In my (frequent) down times, I consider myself such a drag that I assume nobody would want to spend time with me. It's probably not true, mind you! Consequently, I wouldn't offer to go meet somebody or ask anyone who hadn't offered. A coffee-cake thread, where everybody understands this, could be a godsend to people stuck in that self-doubting double bind. The awkward bit's already out of the way smile

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 13:42:45

I agree that trolls looking to meet someone may not use this; but even the most well intentioned mumsnetter could be giving someone in a one-to-one situation totally duff advice/support. As the poster above said when you are down its the worst time to find a frien, but it van also make you vulnerable and easily manipulated. Or may find themselves drawn into a complex situation that becomes very difficult to extract

Like I said I think if the local boards were better used/rethought then that would be a better starting point.

garlicbutter Fri 16-Mar-12 13:52:35

ah, but Wips, if weird shit started to happen they would POST ON MUMSNET about it, wouldn't they? A thousand finely-tuned twat radars at your service!

No one of us is in a vacuum.

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 14:17:41

I'm sorry, I don't understand what you mean?

Wips, I don't think anyone would be expecting professional advice - thousands of people on MN offer advice all day long, we all know that (most of) it is not 'expert' advice.

The thing that has struck me, and the immediate concern I have, is that there are people who are so entrenched in their situation that they can't see the wood for the trees. They have literally nobody other than their partner (if they have one).

If you are feeling at rock bottom with nobody to talk to, the thought of foisting yourself on some jolly, unsuspecting MN group meet up (for example) is just overwhelming. For me, this was about a place where you could see if anyone in your area was up for a low key coffee/chat/walk in the park whatever, where you may or may not discuss your issues. That might be the last thing you want to do. I am sure that there are people who would just love someone to chat to in a general way to help them get their focus readjusted IYSWIM

The main benefit of doing it this way is that there would be no expectation or onus on the OP to be jolly, chatty, entertaining etc as there so often is when we meet new people - although this may evolve, which would be lovely.

People look for sexual/relationship partners on line all day long. A cup of coffee in a high street Starbucks with MNer is surely a safer bet?

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 14:45:10

Not neceassarily. You "know" a handful of posters on here, you only "know" what they tell you about themselves which may or may not be true. You simply cannot generalize and say " they post on mumsnet they must be nice" or safe to meet.

Say I post asking for advice and someone local agrees to meet, I then spill my guts to them as I am at rick bottom and totally alone. The next day I see them in my Childs playground. We turn out to gave kids at the same school. I am not totally reliant on thus person to keep what I have told them confidential, and may feel worse that I've ended up in that situation.

Or I see avpidt from someone in trouble, agree to meet them. Give then my mobile number to arrange to meet. When we meet untapped what they posted was the tip of the iceberg, they appear to havenmentsl health problems, they ask me for money, only £5 - what do I do?

Like I said, befriending organizations and listening organizations have training, policies and guidelines to protect everyone involved. I don't want to rain on your parade,but just because someone posts on an anonymous Internet forum it does not make them qualified to help. It would be great if we could trust people but it only needs to go wrong once for people to get hurt and mumsnets reputation to be damaged.

garlicbutter Fri 16-Mar-12 16:17:18

I'm failing to understand why this is a big issue to you, Wips.

If it works out wrong, it works out wrong. But we won't know just how right it may be, if we don't try, will we?

Was "twat radar" the part of my post you didn't understand? If so, that would suggest you don't spend much time in Relationships - which would also explain why you didn't understand my faith in the supportive nerve centre that is Mumsnet smile

Wips - we take that risk every time we friend someone new. However we've met them.

If we spent our lives worrying about how we were going to extract ourselves from friendships before we'd even established them, we'd all be very lonely.

I understand your concerns but I don't agree with them, sorry

I do think this is a good idea but I have one particular concern. The rules of internet dating are let someone know where you're going etc, but the point of this is that people who have no one else can use it...

WipsGlitter Fri 16-Mar-12 16:34:37

Fair enough. It's not a big issue, I'm trying to give some perspective and point out - helpfully I thought - some areas that would have to be considered before it went ahead. This is an open discussion forum, right?

But it's the semi aggressive tone of garlicbutter that makes me back off. If you can't see why this might a bad idea and even acknowledge the potential for it to go wrong then that's pretty narrow
minded... And you're hoping to befriend people and be supportive, but the minute your advice is questioned you get shirty?!?!!!

And we do take these risks when we make friends, but from what you are describing there is an inbuilt unbalance in the relationship from the start.

I dont really look at the relationships bit; again too much of peoples own bias come into what they are saying and too much "leave the bastard".

Stealth there could be a board (visible only to MNHQ) where you post your meeting arrangements? And yes, should probably meet in a public place for the first few times.

But more than this - people on MN arrange to meet already - this isn't a new thing, so people are already taking those 'risks' now. I am just suggesting a place to go and register your interest when you need a friendly ear.

But that doesn't help really. If I tell DH I'm off into town to meet X at Starbuck's he'll call/come and look for me if I don't come back within a reasonable time. He'll call the hospitals and my parents. MNHQ are unliekly to do that. And I agree MNers meet up all the time, I just think this will attract a certain type of person.
That said, I think there's a temptation to only see the risks in such a suggestion. I would guess the risks are still tiny, and it's worthwhile.

thegreylady Fri 16-Mar-12 17:27:07

I would love to add my name.
What a wonderful idea.

MichaelaS Fri 16-Mar-12 17:45:53

could any of the concerns be addressed if the meeting was between 3 MNers rather than 2? that would give backup to the "befriender" incase it got too deep, and some extra protection to the "befriended" incase the befriender was an axe murderer lookign for a victim who wouldn't be noticed missing....

baskingseals Fri 16-Mar-12 17:56:30

I think this is an execellent idea.

most people are good eggs - don't let the few who have their own agenda stop something as positive as this.

I would definitely like to add my support.

Lovely idea smile. Well done you!

flippinada Fri 16-Mar-12 18:45:44

What a great idea. Please add my name.

CelstialNavigation Fri 16-Mar-12 22:17:41

Sounds like it could be v useful

Angelico Sat 17-Mar-12 00:16:30

Great idea!

AnyFucker Sat 17-Mar-12 12:37:11

bump (before it disappears off my Threads I'm On)

Great idea! Count me in smile

Doha Sun 18-Mar-12 22:31:07

me tooooo

jinsei Sun 18-Mar-12 22:32:29

I think this is a great idea.

LordLurkin Mon 19-Mar-12 00:46:35

Bloody fantastic idea. So many different perspectives already on MN, and so much support.

All in all I think this could work

Any thoughts yet HelenMumsnet?

<hopeful face>

garlicbutter Sat 24-Mar-12 16:37:51

bump

bump

Bump

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 28-Mar-12 22:54:13

Hello. Sorry, didn't mean to look like we were ignoring you.

We are definitely discussing this and how it might work. But, given the amount of other Shiney New Bits (and Rebuffing of Creaky Old Bits) we're currently working on, it may take us a fair old while to sort it all out.

Please bear with us. Promise we won't forget...

AnyFucker Wed 28-Mar-12 23:06:36

smile

BIWI Thu 29-Mar-12 08:19:15

While you're at it, Helen, do you think you could Rebuff my Creaky Old Bits?

Helen, thanks for the update.

I know you have loads of cake to eat important stuff to get through, so understand it can't be instant.

If you decide, for whatever reason, that this isn't something you can do now, please let me know and I'll do my best to maintain a running thread for the time being.

Thanks again smile

I've been on a thread tonight where at least three women could do with a bit of r/l cake and hand-holding, I reckon. That's why I came over here to check out progress. Nice to know you're up for keeping the thread going until hq have buffed, polished and generally fly-ladied the forum SlightlyJaded.

I'm in the North East btw x

comewwhinewithme Tue 03-Apr-12 07:50:46

I really need a friend even just a telephone one sad.

Hi comewwhine where abouts are you? I'm Winchester way. Even if your not close feel free to pm me

comewwhinewithme Tue 03-Apr-12 08:05:09

I'm in sheffield. Thankyou

Jinsei Tue 03-Apr-12 08:07:16

Comewwhine, I am about an hour from Sheffield by train, maybe less. I could use a friend too. PM me if you like.

comewwhinewithme Tue 03-Apr-12 08:15:34

I'm not sure how to pm on the phone I can't see the link.
I know I can get pms and reply so if you could send me one I will reply smile.
Thankyou x

Jinsei Tue 03-Apr-12 08:52:35

Have PM'd you. smile

mrspink27 Tue 03-Apr-12 09:00:00

Count me in to. I am in Mid Sussex.

You see HelenMumsnet, lots of people would really benefit <winning smile>

And whilst we wait for the powers that be to finish their cake decide whether this is something that MN can endorse/support, can you suggest where the best place for me to place a temporary 'Friendship Bench' might be?

I wondered about OTBT but not sure if that will be found by those who really need it?

ParsleyTheLioness Sun 15-Apr-12 06:14:52

Hi! Seems like MN are dragging their feet over a decision on the Friendship thing, or have they said something yet? <nosey emoticon>

Bump.

Any thoughts yet MN?

And if not, any suggestions for where I can start a 'DIY' version?

Thanks

SlightlySeethrough Sun 28-Oct-12 23:36:13

Bump

I am bumping this as we now have our shiny new Local boards including friendship benches

Thank you MNHQ

I think I have PM'd everyone on this thread now, but just in case I missed anyone, I just wanted to ask that if you supported the idea, can you go and 'sit' on your bench so that we can begin to direct people to somewhere of real value. And please do tell other posters about it and hopefully we can start to build them into genuine offers of RL support/friendship/--wine--/coffee

Thank you all again for supporting the idea
Gin all round x

SlightlySeethrough Sun 28-Oct-12 23:42:12

Oh poo

MNHQ I have just nagged everyone to go and sit on their bench, but when I went to check my local area (sat on my bench days ago) my 'listing' had gone and I can't seem to add a new one confused

help!

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 29-Oct-12 11:55:09

Oh dear. We'll flag that one up to Emma, who's in charge of Local. Thanks for letting us know.

SlightlySeethrough Mon 29-Oct-12 11:59:23

Thanks Helen

oreocrumbs Mon 29-Oct-12 19:18:38

I can't even get on my bench sad.

Have been onto local, got a shiney new local name and when I click add listing nothing happens.

Have tried it a few times. I'm hoping MNHQ can check my local (Durham), or point me in the right direction if I'm being a bit dim!

SlightlySeethrough Tue 30-Oct-12 10:42:00

same oreo it's a PITA

oreocrumbs Tue 30-Oct-12 11:35:01

I reported my post and they said they are looking into it, so I guess we just have to be patient!

UPDATE

The Friendship Benches are now apparently working. I have managed to post on mine. Thank you again MNHQ

But mostly, thank you, thank you to all the lovely MNers who posted in this and relationship thread and responded to my endless PM's about it. I know loads of you couldn't post when I first nagged asked you, but if you wouldn't mind trying again.... Pretty please.

Just one person getting RL help could change a life. It really could

Thanks muchly

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